Why some couples are cheating their husband/wife during their marrage? I know one thing the all you need is, your partner have it I do not get it

Can you explain what your saying?
Really don't understand.

I'm not a big fan of cheaters.

He doesn't understand why people cheat.


Only cheaters understand that.

oldsage..thanks..I could not understand either.

Is it a general question? Why do males or females feel they have to cheat...what makes them cheat???

because they are not stisfied sexually in the relationship, or they are not getting enough attention

I think cheaters suck. It's been done to me... I'd NEVER do it to someone else. See... if you're not happy with the one you've got, at least LEAVE before you get someone else involved. It's worse when the other person involved in the affair knows you exist and still continues on with it. I think it is by far the worst thing a human being can do to another in a relationship.

Marriage is living "for" someone else. Cheating is living for yourself. -

nuejins...excellently stated....

think some are just thrill seekers too....just seeing what they can get by with without consequences...

very sad...very bad

You can't be happy in a marriage living FOR someone else. You live WITH them... COEXISTING... Marriage is about 2 people standing as one... not one living FOR the other...

ya thier going to get something alright and
they ant going to be able to get RID of it..lol

I could never lead someone on like that, in dating or in a few years marriage. If I'm going to dump you I'll tell ya, and that is rare enough. I wish I could tell you why people cheat, my grandpa used to love a song Whats Forever For? "Maybe it's me who's gone crazy But I can't understand why all these lovers keep hurting each other when good love is so hard to come by"

Just found out my wife of 23 years was having an affair with some guy she met on myspace. For the past year, little signs were occuring, but I never had proof till I found her diary. We raised our son and he is now 18 years old. When I confronted her with the diary, I said I would forgive her if she stopped seeing the guy. I agree that after so many years together, things weren't the same as early in our relationship. She was approaching 50 years old. Appearence was always important to her, and she is a very beautiful girl. I would always tell her so, but I think she wanted to hear it from others. She also says she wants to try living on her own. When we first met, she was very shy and not confident. What I couln't understand ,if she really that way, why did she have to do it behind my back. I believe if I hadn't found her diary I would have been better off, but at the same time, I'm glad I know the truth. The worst part is my son is the innocent victim. So to all you out there consider dating and having sex with married people or people in serious relationships, remember all the pain my family has to bare forever due to a cheating spouse!

I have been md twice, and both times was cheated on. First wife had a very wealthy b/f. Second wanted to be a teenager again, compete with her dau, I think. In either case, I carry a part of the blame. Most ppl do not cheat for sex, but because some requirement is not being fulfilled. sometimes it is attention, sometimes it is boredom, sometimes a feeling of needing to be independent, a myriad of reasons. In any case, I have never cheated, and never would....too painful for me to inflict upon another being.

Cornman Sorry to hear that. My kids are also the victims of such behavior... but they are only 7 and 4... people don't think of the aftershocks all of the time. It's unfortunate when the innocent are the ones who suffer greatest.

You misunderstood. When "both" live that way it is a true 'marriage.

Agreed, Nue...

Unfortunately... the one I was in wasn't a 2 way street.


My relationship now is... and there is SUCH a difference.

What is cheating?

Who is cheating who?

Is this an online scenario?

Or a real living in the flesh, and the moment scenario?


Cheating? Bah!

People can't help who they fall in love with. There is no set in stone, forever and ever, amen, with love.

No expectations.... no disappointments.


Even in a true 'binding' of two people..... life happens. There is no predictable ending, no matter what Hollywood wants us to think there is.

i do not understand cheating either
if something is missing communicate it to your partner
or break up

Then I propose you don't know what love is. What you descibe is mere infatuation and emotion. The feeling of being loved and acceptig it is different than the action of love.

Living in the moment just numbs you until you don't even know who you are lacking a firm purpose.