I freaking hate dating. So considering going back to ex...

Anyone ever consider getting back with ex for various reasons? What is your thought process on the matter?

What was the reason for the relationship to end?

She was mean and didn't understand a lot of basic etiquette of life. For example don't criticize someoe's lifesyle when you are staying with them for free. Then get mad when they kick you out.

i would love to get back with my ex. she's my soulmate. she is marrying someone else. Looks like i will have to write another one of those depressing songs.

I think if u love her go tell what she means to you

that is lazy
that all buttons you pushed and she pushed are still there
if it did not work out before why would it now
that it is settling

Hummm if your considering it for the wrong reason which is sounds like you are then hell no I would not go back with one..

Thought about it once after I was around them for a week decided it just was not going to work and moved on...

Sometimes it works sometimes it don't, it just depends..

But to go back cause you are lonely or don't want to adapt to the dating world..

Guess if you like to settle for things in life then go back~~~

Ex's are ex's for a reason. No I'd never go back.

going back to ex's is like wearing your dirty same clothes after a nice shower

it would really depend upon why you drifted apart.

IN the case of betrayal and lost trust, its a very large obstacle to overcome when 'going back'.

IN the case of 'growing apart' or being in different places in life, those things can end up lining up again and working out.

In my case, anything I considered a relationship did not end unless there was good reason, so I would not go back. Yet, a few people that I 'dated' but never became a full on relationship, I would date again.

dont do it. if it didn't worj first time around it wont the next

If you truly miss her and are misserable than i say go ahead. Life is too short.

Best explanation I have ever heard :-)

Like playing around.
You don't go out for a burger when you have steak at home!

So you're so desperate that you'd rather be unhappy with a woman who isn't a good match than make the effort to learn to be(come) happy on your own and eventually find a good match?
Wow...

I'd never go back to my ex. When I break up with someone I've gone through every possible option to make it work, and obviously none of them did. For me there is no way back once I've made the decision to break up. I don't do friends with exes either. They're either in my life as my partner or they're completely out of my life. Black & white, no 50 Shades of Grey. Over is over.

Terminate! I spend a lot of time loving on myself. But the whole world would be a whole lot better if we would all love on each other. Just aks Katti Perry.

Going back to an ex only works if both sides actively learn from their mistakes.

That means opening one's mind, recognizing when you're wrong or being unfairly dismissive, but most of all, not falling into the trap of 'being right'....i.e. continuing and forcing an issue just to soothe your own ego by 'proving' you are right. Part of life is accepting that everybody sometimes learns best by being allowed to make their own mistakes.

Arguably the worst mistake one person can make is forcing another person to change. Most often, the harder you push, the greater resistance the other person will have. Eventually it becomes suffocating. A couple cannot thrive **together** if one side is being smothered and stifled. They have to meet in the middle somewhere. That can't happen if at least one side is so rigid that they'd break if they so much as even thought about bending. Sadly, inability to communicate effectively is most often at the heart of the problem. And yes, there are plenty of angles from which that itself could be interpreted. Which of those angles hold true depends upon the specific people involved.

When it comes right down to it, people only change because they themselves want to change. Not because somebody else wants them to.

[And if I go any further, I won't do the sentiment justice. Emotions aren't really quantifiable or rational. It's very tough to rationalize loving someone so much that one is willing to change on his or her own and without another person pressuring them to do so.]

I had not considered this. People do continue to grow and change. We are even slightly different today than we were yesterday, let alone months or years ago. So, it could be that an honest 'fresh start' with an old flame could end in the discovery that you are both a better match now than you were before, when you were not EXACTLY the same people.

Depends on the break up! Yes I have dated a ex manfriend again.

I'm way too egotistical to get back with an ex. Especially not one who only came back to me because they "didn't like dating."