What is it that you truly look for when it comes to finding the guy you'll spend the rest of your life with? Honest answers please...

1,look and hight.
2,Education and profession ;
3,Personality and interests& values.
On the condition that he earns my love by his integrity. (hmm...it sounds particular and has never been evolved after thousands years.)

Will keep a close eye on this topic to see if I tick any boxes.

Pen and paper at the ready

the simple answer, for me, is friendship

all the things that make for a lifetime and loyal friendship, which include

1. Being a christian
2. Having the ability to communicate with honesty and compassion
3. Having the ability to listen
4. Having an admirable character(integrity, humility, compassion, strength)
5. Having the balance to be grateful for the blessings in life and conscious of the obstacles and injustices , without being bitter, angry, or negative
6. Having a great healthy smile and a light in their eyes
7. Having some attention to their health(not a health nut but pays attention to keeping their body basically fit and clean)


interest in music and movies and
having single parent experience and broad shoulders wouldn't hurt,,lol

Honestly -> not sure ... I could wright a lot of things down ...
but really until I meet him ...
I then will only know... the answer to your ?

HOWEVER...a very wise woman once said to me that there is a difference between what you're LOOKING for and what you'll SETTLE for. Yes, this is basic, but is also realistic. And it may change with age and maturity.

I doubt she was very wise... A wise woman, weathered through life, knows she won't settle anymore. That's what she did in the past and why relationships didn't work out. A wise woman knows what she wants and needs in life and that's what she goes for, and nothing less. Settling is not on the agenda anymore. A woman who does is not wise, more desperate to not be alone.

Allow me to jump into my own question. My view is in no way condescending to anyone's answers. For me, above all else, I want personality. Anything to do with physical attraction is dead last on what I look for. Maturity is a big factor for me but honestly, a woman with a great personality can steal my heart in an instant.

I agree with Crystal

Someone had said to me... "but at the end of the day, don't you just want a warm body beside you in bed?" hahahahahaha hahahahahahaha No!

Gainfully employed and good judgment, clean cut.

Geezzz... you gotta be real desperate if that is going to please you.

And I do agree with you, CrystalFairy and mzrosie. The only problem for people who continue to hold out for what they want and need in another person is the ticking clock of our lifetime. Of course we can hold out but it may be a gamble of our time left vs. having a relationship that is satisfying but not 100% of what we want. It's our choice.

Girls just want a guy that will make their other girlfriends jealous. That is all.

Time? I guess it can be a factor, but if you let that play a large role, it'll trip you up... I decided a while back that I'd rather spend my life on my own than settling for less, because I want to be happy.
I want my time to be quality time, and if I settle it won't be. On my own I can make it quality time. A helluva lot trickier when With someone who isn't really a match.
I think that is the best approach, to be willing to stay single if you can't find the right one. At least you won't get disappointed and if you do find love, it's going to be fulfilling. Plus, it takes a lot of pressure of and when you're relaxed it's far easier to find love.

Wow, popcorn.

.. sometimes in life you can get so obsessed !!with looking for Prince Charming on the White Horse that you overlook Prince Charming riding a donkey...just saying....lol

So an *** on an *** is viable?

Personally, I think that the ability to drop what is NOT WORKING and moving on to what IS WORKING matters most.

It let's you know when to say Time up

that's an excellent anwer crystalfairy