Pink Clouds have dissipated... next phase kicks in; the things you used to find adorable now become increasingly annoying. Or things you overlooked because you were so in love. Now you do see them. And they begin to irritate the crap out of you.

How do you deal with these things? The way you used to in the past with your ex(es), which likely didn't work out?
Will you handle it differently? How?

A few examples;
leaves the toilet seat up...
Laundry everywhere but in the basket
Taking forever to get ready for an evening out
smelling feet
Not cleaning up behind themselves
Toothpaste blobs in the basin
Different hygiene routine (brushing teeth, showering, clean clothes etc)
whatever ...

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I sure can get a blue eye 4 what I will say, but I will say it anyway

When you were in love it didn't matter just because you overlooked

Quote:..Or things you overlooked because you were so in love..Unquote.
Remedy..Go back to the first phase of being in love.
PROBLEM SOLVED

Remember...WHEN THE HONEYMOON IS OVER, THE HARDEST PART IS TO STAY IN LOVE .


Quote:..How do you deal with these things? The way you used to in the past with your ex(es), which likely didn't work out?..Unquote :

Remedy..LET GO OF ,..The modern females desire/s to take over & control
everything & everyone in a relationship..Sure men can read a street directory and take directions
Of-course, not all can


Quote :..Will you handle it differently? How?..Unquote.

Remedy...Try to FORGIVE & FORGET and see with a man's eye and think like a man just 4 ten minutes
Only a strong woman can do that....Are you strong ? Or just a woman ??
LOL...

Depends on the person. Depends on the situation. Depends on the relationship.


The way I used to in the past might not have worked with the ex's because of their personality type and type/level of communication I had with them.

Past returns are no guarantee for future gains or failure.


Maybe.


I don't know.


Is the person I'm past the pink clouds with a fan of Mythbusters and we've watched it together, including the episode where they test the spread of fecal matter every time the toilet flushes?
Do we have a home where I can keep my towels and toothbrush in a sealed cabinet?

Are they not closing the lid because they have some back pain due to sleeping on my mattress and can't really bend over very far if they've been sitting or laying for a while, so it's either slam it in the middle of the night when I'm sleeping or just leaving it up?


Smelling feet comes from bacteria, mostly from wearing the same shoes every day, for long periods of time.
Are we/they too poor to buy more than 1 pair of shoes, to wear different shoes every day or couple of days?
Are they not properly washing their socks, or wearing appropriate socks for the season?
Are they not smart enough to know why their feet smell? Too oblivious to know that they do? Too lazy to do something about it?

Could it be a medical condition? Or poor hygiene? Too engrossed in their career/job, spending all day on their feet, or standing in water?

Also:

If they're doing all of that, then most likely I'd break up with them.
Seems slovenly, possible poor hygiene, with some high level vanity from social insecurity.

I mean, don't seem to care about their home, but spends "forever" to get ready, to present an image to other people?
That's basically "I know I'm a mess, but I don't want to take responsibility for it. I want to keep the status quo, but I want to control how people see me, and it's not the real me."

I could handle a "neat freak" that takes forever to get ready for an evening out, that's a consistent personality.
I can't be with a slob that takes forever to get ready for an evening out, that just leads to inconsistency and poor communication.

And that doesn't even address the potential issue of simply not being educated or curious enough in life to figure out what is causing things like smelly feet, or smells from old dishes not being cleaned, or why their clothes wear out so quickly, or why the seat is always clogged, or why they always get folliculitis after they shave.

Thank you for the feedback. I hope you aren't directing this at me, thinking I need advice. I only started a fresh topic that could lead to interesting conversation and insights.
I'm not in need of advice, me and him are doing just fine
But since all that is happening here is ancient topics being dragged up from the dungeons, I felt like throwing in something new for people to sink their teeth in.
And of course I find it interesting, otherwise I wouldn't have asked

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Quote:..I hope you aren't directing this at me, thinking I need advice...Unquote:

Not at all Crystal ...I am sure you wouldn't stay not one minute
with such a man , not even to talk with for 4 minutes

It was a cave-men's feedback, FUN only INTENT in GENERAL OVERLOOK ...LOL

When general, I think I agree with you. Important to keep going back to how you first felt with, around, and for the other person.
And probably also a matter of -in spite of being in love- trying to not think "Oh, that'll change." because usually they won't. I think esp women are good at that, thinking and believing it (habit) or he will change.

I guess because of that also good to not move ahead too fast?
And yes, always keep dating each other.
Kind of reminds me of what Abraham Hicks says (NOT verbatim): you meet one another, and everything is great. Sparks fly, planet move out of orbit, you fly high, a match made in heaven, something that could last ten lifetimes.
(THis is verbatim) Then you ask: "Tell me about yourself!"

Kind of what you're saying as well I think? That when you start 'nit picking', paying too much attention to detail, you lose that feeling, that special connection.

Hahaha, I'm flattered you think so highly of me. But I doubt I could figure out within 4 minutes what about a guy would irritate the crap out of me in the future. I know I'm good, lol, but not that good, hihi.

So far I haven't butted heads yet with him. If that was to happen, it's going to be epic for sure, hihi. Taurus and Leo in each other's hair will be a show worth watching, lol. (No, there won't be tickets for sale, no audience wanted!)
And he gets a huge amount of bonus points anyways for not peeing all over the bog. I effing hate that to the point of it being a deal-breaker.

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Oh NO...I don't need a ticket to the show.
I prefer to believe the show never exists or will ever be.
Not now or ever in the future. ..lol

As to figure a man it takes just a look at him and you
( As a female ), would now, if he is clean mannered, educated or wort attention

You are okay I know ..I FEEL IT

..hmmm.. sounds like the honeymoon is over...lol

This is a fantastic subject. Fantastic because it deals with understanding yourself and your impact on others. That understanding builds wisdom.

For me, the biggest change was me deciding not to tolerate annoyances.
It certainly affects my success rate but is crucial for the selection process.

Communication is the important thing.
As soon as something annoys me, I say something about it.
I say it in a way as to not offend her but to assure her that it is important to our relationship continuity.
I always offer to listen to her complaints as well.

Understanding acceptance is something I continue to work on. I figure that acceptance is a fickle ideal. If you say you can accept an annoyance then it is vital to actually do so. Not only for continuity in the relationship but as an honesty to yourself. Always, to thine own self be true.

I have also found that some annoyances are fleeting. It depends upon your current mood. People that have stable moods are less annoyed than those who have no such control. Being emotionally stable helps control those exaggerated mood swings. Carrying an annoyance increases stress levels.

Get a bucket of rocks. Every time he does something that pees ya off throw one at him. Things will eventually work out.