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in future and present relationships when is the right time to be the one to make the first move? Normally when she has a hold of my hand and says to me ever so sweetly...."I am the only girl for you right? RIGHT????????" |
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I hope you find the right girl for you, Goof.
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there is no definite right time then? not even a hint when you have to be the first to say hello? not even a clue when you have to put your own guard down? no sign when you have to be the first one to say you care or vice versa? What do you mean by "first move"? If it's to make first contact, it's quite simple: Woman has to give the guy a sign that she's interested first. This was true in the "Scarlet O'Hara" day (Gone with the Wind) and still is valid today. You have to let a guy know you are interested in him so he knows the chances of making a fool out of himself are very slim. Yes, male egos are far more fragile than females, believe it or not. So if you see a guy you like and he happens to look at you, even if it's briefly, smile at him. Guys are thick, and will think you are smiling at someone else, so you'll have to do it again. Keep the eye-contact and smile. Hold that eye-contact for preferably 10 seconds, which feels like eternity. But if you do that, the guy will know you are smiling at him and not the bloke behind him. If he doesn't look at you and you like him, you can say hello. Or ask a question, for instance, "I don't know what coffee/cake is good here. Can you help me out?" Best not do that when you are with friends, because then the risk for him is too high. If you happen to not like him, he'll feel like an idiot in front of you and all your friends. And one of your friends could even make a nasty comment, making him feel even worse. So best to do this sort of thing on your own or after you walked away from your friends. Remember: only 10% of men are confident enough to just walk up to a girl and see if she's interested, regardless of her giving a sign or being with her friends. Only 10%.... The rest won't, so you'll have to help them along a wee bit. Smile or say hi and then let him be a man and do the rest of the work. Crystal I love this, thanks! And I didn't realize that about only 10% of men being confident enough to approach you. Sure makes me feel a whole lot better than I did when I figured they just weren't interested. |
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everyone forgets that, it doesnt matter who makes the first move, as long as you are true to yourself/heart, nothing else matters.
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thank you all for the tips. for me it has always been a real test of confidence and courage to initiate anything with anyone may it be hello or goodbye. in the end the heart wins and make me do what i finally do. after its all over and done with it the mind tells my heart : you are out of your mind!!! lol
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It depends on when you are able to discover the sign of acceptance from her, or seeing a rising opportunity to connect and express you intention whether a sign is given or not (this depends on the bold once who like to create chances)
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another question would be if girls initiate contact would guys think less of them?
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another question would be if girls initiate contact would guys think less of them? 
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another question would be if girls initiate contact would guys think less of them? yeah right 
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another question would be if girls initiate contact would guys think less of them? Well if she biatch slaps me in the process, I may fall in love.  
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another question would be if girls initiate contact would guys think less of them? Well if she biatch slaps me in the process, I may fall in love.  
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i will have to take a whole bottle of tequila to even think of backs and fronts and anything else in front of an interesting guy lol
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seriously though its not cheap for women to make the first move?
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I always make the first move... as long as the moonwalk is considered the first move.
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I always make the first move... as long as the moonwalk is considered the first move. thats backwards if i do remember right
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another question would be if girls initiate contact would guys think less of them? Sceptical, in my past, if a woman make the first move, I probably would have had more possible relationships. I can relate to the courage it takes being shy and all,. I sometimes think, this woman is to beautiful to be interested in Me, or she already has suitors that would be more interesting than me. Follow your heart, Scepticalsoulmate, u will be surprised by the outcome, or walk away knowing u tried 
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My question is does it really matter as long as the end result is eternal love.
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Agree
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Absolutely right..
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another question would be if girls initiate contact would guys think less of them? Sceptical, in my past, if a woman make the first move, I probably would have had more possible relationships. I can relate to the courage it takes being shy and all,. I sometimes think, this woman is to beautiful to be interested in Me, or she already has suitors that would be more interesting than me. Follow your heart, Scepticalsoulmate, u will be surprised by the outcome, or walk away knowing u tried better to have love and lost than to never have loved at all i think ive said this before hhmmm
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