Is interesting reading this post. I feel that some understand the effort needed to keep the glow going, as weak as a candle can be, two candles can double the intensity.

Then is the other side, the ones that I sense that only look at one side, one candle. I feel they are missing the true ideals of what it takes to take care of something so fragile.

I guess my point, are we selfish when it comes to keep a relationship going, do we understand the concept of love, are we weak when we build the base of a relationship. Then we complaint when it does not last?

this song just popped in my head : some good things never last . i guess i am being true to my profile name lol ice cream melts, candles blow over, coffee gets cold, maybe it could help when we are thrown lemons we just make lemonade

After this statement, it makes me wonder if you are one of those, selfish one, the ones that only look at one side, it's own side. So, I also wonder, what are you doing here, if it takes two to make relationship work. How do you keep all those treats and comfort food warm enough if you are looking at matters in a negative way. So if I follow your line of thinking, I am wasting my time, I wonder.

Yes, I agree that a relationship is like a candle, it mainly represents LOVE which gives light to a relationship. The flame keeps on burning if you lit or rekindle it with love, passion, affection or trust. It could also mean light or darkness in the world of couples. The light or love or passion when it slowly dies down, it becomes dimmer until it eventually dies when you don't carefully watch it... In your relationship that's what happens, the love fades or dies when you leave it unattended, you have to nurture it with love. You have to keep the love burning in your hearts, let the light illuminate the darkness in your lives. In a relationship, both should be responsible most of all in sharing love, care, respect,trust and understanding. Take care and protect each other, never let the flame/love waver, be steadfast, vigilant and attentive.

Relationships can be like candles in that you just light it is pretty easy that a little draft can snuff it out but if it keeps going down the sides protect it from more.

When the candle runs out of wax

Great Post,

Interesting angle,

Generally when I burn a candle it is one that smells Good to me. A new relationship you may be in the candle shop sniffing first that fragrance or this. Eventually you pick one and take it home to sweeten the air you breath. Much like the hope we have for a new love.

Then we light it and you smell it only when your close but as time goes by it fills the room and spreads through the house. Permeates your every thing and lingers in your memory even when it has burned through its life.

Again like love.

Agree, this is also another interesting angle about this what I find real Love.

Earlier there were posts about candles needing oxygen and I think that is true of healthy love. You love someone you won't fair well if you try to be the only air they breath. I have seen so many relationships die on the vine because the isolation comes in or jealousy where they want to be the whole world and then they are bored to tears by someone they have conquered/siffocated. .

Then let's light up this place

Love it!

And this topic still going, lol.
I guess the candles are still lit, I wonder.

The older I get, the more I rely on hard wax to back up my wick.

Keep the flame burning and don't get on each others wick

Love relationships are not like candles. They are like love relationships.

Love doesn't need to be complicated.
Love doesn't need to be kept burning.
Love requires no maintenance at all.
That is because it is love.

What makes a relationship require maintenance is our own expectations of what we think love should be. Actual love is very easy. Its the people that make it complicated.

The fact is, you either love someone or you don't. Love requires nothing.

They may be bad for you.
You may be bad for them.
You may not like some of the things they say and do.
They may not like some of the things you say and do.
Love doesn't care about all the stuff we put in the way, it either is or isn't.

Infatuation and lust come and go but love, if it really is love, persists.

People tend to throw love around like it is something that is flexible. Love is just love. Making it complicated and assigning all these requirements to it clouds it up. Love is as easy as breathing.

I find it enlightening to see all the stuff people do to love just because they can't understand how simple it really is. It says a lot about people and how they understand their existence.

Perhaps if we just accept love at face value and live in the moment, love might stop being so complicated and difficult?
I think the same can be said for most things in life.

poor communication can make or break any relationship...

and being honest in your relationship ...
again can make or break it ...

I'm wondering if you have forgotten your original post and what you were asking for as "examples"



You asked for examples of how the flame can go off / how the relationship can fade away.

The posts I read give the examples per request. I imagine had you asked if we understood the "concept" of love, then the posts would have reflected that instead.