are you hopping into the dating world in the hopes of finding

someone to walk down the aisle with?


exchange the ' I do's' and the rings?

do you see online dating as a kind of mail order bride

or husband place where you can put in your order


wanted: petite, sweet, young, female


and then someone will respond?

Yes, and to be honest I think I found her.

I was looking for someone who really complements me. Not with the idea of "I need -demand- a husband".
It's more the other way round for me... I'd be willing to marry the one that truly complements me, but I wasn't looking for someone to marry. May seem a subtle difference, but in actual fact the difference is quite substantial...

did ya meet her online or no?

I met her on mingle and then in person later.

yes my sister I do understand this one
resonates with every fiber of my being
I come on these sites with no expectations actually
mostly just to bullsh*t around with people
put my two cents worth in here and there


but as far as finding someone in life..
then he would have to be a true partner

that's wonderful congratulations to both of you

Not really.

But if I could find a petite young female that looks good in a French Maid outfit, can make a decent sandwich, and can keep quiet when the game is on TV, I might consider it.

Exactly! So in a way you could reason that if you wouldn't be willing to marry him, he isn't that true partner you seek.

^^^^^ I concur ^^^^^

yes my beautiful

this

I honestly dont think that relationships are dependable , having come through a divorce myself, but I was hoping to find someone compatible and compelling enough to take the risk with, and maybe become what you described over time .

It still may or may not happen, but either way, Im still living and enjoying my life on and off the forum :)

ya it's been about four years since my divorce

or maybe five..doesn't really matter

but after being married for twenty

I am in nooooooooo hurry to try that again


but I do sometimes wonder

who has it right

the ones who can't wait to go down aisle again

or the ones that never do

I think the ones to whom it isn't imperative, but who at the same time wouldn't really object to it either. If you are like that, feel like that, you are truly free, not steered by ego, old pains, and fears.
If you need it, it's usually based on fear, neediness --> ego
If you resist it, it's usually based on fear, not daring to commit ever again --> ego

No

But I'd never say never. You just don't know if you may meet someone and boom.

I honestly wasnt looking just bought my house in 13... Had every intentions of living in it til I died.

Then a Canuck snuck up on me. Actually neither one of us had any intentions to be anything but great friends.

Now 2 years later we are planning a wedding.

So I guess the old saying when you aren't actively looking "the right one" will gobsmack you.


I get where you are at. Tee I was there for quite a few years been there did that was totally enjoying the freedom to come and go. Not thinking about someone else when making decisions.

No.not looking..

What other response could I put..lol..
Of Course I'm not looking...
It's hard enough just finding someone to..date. .but if I meet that person and it gets super serious...hmmmm...hmmmm..
Hmm..uuuummmm . Hmmmm...
I don't know!!.. I'll have to think about it..
Hmmm...hmmm hmmm. .

Maybe think about getting divorced first

hope you can find the right one.