I know I have nice pics, I get 100's of messages a day saying that, it's sweet and appreciated. I think a lot of men build me up in their minds to be something I'm not. If you read my profile on body type I do say "fez extra pounds" or whatever. I workout and eat right, but I still would love to be thin. I put up full body pics and side pics even. I've done ALL I can to be certain I've in no way misrepresented myself. Why does it seem when I go and meet someone that they are disappointed? Or I never hear from the again? I asked one guy while we were still out and he said "your pictures are an accurate representation of you!" So I think these guys have to be mentally picturing me differently or something. What do YOU do, guys, when you see someone with great pics - multiple angles, but you mentally had a different idea but you still think she's beautiful in her pics... but maybe the body doesn't look like you thought despite having seen pics??? I mean at some point it's not my fault when I put up every pic I can... but I totally feel like I just disappoint. It's discouraging.

You really need to step back and just go through the process. People are mostly ignorant and self serving. That is reality. You cannot rush this search. In fact, I would suggest you not search at all and simply enjoy whatever you are doing. Someone of substance is out there. The trick is to seize opportunity when it presents itself. There is no need to shake every tree looking for a peach.

I guess you have met the wrong kind of people and you should be thankful for that coz it meant they've shown their ugly side right away and you shouldn't worry much about how they reacted upon you, continue making new friends and acquaintances though be safe and don't rush, one day soon the right one will come along. Pray for guidance as well if you have a specific faith "Patience is a Virtue". Just be who you are and have that self-confidence. Slowly face your issues and resolve them while you can so you can be more ready for your future relationship.

Great profile and pics!

I have never doctored my pics either and
yet got that reaction once..(big
boobs like you.)

I realize most men have chubby issues, either
their Mother was or someone they knew that
perhaps got ridiculed and from that moment on
they will only accept slender as an option.

The problem is, of course, NO ONE, outside the
movies, has an ideal figure..so bitterness can
set in, and all the blame goes to the gender.

My feeling is, if a guy is that hung up on
perfection he can just run along, contemplating
his own inadequacies.

I think this is great advice. Forget about the hundreds of pictures and get back to you and your mental well-being. No I'm not saying you are nutz
Just saying spend some time on yourself. I myself did a lot of research online over the years.

well in my case where I am just a circle and some black font.. anything has to be better then that, so none have been disappointed.

um, it says you just joined.. where have you been wondering for months?

Match.com.

Ohh..you have pictures up on your profile. .hmmm nerver noticed..

Are you sure it is about your appearance? You look very nice. Maybe you just have different point of views, different life-styles, sense of humor or interests. There must be other things too what keep people together, not just physical attraction. And chemistry of course, the person you meet could be very attractive, but in some reason you two just don't have a sparkle, and that's it.

maybe it has nothing to do with pics, maybe it's your personality...

ya once upon a time
ya know
back when I first joined this site
and like uh three others
ahahaa...ahem


I did this
spent hours doing the hair and makeup
trying to figure out what clothes to wear
took pics from all angles


ya know what?
if I posted a body shot
I got messages accusing me of being a 'butter face'
" nice body but her face dude"
and that was why I did not show my face
guys saying they needed to see me smile
or see my eyes

whatver
so then when I posted face shots
guess what? got accused of being a lard azz
and that is why I had no full body shots



see where I am going with this one?
after awhile it began to feel like adverstising
more than a dating profile

Your profile and pics are great, perfect and more than required. I agree with the take your time approach previously posted. Good song lyrics to sum it up. David Wilcox (US) "Run"

I find it truly sad that people believe that they have the right to take piercing shots at people in a vulnerable place like a dating site. Its simply immature and ignorant and we are not in grade school anymore. Compassion and respect for all. Please!

Thia is not gender specific shout out either. I found the women on here to at least have a higher level of class then what I have seen and heard from female visitors. I am personally appreciative for this higher level of awareness from the women. Thank you.

So yes. You are an extremely attractive lady. Some of the dudes checking your profile have preconceived notions about what your like. Not your problem but theirs. Dating can be fun when your with the right person but it can be tedious getting there. Your doing just fine. Your just gonna have to sift through and find what your looking for.

You have wondered this for months?

saw your profile... its a wonderful one.. crisp and you look fab !!

I have shots from every angle up.

Dolly Parton gets away with too much makeup and putting 6lbs of puppies in a five pound sack because she backs it up with humor, acting,mega singing talent, and self confidence.

I am deeply sorry for your personal loss. Not how I would have addressed it in your text.

Them posting 18 pictures that only tell the story on you that you like jewelry and clothes that looks like came from a closet a teen would hide from her Mother really sets you up as vulnerable and immature or a hustler hoping to sell even more
explicit.

Whilst I'm sorry to hear of your loss, it's time to smell what you're shovelling.

Just because you say "no offence" before or after an insult, it doesn't make that comment nice. So straight out the gate, you've made a statement of your self-accredited superiority. I read a statement somewhere recently, "none of us are as hot as we think we are". I think more people should accept this philosophy.

The world has changed since you married, the avenues by which people can meet have increased. If you've the mindset of, "all they need to do is meet me and they'll be sold!" you're setting yourself up for disappointment. So they've met you and not been compelled to take it any further. None of us is to everyone's liking, no matter what you choose to believe.

Yes, you've a large selection of photos in your profile but let's break it down. 2 are memes 1 is taken by a friend, 1 full-length selfie. 10 of the remainder are the same distance, same angle, same hair, same expression, cleavage revealing selfies. Now we know it happens but evidence of someone's love of self-photography isn't necessarily attractive. Be mindful of the message you're portraying.

Lastly, you end your profile with the statement "Can't force it" but then make posts such as this after a mere few months of returning to the dating pool?

Welcome to 2017

Profile seems fine. Straight to the point, and explains what you want.
Pictures are fine.
As far as your question about guys mental expectations. Myself, I try not to make any expectations. Until you get to know the person more, expectations are usually always unrealistic.

Good luck!