FWB...maybe you are giving the benefits too soon before making the friends connection.

ya my point was just be you
otherwise

you keep making these threads about why no one has responded to you
why when they meet you they are tripping over themselves to pull out your chair and pay your tab..

you come across as needy and maybe a bit desperate
this guy that is meeting you for coffee or dinner knows only what
you choose to put on your profile and your pics

yes, you are choosing to show your 'assetts' in most of those
your choice of course
especially if you are after casual encounter

none of my bizness
but you may not be everyone's cup of tea

I am not known for mincing my words and my comments stand about the impression you are putting out there.

However I think it is fair to add that just a year or so after the death of a spouse Greif and the billion other feelings that are banging around in your head are often NOT your best brain work.

Take it from someone who has been there, done that, worn the T-shirt that you don't have to jump out of the skillet right into the fire to move on with your life. Take a step back,several steps back, and watch the waters for a while.

Dating has changed a lot in 20yrs but a lot of it is still the same. Give yourself time to get your act together. Socialize with friends,join a few groups, developed some hobbies and interests to write in your profile about.

That whole FWB bs will not fly if you aren't feeling desperate for a little comfort. Get your hugs from your kids; sure it is not the same thing but five years down the road your won't be dealing with a bad reputation, worse a STD (you don't even want to know the odds on that), or beating yourself up saying WTF was I thinking.

If your look took hours to pull together then it probably is forced and will look it and make you look hard. You are still very pretty and a nice sit down with a clean face and some one not hell bent to over sell you cosmetics could give you a current look that will help not only your one and done dating life but might give your career a boost.


Since you are currently eligible as what in helping professional circles as "Displaced Homemaker" RUN don't walk to your local community college and sign up for this GREAT personal develop ment and support program. More eligible singles your age attend
Community College than incoming HS now days. Make some friends; find a mentor.
And believe me the validation you will get from a lot of the "Oh Babe your Hot" crowd are scammers after your life insurance money or wolves hoping they can get the walking wounded widow to drop her panties and not check to close all their problems.

What very few people will admit are the men (and women) worth having do watch these sites BUT they don't jump when you snap your fingers.
They watch how you act, what you post, and how long you camp on line and when. They definately note if you are a good Mom or a party animals crowd or looking to blow money. You chase and they will evaporate into the fog. Run your mouth about how men are hot for you or whine how all are dogs and deadbeats you might as well delete and and sign up for the senior center.
Anyways as hokey as it might sound I Will keep you in prayer that good AAngel's surround you and you find friendships and wisdom here in Mingleland. Good luck.