Ok..just had coffee. .and noticed two women talking casual business... very attractive..women..now.. when they got up to leave one of them was a very tall very attractive.. she was dressed in skin tight leggings high heels a shortcut form-fitting coat..very.. sexy business attire.. it screamed I'm available ...now..

I'm confident in who I am..and I want my women to look her best...but..
When you're in a relationship do you tend to tone down the sexy the availability in the way you look...are.. do you continue to dress..in.the sexy business attire ..that slightly says you are still single.. I like my woman to have Style...but...hmmmm.... anyone feeling me on this...lol

Never thought that I should dress in code "available" or "not
available". I dress up for feeling good about myself, not to give some signals to random guys on street. And I don't mind to put some extra effort for my own man. But about the others, really don't care...

I've usually found it easier to put a big sign on my head saying available

If we could like posts this is one I would like.

I've never thought a woman was available because of how she dressed.

I undressed for availability.
The lack of a wedding ring on my finger SCREAMS available.

On the other hand (lol), when I had the wedding ring on I seemed to get more attention.

I understand what you are saying ... and when your working with
the public and don't have to wear a uniform ... then... I say I have dressed sexy but comfortable ... when needed even in relationships ... now I dress up for Holidays sometimes ... my friend told me to loose the tee shirts ...that I love
not sure I am ready for that yet... to grant her wishes lol ...
I do know if I dress... lets say girlish I could attract more men ...
but have yet to do that either ... if for a date ... I would try and dress up but also depends where we are going ... I do a little more primping then I use to ...

WTH... Are you asking for it or what. There is no dress code. Be happy
and proud if she is going home with you.....


I think your baiting women everywhere with this one. Besides
tell the truth you get lazy and pull on sweat pants when your
comfortable in a relationship be honest ....LOL :


P.S. I didn't know an outfit could talk availability???

You need a girlfriend LOL

Me being honest I don't wear makeup as often to not draw
extra attention....

hahahahahaha oh my interesting query :-)

I have never dressed to look 'available.'
Nor have I ever dressed to look 'unavailable.'
I dress to stay warm.

hahaha you guys...thinking it is about YOU!

I am me before and after. Don't like it...bye. I don't dress to impress. I dress how I like

I have NEVER EVER dressed for my relationship status.
I dress for me and the occassion.
Lordy that sounds like a lot of work

I understand what the OP is asking.
I'm trying not to sound misogynistic. I believe the OP is referring to cleavage showing, clothing so tight, not leaving much to the imagination. All things women might do to attract a man when single.

yup.


The worst critiques are coming from other Women, they must be dressing up for them eh

..yes..but not sluty. .just their outfits say available...I feel bad for the ladies..that do not understand what I am referring to... tragic really..lol

Yup, I also agree with this :)

It's much nicer to make an extra effort every now and then -which I still mostly do for ME- cos after all... if every day was Christmas it wouldn't be Christmas anymore.

I wouldn't want a man who expects me to walk around in high heels and all tarted up all the time. Not the man for me. A girl has got to rest her feet once in a while, which is what you do at home. I want to be accepted as I am for who I am. I'm a die-hard jeans girl, and that will never change. I abhor high heels cos I got back problems. And I'm tall enough as it is.
I know he appreciates me in a short skirt, and I gladly wear them, when I feel like it. Because that isn't each and every time we're together, it's more special when I do. The Christmas-effect again, lol.

What experts say on this -males btw-: It's okay to not dress up each and every day, as long as you at least once or twice a week DO dress up and show him your sexy feminine side. I can live with that. And at least that keeps it special. If special becomes normal, then you got nothing left

Oh, if you're like this, you are high maintenance... Very tiring...

And yet how many times have you given a second look to tn6e woman that is in everyday clothes tee shirt jeans little or no make up because she just excudes that va-va-boom.

I go back to a time in Sitka when a guy asked me out a really hawt guy. There was in no way that I was trying to attract. Just got off the fishing charter hair a mess, halibut blood and guts on the leg of my carrharts.

The point I am making is it isnt the clothes that makes the woman it is the woman.

Such a sad thing really when a perdon is trying so hard to be noticed that they arent wearing the clothing the clothing is wearing the person.

If she is in a business suit obviously means she is appropriately dressed. Just because she is sexy doesn't mean she is seeking validation or is seeking attention or availability. The business suit says it all.

I believe people should dress professionally according to the standards of their workplace . That has nothing to do with my relationship.

Now when it comes to dressing outside of work, chances are that a woman is dressing herself in whatever makes her feel most comfortable, attractive and confident.

She wasn't dressing to attract YOU, but if she happened to attract you with that authentic display of herself, then is it that this part of her authenticity ceases to matter because she is now "yours"?

Now because I am a strong believer in compromise, there would be times that I would wear things to please him even if I didnt like it . Hopefully he might do the same for me.

But if I have to change that part of my authenticity permanently to please my guy, then perhaps we are not the best fit for each other

I remember my dad saying what a woman does that attracted her man, she should keep doing to KEEP him attracted,, and vice versa.

I would think if my man liked me dressing a certain way, it wouldn't change with my status. But then again, I almost always dress modestly, regardless of relationship status, and there seem to be men attracted to that too.

So, its all about what is comfortable to her and what is attractive to her mate or potential mate.

interesting

and does your clothing choice change

according to your relationship status

or is this gender specific?

What I was trying to convey, had nothing to do with sluttiness.
The OP is asking though, does being in a relationship change the way a woman may dress?
Meaning instead of wearing items that could show off sex appeal, wearing less revealing clothing. Things like pant suits, slacks, baggy sweaters, t-shirts, jeans that aren't form fit. Perhaps I'm thinking too much on the subject.

To me, if I find a woman who likes to wear t-shirts and jeans and a Carhartt coat, no make up and still looks vava-voom, at least to me. She's a winner, and damn well guarantee she'll get the chicken dinner cooked by me.