Topic: Advice to Men on Getting a Woman to Respond
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Sat 01/28/17 11:35 AM



With regard to the Profile/s ....I am not a DRAMA BOY EITHER.:tongue:

When I landed here at the beginning of January, I had filled my INTEREST Honest & Correct .:tongue: ..The rest bellow was just garbage .

As for ( About ME description ), I wanted ON PURPOSE to look like BAD BOY for about a week to 10 days, and to see/observe how quick some, will jump to put down and/or judge others by being well, self, or by theirs clothing/s, even, by being naturals in theirs pure & clean character or personality with theirs expression/s blushing


Finally decided to POLISH my final script ( Novel ) on my profile..IT WILL STAY AS IT IS, I LOVE IT, ( Don't matter to me if some don't like it or hate it ), and most of all, yet, I KEEP MY PRICE TAG UP HIGH as per my profile ......" PRICE ?? NOT NEGOTIABLE "....bigsmile

CONCLUSION:...Now, I have a list of people I like and choose to talk, and a list I couldn't give a hoop on.....
Which reminds me, those NEGATIVE SOULS in here are very WOUNDED and in need of HEALING/S....My advise to them ??..Read careful below line.

The trick is, to be grateful when your mood is high and graceful when it is low....blushing

Blessings and Thanks to everyone for his/her Positive and/or Negative contribution....You know who you are.

Peace & Love to all :heart:

What a wonderful post! Thanks.

jessneedslove's photo
Sun 01/29/17 07:37 AM
I agree, I feel that when a man start off saying "hey sexy" that is a bid turn off. I Also don't want to hear that I am the one for you and you haven't ever met me or talk to me

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Sat 04/01/17 02:58 PM
Edited by PacificStar48 on Sat 04/01/17 03:06 PM
Being from the south I think I a little less offended by Hello Beautiful or even Hello Darling but I still always notice/appreciate when someone is mannerly enough to say Hello PacificStar and leave the endearments until a more appropriate time.

One thing that makes feel older than dirt or screams scammer is when I see the "Hello Dear. Even if it I'd an effort to be polite it plants that seed of 'here comes trouble".

I don't mind the single "Hi" if the profile is at least something because I see that as an unobtrusive Nod that invites a look see. If I counter with a Hi only I am only the vaguest of interested so if you don't pony up with something you are going to be ignored like the little kid in the store saying Hi to every one to be annoying

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Sun 04/02/17 01:04 PM
Edited by PacificStar48 on Sun 04/02/17 01:53 PM
To the leader line of the thread.
How to get women to respond.
I can't speak for anyone but myself bit I can tell what gets more than polite or casual notice; actual contact.

Seems obvious but fill out the profile completely.

Put up at least half dozen photos and a date worthy lead photo. This probably your real shot at finding a date you will actually enjoy. If you are a suit an tie wine bar type or a Burger and beer guy own it. Might not be fair but it is the ladies choice. If you are trying to impress your "friends" especially your bros it is very obvious.

Absolutely perfect writing (typing) effort is rare but at least keep in mind first impressions last. Look before you send. You look like a scammer that is hard to info and you rarely will get a second chance.

Have a little patience and self confidence. If you jump to trying to get a phone number you look desperate or worse like a creep. Or a scammer on on a deadline in an overseas criminal call center.

Greet, chat back an forth a couple three notes, and signed off rather than just disappear. Don't camp on line; marathon exchanges usually mean you are being catfished and even I have a life outside Mingleland.

You like me send a greeting the next day even if it is breif. If you say you are a hard working man I don't expect you to be on line during work hours. I date men who have tough schedules but if yours is odd don't try to pass because you will trip yourself up.

Don't try to monitor my life by tracking my activity. I am an adult and I sure don't need a jealous stalker type.

If you are moving up the food chain I am going to want to sinc at least enough time to get to talk to you again. If you mention
a time you invite a reply I will likely check my mail or show up on line to chat again or counter with a workable time.

Telling me you don't come here often or are too busy because you work hard is not only an attitude that will get you dropped like a rock and replaced by a more respectful busier competitor it comes off like a lie or that you only half hearted about dating. I am a big girl I can take the hint if you just aren't interested just move on.

I don't do the drill and grill especially if it is one sided. I am not going to get Huffy about general questions especially if it follows an opening I give you; example " I have a dog" followed by "oh yea do you recommend a vet?" Or I have two and a cat." Ya have to give to get.



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Sun 04/02/17 01:58 PM

I agree, I feel that when a man start off saying "hey sexy" that is a bid turn off. I Also don't want to hear that I am the one for you and you haven't ever met me or talk to me
Yes I find it offensive when a woman responds without offering a name and just asks some silly question rather than an introduction that suggests education, intent, and sincerity

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Thu 04/27/17 04:36 PM
First this post doesn't offend me. I'm separated, working on getting out, but I list myself as married. I'm not going to lie.
If some are turned off by that no problem. I have a lot to give and want to give, love, warmth, companionship, listening to hers and sharing my deepest emotions. That need is not being met and has not for some time.
I'm not getting younger, although Iam very young at heart, mind and body, and life is to short to waste any more time. So I put out the truth about myself and hope someone understands. And yes of course sexual intimacy is on my mind; I'm a man, what else should one expect...

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Sat 05/06/17 11:23 PM
Well said!

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Sat 05/06/17 11:25 PM

its no biggy chris,, people can be easily offended and people in cyber worlds can get a bit defensive and judgmental

I think people just need to present themselves truthfully.


Maybe they are too 'shy' to know how to start the conversation so that a 'hi' is the safest intro for them.


There are women attracted to shy who will respond.


There are also those only looking for hook ups, who may start out asking sexual questions,, and there may be women into it that respond as well


I think the trick is that there are no shortcuts. There are many ways to get lots of responses,, but the best way to get truly compatible responses is by displaying whatever is natural to you.

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Mon 06/19/17 06:53 PM

Not that I'm an expert or anything, but I have some advice to all the men out there who might be wondering why they don't get a response for the women they message. 1. Give your marital status. If you don't the woman will probably assume that your either married or separated and believe it or not, most women to looking to meet someone online don't want to date men who are married or separated. 2. List your interests. Saying I'll tell you later says you either don't have any interests, you don't want to mention them or you can't take the time to list them. Listing your interests will give the woman something to talk about if she wants to have a conversation with you. 3 Don't just say Hi. I know it's hard to put your self out there, but look at the woman's interests and ask her a question. If she says she likes to travel in her profile, ask her if she's done any traveling lately etc. Just saying hi makes it very difficult for either of you to start any sort of conversation. And this is just my pet peeve - you've never met me so do not call me sweetie or honey I can't think of a bigger turn off - plus it sounds really condescending. Thanks for listening.

:thumbsup:

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Thu 07/13/17 11:27 AM
Edited by mysticalview21 on Thu 07/13/17 11:29 AM

Not that I'm an expert or anything, but I have some advice to all the men out there who might be wondering why they don't get a response for the women they message. 1. Give your marital status. If you don't the woman will probably assume that your either married or separated and believe it or not, most women to looking to meet someone online don't want to date men who are married or separated. 2. List your interests. Saying I'll tell you later says you either don't have any interests, you don't want to mention them or you can't take the time to list them. Listing your interests will give the woman something to talk about if she wants to have a conversation with you. 3 Don't just say Hi. I know it's hard to put your self out there, but look at the woman's interests and ask her a question. If she says she likes to travel in her profile, ask her if she's done any traveling lately etc. Just saying hi makes it very difficult for either of you to start any sort of conversation. And this is just my pet peeve - you've never met me so do not call me sweetie or honey I can't think of a bigger turn off - plus it sounds really condescending. Thanks for listening.




I like the end of this my pet peeve ... oh my goodness how that pushed my buttons laugh I don't let it get to me anymore ... the last one was every other word was... my dear ... well I chimed in and never heard from him again lmao now love is different... I believe they say it a lot in the UK or not sure ... just means... well I don't know why they say it so much lol use it of fondness or unless my love then that seems to have more of a meaning ... but also depends on who is saying what ...

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Fri 07/14/17 12:06 AM
>> was raised where 'sweety' and 'honey' were sentence fillers just like 'um,' or 'ya know'

doesn't bother me a bit, if the REST of the context of the conversation is charming, witty, considerate,,,,,,etc,,,

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Thu 07/20/17 09:39 PM
I am no expert either but how wonderful to be called sweetie or whatever endearment the man wants to call me, I have no issues with it what so ever and I don't have to reply ,my choice, I am of a certain age where I have no hang ups anymore, life is far too short to be giving advice on how I would like to be addressed on a dating site , I have not been spoken to Rudely or abused in any way on here and am quite happy to receive sweetie or honey messages , like I said, I do not have to respond in anyway unless I choose to, this is my own personal opinion and if I have offended anyone in anyway, it is not intentional and I respect others opinions on here because they are valid xxx

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Thu 07/27/17 06:30 PM
Funny coming from someone who must ask for photos to be sent...

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Thu 07/27/17 06:39 PM
Ummm, I dunno, try saying Hi, get a coffee or covvfee, whatever turns you on. Don't over think it!

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Thu 08/03/17 03:45 PM
I have separated in my profile, because that is my status. I certainly wont be getting back with the cheating _ _ _.
Does that mean if women read my profile they wont reply just because of this ?

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Thu 08/03/17 04:37 PM

I have separated in my profile, because that is my status. I certainly wont be getting back with the cheating _ _ _.
Does that mean if women read my profile they wont reply just because of this ?


Short version...Yes....

It's the bounce back theory....you can look it up. But at least your honest, and you have my respect.

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Thu 08/03/17 07:08 PM

Rules...Rules....come on guys, it is what it is...if you don't like it don't buy it....no need for criticism...we can not create others in our own image..show a little tolerance, we are all different...
my opinion, for what it's worth...

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Thu 08/03/17 09:44 PM

I have separated in my profile, because that is my status. I certainly wont be getting back with the cheating _ _ _.
Does that mean if women read my profile they wont reply just because of this ?

guilty here but i have made an exemption and i dont regret it :angel:

Diverge1's photo
Fri 08/04/17 01:54 AM
So I guess I am wasting my time trying to find a relationship on this site then !

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Fri 08/04/17 06:19 AM


Not that I'm an expert or anything, but I have some advice to all the men out there who might be wondering why they don't get a response for the women they message. 1. Give your marital status. If you don't the woman will probably assume that your either married or separated and believe it or not, most women to looking to meet someone online don't want to date men who are married or separated. 2. List your interests. Saying I'll tell you later says you either don't have any interests, you don't want to mention them or you can't take the time to list them. Listing your interests will give the woman something to talk about if she wants to have a conversation with you. 3 Don't just say Hi. I know it's hard to put your self out there, but look at the woman's interests and ask her a question. If she says she likes to travel in her profile, ask her if she's done any traveling lately etc. Just saying hi makes it very difficult for either of you to start any sort of conversation. And this is just my pet peeve - you've never met me so do not call me sweetie or honey I can't think of a bigger turn off - plus it sounds really condescending. Thanks for listening.




I like the end of this my pet peeve ... oh my goodness how that pushed my buttons laugh I don't let it get to me anymore ... the last one was every other word was... my dear ... well I chimed in and never heard from him again lmao now love is different... I believe they say it a lot in the UK or not sure ... just means... well I don't know why they say it so much lol use it of fondness or unless my love then that seems to have more of a meaning ... but also depends on who is saying what ...


That reminds me of a first message I got from someone who said hi beautiful - just for fun I messaged him back hi handsome & he responded - didn't even get the sarcasm!