Always saying yes, always trying to impress people you dont even like. Always wearing that fake smile.

To be honest be truthful tell them no you don't want to do it.
Nothing worse in doing something you don't want to do to please someone.

It wears you out
Its not a friendship
People know it and you're open to being used.
Be honest with yourself and stand up for yourself.
It's not an easy thing to do but I think it's something you have to do for yourself.
The more you do it the easier it gets.

I could not say no maybe because inside my head i'm thinking that if i do that they will outcast me. Because you know all of us wants to part of something. To belong

If you need to wear a fake smile and they wouldn't accept you as you are that's not a true belonging.
It is just keeping up an appearance, superficial and meaningless. And cold, too. Those people do not care about you.
Maybe you might consider caring more about yourself rather than caring about people who do not really care about you?

Practice saying, "No", and "I want", " I need", " I don't want ", " I don't like".

No one respects a door mat. They just walk all over it.

Actually, I found that the most important thing to realize is, that if you are doing all that fake behavior, you are NOT PLEASING ANYONE.

That's the real reason you aren't happy with trying to please everyone: it isn't working. If it were, and you were making tremendous headway in your life, you might feel mildly annoyed, but you wouldn't be so upset about it.

Therefore: the best way to get yourself to STOP trying to be a "pleaser," is to look squarely at the reality you inhabit, and realize that IT DOESN'T WORK.

That will make it very easy to stop.

It's sort of like an inside out of the old phrase "nothing to lose." Only in this case, it's "you have nothing to win" by continuing.

One minor thing...don' discard the smiling part entirely. Developing a pleasant "resting face" will help you in many subtle ways. Don't grin like an idiot, or put on an "I want to have sex with you" face, just a generally positive look.

I am going to STOP being a people pleaser!!!!





is that ok?

Stop asking permission

What if we said NOOOO !!!

Get a job as a care giver.

I go for days without a shower or using deodorant. I don't impress or please too many people

How to stop being a people pleaser.



I believe there is nothing wrong with being a people pleaser......it depends on your motivation why you do certain things. If you always say yes or wear a fake smile just to impress people you don't even like, then I would say, you are not being honest and sincere to yourself and to the people. You definitely don't please people but yourself by doing it to your advantage. If you want to please people it should come from your heart that you really want to do it because you truly care, you want others to be happy, you smile because you want to touch other people , you want to brighten up their day or you want to create a happy and friendly environment. And if you can't please everybody, it's okay, just give it a shrug, don't get upset and don't feel tired doing good for everyone. When you are motivated by the goodness in your heart , you will never get tired doing something for the people you care about. It may hurt sometimes to encounter unappreciative or ungrateful people but don't let it stop you from doing good deeds. But I must say you have to learn to be honest with yourself too, learn to say NO, don't be forced to do something you don't like, coz by doing so, it would be a form of deception.

Sometimes sticking up for yourself is an important lesson to others as it I'd an easier way to live with yourself.

Sometimes sticking up for yourself is an important lesson to others as it I'd an easier way to live with yourself.

Sometimes sticking up for yourself is an important lesson to others as it I'd an easier way to live with yourself.

Sorry the triple post was not meant as a mantra but I do think something like that does help over ride that internal voice that says be nice when really you have given your quota and it is time to step up for yourself.

Self preservation I'd not selfishness.

if you can find this book, i suggest you take a look..the title is "When I say no, I feel guilty" by Manuel J. Smith...best to you...

Be confident!. theres nothing wrong with saying no to others! Been there too and its unhealthy.

Just say no.

I suggest looking at what healthy self-esteem means and then look at how your own impression of yourself compares.
If you have healthy self-esteem from pleasing others and no inner turmoil from those actions continue the actions that you feel are worthy.
If pleasing others diminishes your self-worth and it affects your self-esteem adversly only you can determine if you need to make a change.

I think it is important to understand what healthy self-esteem is before making such changes.
Perhaps this link will help with that.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-integrationist/201308/building-healthy-self-esteem