I must agree.

From my profile (not many read it anyway)



At my age chances of me finding a virgin are long gone. I understand that every potential woman I may have any relationship with has had sex in the past. I have had sex in the past. In a way, I was a porn actor during much of my 25 year marriage. I had a very active sex life.

My level of commitment and dedication to someone I deem as special to me requires that I know and accept what she is willing to share with me. My screening process would filter out the porn actress at an early stage.

However, this is only for the active porn actress. I see people as people. Our histories make us who we are now. Could I love a woman that WAS a porn actress? Certainly, if that love is mutual. Do I wish to be in a relationship with an active porn actress, no on more levels than can be expressed with words.


"Acted" is not the same as "acting"


For me to be completely in love with a person, their family, their friends and their personality our mutual honesty would need to be undeniable. If such a secret were kept from me it would not constitute love and trust on their part so it would be a relationship ending revelation. Not for the act of porn but from the lack of trust and honesty.

Kind of funny ... men find it perfectly okay to watch a woman in porn movies have sex with a gazillion guys, get turned on by it. Yet the thought of being with that/such a woman is a no way! Suddenly she is 'the Lincoln tunnel'. Yet when you watch her you get off on it.
Kinda weird...
But considering how men regard porn, not so much.
I guess in a way it's good news for women who dislike porn or have a problem with it.
But still, women in that profession must have a hard time finding a partner... In a way that's quite a shame.

I think the ancient principal still goes: men in porn movies are prolly easier considered studs whereas women are considered $l***

As for myself: I would not want anything to do with a (ex) porn star.
What Cat said, for the whole world to be able to see how he does lord knows how many woman, his bits in view and closeup, thank you very much.

Also, I don't believe in 'sex in relationships only', but one way or another sex to me is still a very intimate thing you share.
Knowing my man has had sex with a gazillion other women, I find that off-putting. If he sex has so little value to him, how can the intimacy we share mean anything to him?
Somehow it would make me feel cheap even though I'm not the one who sexercised for a living.

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Guys like watching women do things that they would divorce their wife if she ever did....

Yes.
I'm assuming she's just doing straight sex.
If she's willing to bang any guy on camera for a few hundred bucks, what was the point of dating.
Kind of like saving up and idealizing going to Disney world, going through an interview process to be allowed into the theme park, then standing in line for 1 ride, and seeing 100 "VIP's" just walk in and cut the line.

At the very least it shows inconsistency. Different rules for me and everyone else.
Inconsistency = insecurity.
I like security in my relationships.
I like to know my effort had meaning and wasn't arbitrary.


Instant finalization.


About as funny as women finding it hot for a high school girl to date a 90 year old reanimated dead guy, but cry statutory rape when their 17 year old kid dates the gym teacher.
Or get off on books/movies that glorify being paid for violent torture and sex, but are offended when someone emails them a sex for money sugarbaby proposition, or spousal abuse.
A la Twilight and 50 Shades of Grey.

And that doesn't even approach the funny related to movies like Pretty Woman.

There are lines people take for granted between relationships and pleasure/entertainment.

No one is innocent.
It's not a gender thing.

Thanks for puttin' em straight! ^

The relationship wouldn't be killed but it would be a bit dented I would think.

Clearly the actor/actress should have revealed this up front if they're still in the business.

On the other hand at least you know your partner has a healthy interest in sex; so make lemonade out of lemons!

Or move on.

I don't really care about my partner's past as if it's a part of her private life, but being an actress in adult movies isn't only past, it's something that might interfere in one's present life in a really negative way, so it's a no.

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So....let me pour you a glass of wine and tell me about your day Honey.

Don't men want a 'good girl' in public; and a 'bad girl' in private?

Well that puts a whole new spin on "sharing" your day.

Me personally I gave no problem with an adult actor or actress, I am just not into dating them.

Somehow the thought of being out at a party and have a dozen women coming up to me saying or implying they know what my mans good look like is a huge turn off.
So I will pass

Huiiiii you dateing with me

well it would seem I have a different view on this than a lot of people. to me a job is a job it's not who you are. if the person you're with lied to you about it that's a different story but if they're up for an honest about it I don't see what the big deal is. that's just me

Stone cold dead! That's something that should have been revealed soon on in the relationship. Due to the nature of the work, there are serious health risks to me. Diseases sometimes can take months or years to show symptoms. I should have been told this detail to allow me to make an informed decision as to whether to take the relationship further. That is out of order.

lolzzzzzzzzzzzzzz......

Ha ha ha..... One glass may not be enough.....