I'm 55 YO looking for just 1 life partner aged from ~40 to about 55 or so.
But I am baffled.

My understanding so far:
you don't care about morals, brains, skills, or abilities in a man.
you say you don't care about age or looks quite often, but . . .
you say you don't care about money, but . . .
You are attracted to pretty shiny things, (which never last).
You want well dressed and well presented, which to me means vain and useless, or rich.
You are attracted to muscles and tattoos, but complain when those men do what those types of men get up to.

Some assume that with long hair I am gay. I hate men. Who had neat short hair: hitler, and almost every politician, banker and thief.
Some say I am too blokey. (to much like a man ?) Well der !
Some want someone living nearby; but I have a car.
Some just want to be friends, but then want to get so close it hurts.
Some knowing that I have feelings for them, want to complain to me about their bad choice in their latest D.H., but ignore me.
Some knowing that I have feelings for them, want to get with my friends.

What the hell do you want ??????????
I'll not be someones 'special friend',or 'brother', ever again;
If you don't 'want' me, then you won't see me. I won't 'hang out' with you.
I'd rather be alone with no friends at all than have my guts twisted out.

Looking for LOGICAL answers! Not platitudes.

How about some cheese while we wait for notbeold's questions to be answered.

Your desire for clarity and a rational explanation is idealistic as most behavior is motivated by a variety of emotional , physical, and social factors that many are not aware... The person is a sum of more than their cognitive components...

His thoughts remind me a bit of these lyrics:


When I call you up your line's engaged.
I have had enough, so act your age,
We have lost the time that was so hard to find,
And I will lose my mind,
If you won't see me, you won't see me.

I don't know why you should want to hide,
But I can't get through my hands are tied,
I won't want to stay I don't have much to say,
But I get turned away.
And you won't see me, you won't see me.

Time after time you refuse to even listen,
I wouldn't mind if I knew what I was missing.
Though the days are few they're filled with tears,
And since I lost you it feels like years,
Yes it seems so long girl since you've been gone,
I just can't go on,
If you won't see me, you won't see me.

"You Won't See Me", From The Beatles' "Rubber Soul" (1965)

Hi OP,

Unfortunately it seems the only logical answer to your questions is:

each woman is an individual & has her own traits & preferences.

You have met women who fall short of what you are seeking, & no doubt you may have encountered women who think you fall short of what they are seeking.

Dating is just harder when you are older. Older adults should have the benefit of "been there, done that" in terms of knowing what we just won't put up with, but that also forces us to honestly weed out so many who don't measure up to it. Some folks do "settle" & accept partners who aren't 100% what makes them happy. It's a hard choice to make & even harder to live with down the road when assessing whether you are actually satisfied with your personal love life.

Not a platitude but a fact: if you are single & don't want to be, then you just have to keep looking, until you find the one who is acceptable to you as a "life partner". Or, decide that being single is just a facet of your life that might change any time in the future (an optimist) & carry on living as fulfilled a life as you can without a partner.

Good luck no matter what.

They don't want whiners.

you can say that again

I already said it twice

Mate, I have no answer for ya, but I did find Miss Fisher's Murder Mysteries to be highly entertaining television fare. I wish I lived in Perth aboard a sailboat.

There you have it folks. Very well said. Dnewnew
Married to myself for now.

YOU SAID LOGICAL,,,,''FIRST OF ATTRACTION IS NOT A CHOICE'' ITS A EMOTIONAL

CHOICE NOT A LOGICAL CHOICE........WE ARE LOOKING FOR OUR IMAGO

MATCH..!!!


FIND OUT WHAT ''IMAGO MATCH'' IS, DO THE RESEARCH AND YOU

WILL FIND THE ANSWER YOU ARE LOOKING FOR.....

Cheese to go along with the whine...Excellent

You can say that again (yes, a 3rd time is okay! LOL )

Lot of judgement in the OP... and feeling sorry for oneself. Neither are very appealing.

If you are looking for a woman 15 years younger, you need money.

And a magic penis.

You're doing great!

Everyone woman wants to be judged! They also love it when their guy hates men.(why would you want you SO to have friends! yuck!)

Maybe if you add in a little self-loathing,
a heaping of insane jealousy,
a dash of a-hole
and a sprinkle rude

you'll do better!

Not a platitude but a fact: if you are single & don't want to be, then you just have to keep looking, until you find the one who is acceptable to you as a "life partner". Or, decide that being single is just a facet of your life that might change any time in the future (an optimist) & carry on living as fulfilled a life as you can without a partner.


^^Well said. :)

Try smoking some pot and relax a bit.. flip on some Bob Marley and chill out... you will feel better

Dr. Greeneyes.

Young, mature men no doubt.
Wait.

I thought I saw something shiney..