I went on what I thought was a very nice first date with a guy several months ago, and a couple of days later he sent me an e-mail saying he had a nice time and asking if I'd like to do it again some time. Naturally, I replied that I would like to do it again sometime, preferably soon. I think my exact words were "I had a good time, too, and I'd love to do it again, preferably soon." I haven't heard from him since. Can anyone explain to me why this guy would take the time out to e-mail me and ask me if I wanted to see him again if he really didn't want to see me again?

did he ever acknowledge getting your email..

For some guys you just have to say damn that "Y" chromosone and move on....it's his loss, sorry to hear he was such an azz about it

good point tombraider!

If he did get it, oh well to heck with him! You're gorgeous and can move on with ease.

did you send the email on here? You can make sure he even read it!!!

I would move on, there are plenty more guys out there who would take the time to treat you special.

not really sure why he didnt get a hold of you again... maybe he didnt get your email. or could have possibly had something come up in his life... never know... have you tried to contact him at all? just a thought.

No, I haven't tried to contact him since then. I guess it can't hurt anything though.

Sorry to say, but unfortunately it happens alot, both to men and women. I just write it off as a bad experience and dont lose faith in finding your mate.
Keep your chin up and know that someone good will come along. :}

If he took time to write... after a bit of time... maybe he didn't get your mail... you can always email him, ask him how he is.. or call him.. and then find out if he got your mail... sometimes mails go out in la la land... lol

But if you find out he's not true.. don't give up.. He is out there somewhere...

Yeah, I have no idea if he got my e-mail or not. I've wondered about that. Also, though, I'm pretty sure I saw him in Barnes & Noble over the weekend, but neither of us approached the other. He did seem to be checking me out, but I don't know if it was just because he was wondering if he knew me from somewhere or if he just thought I looked hot. Maybe both.

Ya know I've been a real keen observer with early responses. If you get a date and they send you an email or a call.....

If you think you really like them..... Wait for a while and when it seems you should call or write......wait till it hurts for a while for you *feeling uncomfortable*.

Reason is it lets them think for a while if they really did mean what they said.... and then when you finally email or call they are so happy.

I honestly know this from experience that if a catch is to easy they (either side) tends to go away easier.

Any other thoughts? It's not a game it's a strategy for living and communicating through an early relationship.

The sad reality is that people just cannot seem to be real with one another. For some reason they feel that there has to be this pursuit of the game.

I'm really sorry to hear that this happended to you. Its hard to be tough-skinned sometimes, but I am convinced that we need to be - don't take it to heart. People are people. If you are as sincere an individual as I think you are then simply chalk it up to his loss.

I find myself beating myself up the same way at times and wonder, what the heck is wrong with me. However, if you change perspective you can say, what the heck is wrong with him society in general? You are the best you you got! Just keep being you and don't compromise for "the game". I'm convinced that in doing so that we really can find true love and a lifelong commitment with someone that really is worthy of us giving love to them.

I wish you much success in your future...

Billy

yea i never even get to meet them and they dont email me anymore , even talk to them on the phone and they dont call me anymore either wtf

Okay. First of all, if he didn't get your email, he might be thinking "Well, guess I got my answer to her not wanting to go out again." Or, if he did get it, then you have your answer.

Look, and this is coming from a guy, alot of us males are just that way. It can be that we had a good time on the date, convinced ourselves that we wanted another date, but then we do a 180 and decide that we are scared and we run off like crying babies. Or, we could be playing "Very hard" to get, and in this case we usually try to see if the woman will come to us. Again, these are games that men do (heck, even some women do them too). And then there are us guys who are just so lost that we don't know what we want. It happens. Dude could be in any of these modes....or he just didn't get your message.

In any case, if you are really interested in him, shoot him another email. If he doesn't respond, then call me. I have a plunger and I can take him out....for a fee of course.

how long has it been since you sent the email?

I know your feelings!!!!

I am as confused as you are.

Like you two great dates. He said he would like to get together again.

I send him a Thank You e-mail. Nothing.

Does it make you feel like they looking you over and checking you out? Right now this is my feelings.