You broke his great ....off??????

If a man told you something on the 3rd date ... whatever that is.. and it made you uncomfortable or you felt it was disrespectful, then you did the right thing.

Besides, a 3 rd date is nothing.... except maybe to a 16 year old.


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what did he do? talked about the ex all night? ooooh goody


throw that one back he is infested

That is what I am thinking. Maybe about the great.... sex.

Poor bastard probably thinks he is giving her a subliminal message of "this I must compete with & outdo"

Well, ya know what they say, " If you have to talk about it... blah blah blah... "

It would help if you had told us what you wanted to ask in your OP.
You now tried to cram the question in the header, which gets cut off...

From what you do say, I gather it is about his ex, so I'm guestimating he started talking about her in a nasty way?
Surely he should have respected you saying you weren't happy about it.
Why he maybe did that? Who knows. Can be a myriad of reasons. Maybe something had happened that day that triggered some memories, maybe he just felt comfortable enough with you to address the issue, maybe he's not over what happened yet, maybe you said something to trigger that conversation (even if only indirectly), maybe he just needed to rant, maybe right now he just needs someone to listen to his pain.

Maybe maybe maybe. Depending on how the rest was working out between the two of you, it can either be good you cut it off, or not.
Only you yourself can tell.

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I am Ezekiel and I love to be part of the forum and learn from you.

Talking about the great sex with the ex?
Men can be very dumb when trying to make conversation..
he may have been letting you know he is over her and
what they had, you will never know now.

ITS WHAT YOU HAD TO DO AT THE TIME.....AND BY THE WAY IT CAN HAPPEN TO GUY

ALSO....SOMETIMES I AM NOT IN THE PLACE TO HEAR WHAT A LADY HAS TO SAY TO ME,

AND OF COURSE THATS TYPICAL OF US GUYS....THE NUMBER ONE COMPLAINT '' HE DOES

NOT LISTEN TO ME'' AND SO TRUE......WE REALLY NEED TO MAKE MORE OF AN EFFORT TO

LISTEN TO WHAT THE LADIES HAVE TO SAY....

He's only had 50 partners, is that all, dump him, he's obviously inexperienced

Yes of course I was joking.

I'd have been more worried about disease.

Not sure why he'd tell you that, maybe he was trying to make himself look like a stud, funny how some people think.

Knowing nothing about the fellow, I can only go with general observations about people who talk on and on about something, even after the other person has repeatedly asked them not to.
I've seen it a lot. It's usually because, rather obviously, they are stuck in that focus. They are stuck inside their own heads, trying to solve some problem that happened long ago and or elsewhere.

Maybe this guy was stuck on the (common) thought that having sex with someone, is the number one way to show that you have value to offer. Lots of men and women alike, have lots of sex, not just because it's fun, but because they think that everyone who had sex with them was declaring them to be worthwhile; to be of great value.

The ironic thing is, the more someone is convinced that it's the SEX that proves their value, and not the people who they care about who care about them, the LESS value the sex itself actually has to anyone.

Sounds like an ego thing to me. I'm sure women just like men, don't want to hear from their date, how much sex or how many partners they've had in the past. The past is the past.

It could also be.. this...
I remember a few years back the whole 3rd date thing about that is when you can have sex with out being trashy Yippee... Not sure if that is still the norm or not.. I don't follow 'Norm's" very well

Maybe he was auditioning.. either way consider yourself lucky you dodged a bullet

Without the actual conversation it could be for all sorts of reasons.

Such as:
- that's simply his mo for online dating. tag and bag, pump n dump. the internet is just his sex store. he meets 30 women a month and bangs 8. he goes on dates, and each date he gets more forward and sexual in his conversation. sometimes it leads to sex, sometimes it doesn't. with you it doesn't, time to go back online.

- the conversation was lagging and he wanted to spice it up.

- you seemed disinterested or acted like you were looking for a reason to dump him, so he chose a subject that brought up sex to see if he could at least get that.

- he was testing you to see how "honest" he could be and how you would respond, possibly thinking he's keeping it "real."

- he's talking/dating another woman and wants to get rid of you and thinks that's the way to do it.
- he's talking/dating another woman and has talked like that with her and wants to see if you'll react like she does.

- that's all he really cares about and all he really wanted to talk about.

- he thought it was the "sex date" and this was his indirect attempt to get you to think about seeing him as a sexual partner.

- he misconstrued a question you asked him.

- he wants to bail without the possibility of any lingering so he sabotages the relationship to that point.

- he's insecure that he's in competition with 20 year olds chasing cougars on internet dating sites so wants to remove their competitive advantage by promoting himself as offering what he thinks they only have to offer.

- it was meant to be a segue into how he's changed and wanted more than sex or how he's learned to value more than that.

- it was meant to be a segue into how desirable he is to women and how many options he has so you should see him dating you as him doing you a favor, or not treat him like you're doing him a favor in going on a date with him.

- he found a subject that got an emotional reaction and took it too far.

- he has no idea how to talk to women. he feels a sexual attraction. his mind is drawn to thoughts of sex. he regales you with sexual adventures because they seem apropos, or simply conflates his responses between relationships and sex.

- he's just a dirty pervy scumbag and he was holding himself in check, telling you tame stuff so as to hide the 2000 square foot locked basement he has, holding 15 kidnapped women he routinely impregnates and sells the children to saudi intelligence to be trained as infidel infiltrators whose plan is to destroy the u.s. from the inside.

- he had a ministroke that broke something in his brain or he has some kind of tourettes.


The third date rule is a very old rule based on the idea that women, on some level, know whether or not they would sleep with a guy within the first 5-10 minutes of meeting him.

Since she knows (on some level) within the first 10 minutes then if she's not accepting of sexual advances by the 3rd date then the probability of her accepting sexual advances on future dates is exponentially smaller. Therefore, unless you want to be "just friends," better to cut losses and find someone else if nothing's going on by date 3. She's ultimately communicating a lack of true interest in a romantic relationship.

Everything related to the 3rd date being meaningful is a bastardization of that.

I was recently on the receiving end of one of those kind of conversations on a second date. Needless to say, knowing graphically where her mouth had been, how ofetn, and in what situations, I did NOT kiss her goodnight afterwards...

Should of had sex by the third date. Then talking about it wouldn't have mattered.

My worst 3rd date asked to borrow money and also disclose her sexual history without me asking for it. Both I felt when appropriate to ask or bring up. For me it was the little amount of money she asked for that was disturbing to me and the number of Partners she had.

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