Can you judge her? , what type of person is she? . Then how will you deal with it?

Err... not really any of your business is it?
Are you going to tell a partner everything you've done yourself? And expect -and are okay- to be judged by that?

Historian reporting in.

The most accurate and useful way to look at ALL history, particularly an individual's history, is to recognize that it is always a series of LESSONS AND EXPERIMENTS.

It is NOT true that people are born knowing who and what they are, such that everything they do or say from then on, demonstrates that. Instead, the majority of your life consists of you, doing things and trying things, and thereby DISCOVERING who you are and what you want your life to be about.

In short, the difference between two different people who have what you might think of as the same kind of "sordid past," is in what they think and feel about what they've been through. Whether their experiments, adventures and misadventures changed them, or excited them into desiring more of the same.

You have to get to know them, and yourself, in order to discover which path they have followed moving forward FROM their history.

In other words, CrystalFairy is correct.

My best advice is, NEVER ask.
And what is good for the goose, is good for the gander.

If you can not except it, she probably will not except you.
Then you are both better off finding other people, who will.

Good luck to you.

Depends.

How are you learning about it?

Are you asking her and she's trying to be honest?

Is she insecure about it and feels she has to get you to accept it so she sits you down and "confesses?"

Is it rubbed in your face by other people and things?

Are you insecure and you had to drag it out of her?

Are you both going to counseling and it was brought up?

What kind of patterns are coming up?

What kind of information is coming out?

I'm not exactly sure what you mean by "sexual history."
Number of partners? Activity?

I mean there's a difference between "I've slept with 100 guys," and, "Tuesday is goats and horse day, Friday is Catholic priest day."


Judging people is not an issue of "can you."
People judge. That's human nature. You're going to make judgments.
It's an issue of "how much are you going to let it affect you, how you feel and behave."


I don't know. Hopefully you do based on far more information than her sexual history, assuming her sexual history isn't a huge red flag like kids, animals, disease, and risky behavior.


Who knows. I'd need more information.

Actually this is none of your business.
Is she faithful to you?
That is all that matters.

What happens before you is none of your business unless there is a STD issue then it becomes your business. The same as it is none of her business what you did.

Don't ask but if it comes up, accept it. You were not a part of her life when it happened and it's part of her growth and understanding.

Besides, maybe she has learned a few things that benefit you...

What is to deal with if you don't know them by the time you call them a g/f then that is ones on fault... All those kinks should have been worked out by then..

Myself if there is questions I feel need to be asked I ask while getting to know them..

I never ask ohh how many people have you sleep with.. I'm more concerned if they have anything I can get...

But if they do tell me prior that they were a stripper or escort then yea I may have a concern,, But heck have a friend that was a male dancer does not mean he sleep with the whole town sure he had his share in his day.. But he is as true blue to the one he is with so that was the past and not the way he is now..

All I can say if someone tells you something they did in the past and it bothers them that much they should move on for nothing they do or say will change their minds...

The same way you deal with your Mother's.

Naw you did not go there

hahahahahahaha

(Meaning, be as concerned to know about it as much as you are
concerned about your Mother's history--which should not be much.)

No...but you should be able to grade her performance, based on her expertise.

Are you concerned about the history because she is not satisfying you enough?

Like others before has said "not your business."

Maybe she could ask you "where has your pecker been?"

FFS what kind of thread is this.

Treat her like the Virgin Mary and look forward, not backward.

History..we all have one.
What's done is done.
I don't fret about her's.
And she doesn't fret about my
time in a Turkish prison.

Female guards eh?
So there may be young turkeys around that look like you?