Ewwwwww! I can't imagine the stress of knowing I helped a pervert on the net to look at pictures of my daughters and be perverts. Ewwwww!

Not having a pic doesn't make my children any less a huge part of me. If your child knew what I wrote above, and they had a voice, I'm pretty sure they would say, "Mommy, please take my picture off. I don't want to be viewed by the bad people out there."

Yeah it's bold of me to say this. Am I wrong though?

So I realize this is extreme but I don't think it would be a bad idea for the owners to put a statement in the policies that states for parents to use caution when using childrens pics... that maybe a far off picture is okay but closeups are not recommended...

I'm still going to go with just having them off completely.

John

Another big hit topic.

well john you being the perfect parent and all good for you.
i though live in the real world where pervs actually shop,eat and work.I am much more worried about them then an imaginery drooling person and i am very fussy about who gets near me or my children..

Thanks for the compliment.

Hope all is well,

John

""""It's a site for adults, not an "adult" site """


+1

got kids?

So what is the threat by having a kids photo here? I'm not playing poke the bear, I dont see the "threat" Its my understanding my address and email are not public domain when I joined up. My city is listed, but...big city, I dont have my sons name pasted so, in some bizare fashion a guy would spot my son, and say "Hey! blah blah, how are you, get in my car"
best, CWG

"Ewwwwww! I can't imagine the stress of knowing I helped a pervert on the net to look at pictures of my daughters and be perverts. Ewwwww!"

wow, you would take that on yourself? not me...the only person's perversion i'm responsible for is...mine. period. i'm not codependent, i don't take responsibility for the emotions or thoughts of strangers. besides, their thoughts aren't exactly harming my child.

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"Not having a pic doesn't make my children any less a huge part of me. If your child knew what I wrote above, and they had a voice, I'm pretty sure they would say, "Mommy, please take my picture off. I don't want to be viewed by the bad people out there."

Yeah it's bold of me to say this. Am I wrong though?"

yes, you ARE wrong. i asked my kids THEIR opinion...and they could care less. they think it's kind of cool that i'm proud of them...and they LIKE seeing their face on the internet.

I agree lulu, this is as bad as you thinking everybody is out to get every child. sorry, If you are a parent that cares about your child you know who they are with and where and what they are doing at all times. so sorry I am not putting my child in a perverts hands because her pic is on the internet. And it would be a bad thing to who ever tried and if they did it would be someone who just happened to be around not off the internet.

My son 6 likes his face up.
Should I petition his cub scout group?? they have 30+ photos of those tasty little boys in uniform luring all those pervs from across the land...come to think of it, this is a pretty absurd concept. Pervs drooling over internet photos of kids.
Now then, when they bust these sickos they have child porno all over their computers, not kids in normal photos.
can moms get a vibe from dude they meet on the internet if he's more interested in her kids, than in her?

hey lulu, cute kid....and dont take that the wrong way for Gods Sake....

Come on people you can look at your # of views.

You & yours are really not that worldy (new word) here.
Don't you think there is enough pictures out there of kids to keep the wankers busy???

This is a Community where we have friends, make friends & share our lives.
Our good times & bad. We ask questions & give answers to things we experience.
That means things that include our kids.

Let's try this..
Hi John, I'm Lisa, Come in & relax,

To sin39 and others that will.

I have a picture of my 15 yr. old son in my profile.

It shows better than 1000 words what my daily life holds in store for my best friend and lover to be.

My enthusiasm for his enjoment of Football and Motorsports speaks volumes about my selfless love. My hope is that someone will comprehend that as a virtue and not a distraction. But the effect it has is self- policing in its imagery!

It also shows that my youngest is not much younger than the preponderance of views that my profile receives from women under 30.

Although, I would have a different attitude about it were I a female and vulnerable to the predatory fringe.

But on a more positive and valid note, showing off children does let others have a glimpse into one's daily life. I would not think that a woman with a teenage daughter would find it comfortable to bring her family into a relationship where unrelated teens would be expected to keep their potential feelings under wraps, so to speak, while in an intimately close environment where trust and dignity dwell.

she IS a cutie, eh?

and...i'll take that the way i WANT to, lol. and that is that she's the most adorable four-year-old on the planet.

Well I think you would have agreement all around that she is absolutely adorable.

Hi Lisa,

I'm sure you are aware of my other posts by now and I would think you can see a diverse person in terms of jumping from fun forums to advise forums, to more controversial ones like this.

In my regular life with freinds and family my life is absolutely relaxed and actually a party. 90-95% of my day is spent laughing and enjoying 5-10% is the stress of situations.

Arguing a point in these forums keeps my wits about me and also I enjoy when someone from the other side can say something thought provoking.

I appreciate what has been written by almost all from both sides and it's clear that these controversial topics get a lot of hits.

Changes things up a bit and gets peoples brains thinkin'

Enjoy,

John

This is an adult site 18 plus.................if kids can't write a comment here why are parents allowed to post pics of their child as their main pics. Now that is my concern, read it and don't stray from it. If you all read my first post, this is not about how much you love your kids, it is about what I just wrote above.

If any of you lot wants to argue this further, MOST of us here broke Mikes rule. Our pictures are supposed to be of us, not our kids, flowers or other pics but us as individuals. So think again when you want to carryon and say blah blah blah...

Not having my child on my profile or main pics don't mean I don't love my child. My child is my life and as a good parent, adult dating site is NOT the place to flaunt my love for my child just because I am her mom. If any man is interested in me, I will introduce him to my child the same with close friends.

lulu made a comment in earlier post that is disturbing, and like I said Child Protection Services will not find that as cool. Also, that behaviour will not go down well with guys she might be interested in.

Members that are going through custody battles, I would think twice what you say online especially anything to do with your children, it might haunt you in court.

If you so called adults don't think twice of your actions online when it comes to your children, what kind of parents are you?

My last comment to this post, I don't care if Mike ban me, ...his rules don't allow me to have a fair say on all the responses to this thread so tough, my bad luck! I have a life outside this site and I am blessed with a beautiful daughter that I love so much. That's my life.

sin my daughters pic is on my profile and she is 24.... do you want me to get her permission and have her come on her to say it is ok, I mean get real here . parents are to make decisions for their kids before they turn 18. and they are part of you, in fact my daughter is at least 1/2 me and I carried her 9 months so I feel she is ok to be in my profile.... I do not have her as a main pic but If I did so what you would be seeing a younger me. and is to say they are not younger pics of yourself. I could put my baby pic on here and still be within guidelines because it is me

OK folks - here is our official position on this:

- If you are under 18 years of age, you may not post a profile on the site. If we find out that you are underage, we will ban you and delete you immediately.

- However, we do not have any problem with adults who want to post pictures of their children on the site. If that is a part of their lives that they wish to share, they are free to do so as long as those pictures obviously follow our other photo guidelines, i.e. no copyrighted or obscene material, etc. But the child cannot be using the site - only the adult parent can.

Of course, if you do NOT want to post pictures of your children, that is fine as well. This is a parental decision that each parent must make on his/her own.

Also, our rules DO allow you to debate topics. You can argue back and forth about anything that you like as long as you do not attack other users in doing so. So saying that you disagree with someone is fine. Saying that they are an idiot is not.

Thanks,
Mike