There my be many reason for couples to go on their own merry way but mostly there is a pattern which get repeated. What do you think is the biggest reason for breaking up?

IMHO, married couples have troubles because of money... usually a lack thereof.

Well for me I'm trying a new type of a relationship.

I have spoken to a few of my knowledgeable friends about this type of thing.

I have decided to form a strong friendship first that way you are getting to know them more,
you both are more relax.
You know whether they are for you or not.
A relationship based on friendship.

No it's not a friendship with benefits
We are both not into that.
I don't like to use people nor do I want to be used.

I guess some have the same pattern with a break up.
It's hard to know if you only have one or two men in your life.

I'd say the biggest reason is because one or both parties give up on other party.

Love ends when you stop caring

Misunderstandings or miscommunication.

I think everyone has 'Non negotiatables' & 'zero tolerance', on things. No matter if they are aware of them are not.

Sometimes it takes an 'Oh hell no', moment.
Sometimes it is, 'Oh, not again'
Sometimes it is ' Who the hell are you? '
Sometimes it is ' I never was in love with you, anyway'.
Sometimes it is, ' Enough is enough'.
Sometimes it is, ' I would be happier alone'
Sometimes it is, ' I lost all respect for you'
Sometimes it is ' Growing apart'
Sometimes it is 'Selfishness'

When it is over, it is over.
The best we can do is figure out why & how.. about ourselves. NOT the other person.

Hopeless romanics are screwed.
Avoid these people. jk

Tbh is when people don't want to adjust your ways to better the relationship.. Weather if it's how you communicate or how to attend to your lover

Cumulative stress they can't and/or don't want to handle, especially without a commensurate, alleviating, positive emotional benefit.


People believing relationships are for self actualizing, pursuing them with that mindset, rather than seeing them as having a natural synergistic purpose bigger than themselves, their identity, or their individual personality.

When the trust is gone , or some family member keeps in affairs that should be private .

I think people get very lazy in their relationships. In the beginning , they make time for each other and make an effort to understand , please and communicate with the other person. It's like a garden that you fertilise and water and prune .

After being in the relationship for some years, many people stop working and investing in the relationship. They throw themselves into their work, into raisng their kids and even into their friendships sometimes, but the relationship ends up being the plant you keep outside that gets a rain-wetting now and then but no real form of cultivation otherwise which ultimately causes it to wither over time.

I would say.....money and the lack thereof....oftentimes you hear...that money is the root of all evil....this quote is everywhere...and the Bible is cited as the source....but the whole quote says.....the love of money is the root of all evil..... In today's world that makes more sense...in our pursuit of the Almighty dollar....our relationships take the hit. End of story...

Well said!!! That's why I'm looking for my best friend...

I agree laziness

which I believe becomes easier if people did not get together for the right reasons to begin with


we label a lot of things 'love' because we are in love with the word,, not because that's what they really are

maybe the biggest reason why two parties won't last its because they are lack of "TIME" for each other

Flatulence

Seriously I believe when we stop falling for that person each and everyday.. We start taking them for granted. We think ahh they will always be there.

We forget to say thank you for the little things, we forget to communicate positive instead of negatives.

We forget how very special that person really is and why we fell for them in the first place

Wow I thought infidelity would be the popular choice here but money and lack of interest...amazing

Most of the couples I have known, including those that divorced.
Infidelity was not the reason.

I totally agree with you here MsH., Chechingyouout and Annie.

I know relationships are complexed and we can't guarantee that people will grow together and remain in love over a lifetime, but it certainly doesn't help if we choose people who are not the right fit for us, or for the wrong reasons, or with misguided expectations.

And I truly believe that if we build a friendship with our mate while the passion grows , like Annie and Checkingyouout suggested, that relationships will stand a better chance of surviving .

Our relationships with our best friends are often so deep rooted that we don't give up on them even when things get tough, and we continue to invest ourselves in them decades after the friendship began.

And if we can truly combine the lover component with that best friend, what a powerful combo that is!

....(And very challenging to find )