Men often ask this, and I'm always stuck for an answer. I don't question me having 'bad' qualities, but I honest to god cannot think of them, lol.

Aren't bad qualities in the eye of the beholder? Something 1 person might consider to be bad, another might think is funny or okay.

Could you name your bad qualities? I'm still thinking about it myself, haha

ummm...hahahhahaa ya I am aware

headstrong stubborn opinionated mouthy intelligent at times belligerent

Well dang it I can name a few right off the top..That I know must drive others crazy as they do me and yet I accept them snicker


Let's see I am
Persistent.. like that better than saying I am stubborn
I am analytical...
I am a bit OCD.. can be charming at times

Well that is all I am going to cop to right off the bat.. Dang want there to be some discoveries left about me.

I'm stubborn and impatient....and, like Ms Rains, maybe a tad OCD....And some nights, I enjoy one toddy too many.
Other than that, I'm a frickin peach to be around.....

i can be a little shy,stubborn,

Really, I have none.
Really.


(See there's one :-)

Hahaha, I think you just need a Christian Grey to sort you out, lol.

Lol, persistent does have a nicer ring to it!

Hmmm... To me a little shy isn't a bad thing. But again, that may be in the eye of the beholder ...

A toddy? Haha. Had to look that one up, although context gave me a pretty good idea, one never knows...

Stubborn and impatient, yes ... Sometimes I am as well, but not always. Just depends what it's about.

Lol. but that's endearing

COMPLETELY OVERBEARING!!!!......Charm, wit, beauty,....and.....Oh yeah, Humility.

I'm sure I'm aware of some, and unaware of others.
And of those I think I'm aware of I'm probably wrong about some of them, and/or don't understand some others and think they're bad for the wrong reasons.
And of those I'm unaware of I probably wouldn't believe it if someone told me what one/they were.


Are they not very smart?
This is just asking "what are you insecure about?"
And basically they are asking you to fill your mind with your insecurities, of thinking how you are "bad."
And you can't really do that unless you either:
1. Turn off your emotions and look at them objectively.
2. Not turn off your emotions and start feeling extremely insecure as the only things you are thinking about are what make you bad, what people would judge you as a bad person for doing.

Feeling nothing or feeling insecure/like a bad person is not going to help a date or a conversation when you're trying to positively bond with someone.

And that assumes they are seen as actual "bad" qualities and don't idealize them. Like how some women pretend to be proud to be a "btch" but when you ask them what that means it's just a bunch of positive or relatively harmless adjectives.

Which means they either don't really know their "bad" qualities, or they're lying/prevaricating.
And if they actually list "bad" qualities and are proud of them? You're dating a psycho and are probably in immediate danger.

There's nothing positive that comes by asking the question without any kind of framework.

It's different if they are an employer asking this.
There is an implied qualifier. "What are your bad qualities/weaknesses...that are specifically relevant to your limited function of doing the job you are applying for?"


In a practical to dating sense some are, some aren't, some are both.


Not to someone that didn't know me where naming them offered little actual context as to the severity of how bad they are in a practical sense.

And if we're in the early stages, where it's all happy happy joy joy chemicals making us overlook each others negative qualities?
Then it's pointless and most likely a means to try "go too fast" and skip the next phase of the process where you actually have to face each others limitations.

Well let's get it right out there in the open.

Yes I am well aware of my shortcomings and it stings when others point them out,but I am trying to work on them to better my life but I have also noticed that some like to point out your faults to cover up their own, at least I am honest about mine.

Yeah, and I consider feeling comfy out in the open in orange speedos a bad quality too

It gets asked much in the quiz ppl can make on this specific dating site to determine by the answers if they want to talk to the person or not.
So there hasn't even been any conversation yet. And an awful lot of men ask this question.
And I seriously never really know what to say. Not cos I'm insecure, not cos I won't have any. I just can't think of any, so I guess they don't bother me, lol.
Like you state in your last paragraph, without any context, it's meaningless.

Hahaha, I'm giggling now, cos I feel the exact same way.
But ... do you consider that to be negative/bad? I don't!
Like you said, "I wouldn't want it any other way." Neither do I!! I think you had a huge grin on your face, and a cheeky giggle, when you typed that!

yep,but I ain't about to tell you.

Oh I am VERY aware of my bad qualities, and I am very honest about them when getting acquainted with guys.... WAY TOO HONEST !

But I would rather be hated for who I honestly am, than be falsely adored for who I am not.