Do you think a person KNOWS that they are unattractive or attractive? I think so.

i guess it depends on whether they are right or not...

Hmm, ok. I was chatting with this person and the individual admitted that she is cocky, arrogant and cheated on every person she was with. But I had to scratch my head MOE because she happens to be a boogah wolf (unattractive). Then further along in the conversation, she admitted she is fat,lazy and unattractive. She this lead me to believe that at least she knew she is yucky. SO I wonder if others feel the same about themselves and just don't openly admit it.

As the old adage goes beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but I've always felt there was more to it then that. I've seen some absolute horror shows end up with some smoking hot people, so I believe that there is more to it then psychical appearance. For a guy if you are not attractive you have to have charisma and a massive ego or really deep pockets. Women have it a little easier if they are not attractive, all they have to do is hang out at bars and be willing to do almost anything sexual. I don't think there are really any winners in these situations.

I on the other hand am a total lose because I'm not attractive, I have very little charisma, even less ego, and just enough money to survive, hence why all I'm looking for is friends. I have no delusions of grandeur.

Attractiveness, can be in the flick of a light switch.

Well hell yeah!!

This is so subjective. I have friends that men and women call eye candy and you know what nothing about them attracts them to me physically I enjoy the personality traits of these people or they have been colleagues for years.

I have friends that aren't eye candy and dang the are like magnets..


I think attractiveness is something that comes from within drawing others to them. Whether it is the self confidence that oozes out of them or a smile.. I don't think it is something that can really be defined.. People just are attractive by being who they are..

Do I think they know that they are unattractive to whom??? You? Me?
Doesn't matter what we think it matters to them and who they are attracting.

I think what we rate ourselves on attractiveness is probably way lower than most see us...

One of the most sexiest attractive thing in the world to me is someone that is comfortable in their own skin. Not afraid of embracing who they are and enjoying life.

At least you are honest with yourself and know your limitations.

It's not about who you or me find attractive. It's more about how the person views themselves physically. I have vibe across ppl who told me, "I'm know I'm ugly so I do this, that and the third to get this person." Its like they know how to play tricks to get ppl to notice them.

I think they may figure out if a certain individual who finds them attractive

but not until they observe that persons reaction

everyone is attractive to SOME others, but not to ALL others

but some assume they are attractive to all others
and some assume they are unattractive to all others

Well Hells bells we learn that from birth in my field we call that " learned behavior "lol


I would still respectively disagree..
I am not ugly nor am I drop dead gorgeous.
So am I attractive?? I honestly don't give it much thought... That would for the person observing me to make up their minds.

What I am is comfortable in my own skin.

Do I make men pant when I walk into the room not to my knowledge
nor do I make babies cry when I smile at them. Nope neither..

So again some will find me attractive and others won't. No big deal
and at the ripe age of 55 I don't care...

I think they certainly know when they are looking their best and most attractive in dress and appearance, and that most people are attracted to more than just good looks when seeking a partner.

Sorry to say, but this is horribly judgemental.
Someone who's fat and maybe what you consider to be ugly as well, isn't necessarily unattractive. She apparently is according to your standards, but not everybody holds such standards.
Attractiveness has little to do with being pretty and/or slim.
I have a friend whom you can consider to look like the back end of a bus, but she always has been very attractive to others. She had tons of friends, everyone wanted to be her friend, and she could choose which boy/man she wanted. And I'm talking the most popular and good-looking ones.

Oftentimes the so called "good-looking" ppl are arrogant and unpleasant, because they think they are god's gift to men/women.
The ones that tend to be most attractive, usually are not aware of it, because they're not trying to be popular. They just ARE. Because of their personality.

Bullseye!!! Exactly!!!! Couldn't have said it any better

Again, this girl acts like she is God's gift to the world! Unbelievable how she acts! However, she considers HERSELF ugly. Not about what I or anyone else thinks.

Do I find her appearance to be unattractive? Si! However, she can be as cute as a button and her personality sucks. Most of the arrogant ppl I run into are almost never Hollywood gorgeous and always get passed up by potential dates. Sometimes I feel that arrogance is a form of their defense mechanism.

Very few people are absolutely "unattractive."

Most everyone is "attractive" to a certain audience.

Many to most simply have a problem accepting or realizing the audience that will find them attractive.

And far too many preoccupy themselves with the flaws of others in deciphering that group, rather than their own.

You might be right because she calls other girls fat and she herself is out of shape and has no desire to do anything about it. I can go on for days, but clearly I can see why she is single. But looks are just a small factor to the problem.

...I think in some cases a person "knows" they are attractive..and what is considered attractive may not be in someone else's eyes...I have noticed that a lot of people that think they are nice looking may not be..but they carry themselves in a manner that allows them to feel good about themselves...then I have seen a lot of really nice looking people that pick themselves apart...but all in all...the ones that "know" they are..are usually down right ugly on the inside...

It depends how they themselves define attractive I think.

I think this affects the way we look at ourselves.

For instance, if I believed I had a big nose and thought that women would find it unattractive I'd probably find myself unnatractive.

I don't think everyone thinks they are, either way. I don't like to talk about looks, because it can be quite an uncomfortable subject for me.


Only because it shouldn't be the first thing we notice about someone.


I have to say, however, I always thought my most recent ex, was "typically handsome".


He used to tell me that he loved it when a woman takes control of him. That really wasn't a problem at ALL.


I would still want the conversations to go well, with whoever I ended up with.