I'll go with, that lots of people either THINK they are attractive, or THINK that they are not. None of this "know" stuff.

I've met a bunch of people who said that they knew they were attractive. Some of them appeared to me to objectively be attractive (i.e. even features, generally healthy appearance, well clothed, that kind of thing).

Some of them, I had to hold back a guffaw, or a startled look of stunned disbelief when they told me how hot they were.

Now. Were all of them being honest? That's where I'm suspicious. After all, there are tons of advice people who tell you to "be positive; be assertive. Lie." if you've ever read a dating guide, or paid any attention at all to advice shows, you know the kind of advice I mean.

So are all the people we meet who say THEY think they are attractive, telling the truth?

My short answer then, to the opening question, is a firm NO, for all but the most obviously perfect or egregious specimens. At least if we are talking objectively.

Taking myself as a case in point: I know, because they told me, that more than one woman has, in the past at least, found me attractive. However. I don't think of myself as such, because of all the times someone HAS been attracted to me, things have not worked out in the long run.

So I tend to think that I AM attractive, from a certain distance. But not after someone really gets too close, apparently. Sort of an inverse ratio sort of deal. Where does someone like me fit in to this? Or do I?

Oh, and of course, everyone has different things that are attractive, TO THEM. There are guys I know who turn into mush on the ground, if a woman has enormous breasts. Some of them don't care what the breasts are attached to. The women those guys are drawn to, might not know they are attractive...to these guys.

By the way,OP, I forgot I wanted to ask: I've heard people talking about people knowing that they are good looking, a bunch of times. Usually, there's another shoe to drop. Some idea that they had behind bringing the question up.

Sometimes, the person asking is trying to work out why someone who THEY think is really good looking, is also callous, rude, and generally obnoxious, and they suspect it's due to egotism connected to the good looks.

Do you have a secondary concern or question behind why you asked this?

All I know is...
I'm so pretty so pretty so pretty yes so pretty am I...lmao .

Not all, but I totally concur!

Outside of wondering why this hideous cookie monster thinks she has a shot with me? Nope! And uhm save the clinical psychology "stuff" there is no hidden meaning or wonders going on in my world. I'm not sure if you're in that chosen field, however I am... I just like to get feedback from various walks of life.

We cool? Good

I've seen some very pretty men actually

Oh and I personally think the girl is BUTT ugly, so I'm at a real lost about her nasty attitude and ego. I simply don't get it.

My best friend was very overwight for many years , but she never had a problem getting slim attractive boyfriends .

She believed herself to be sexy, and she projected that in the way she walked, talked and smiled.

There were others who felt she was fat and "unpretty" in the face , but she never allowed her perception of herself to be shaped by those perceptions.

Whoopi Goldberg the actress,never fit society's mould of what beauty is, but she never seemed to have a problem with her looks, even in a superficial bubble like Hollywood whose image of beauty is so uni- lateral.

So to answer your question, people can know what other people perceive their looks to be , but that doesn't mean that they automatically adopt it as their personal view of themselves.

You understandably misunderstood my reason for asking for your motivation. It's actually all about targeting the concern properly. Knowing WHY someone asks such a question, helps us make a better job of suggesting possibilities which apply.

Hideous cookie monster, eh? I have a slightly different response given your help in focusing. I still have to make an assumption, you can say if I guess wrong, with no hard feelings. My guess is that since YOU already know how good looking you think YOU are, and you know that this "cookie monster" is unattractive to you, the mystery is why she could BOTH know she is unattractive, AND still cop an attitude with you.

I may have an answer or two for you to consider.

* from a male hetero perspective at least, we are strongly encouraged to take an aggressive approach and attitude at all times, in order to appear to be appealingly confident, and to make it appear we are decisive about our attraction to the woman. It wouldn't surprise me if this advice isn't promulgated across the genders in some form. Therefore in the C.M's case, she could be PUTTING ON an attitude, in an effort to be more appealing in spite of your rejection.

* another possibility, again from my own side of things: the most common human behavior used to cover up embarrassment, is hostility. C.M. knows they are unattractive, but took a shot and tried with you anyway. your rejection was very embarrassing, so C.M. resorted to attack in return.

It's one of the reasons I personally recommend NOT rejecting people impolitely. It never accomplishes anything positive.

I just ignore ppl like that. Very simple.

That's a very good? I think i look ok or slightly above average.lol how ever the triangle thing does often =cute in some type of way.

Do people know they’re unattractive? They may figure it out.

lol

Some are just that, cute in some type of way.

You say it as it is, attraction is from the opposite side. People tend to see the beauty from outside, but God made us in his own image, so weather or not someone likes us from the outer appearance, this does not matter.

Attraction comes at first glance for the humans, for me, I observe the attitude and characters they show. The beauty of someone does not necessarily means you become attracted to them.
They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but sometimes you see and behold some wonders, it's upsetting . Personally !!

There are a lot of experts on this subject. For myself I have never thought of myself being attractive or unattractive.
You be the judge of that is what I always felt.
If one is cranky and annoying you consider it unattractive.
if one is happy and kind you would consider it attractive.

Conclusion,It's definitly in the eye of the beholder

Well, I think I'm just plain ugly. I'm getting older, my body is falling apart..but that's me....so I don't care. I don't just look at attractiveness on the outside, it has to be on the inside as well. The INSIDE is the most important to me.

most people know they are are they aint. some of the most unattractive people pretend that they think theyre attractive to conver up their insecurity.

I think a lot of people rely on what others say to them or let them know. But I also believe that it comes from within ..how you see and feel about yourself no matter what others tell you.