Topic: Question for women
Cole's photo
Thu 04/07/16 10:11 PM
A few years ago I had a dream about a childhood friend of mine, who I actually haven't seen in 20 years, due to the fact that she moved away at the end of eighth grade.. In the dream I told her that I had been in love with her for, at that point, 18 years, so doing the math since the year before she moved away. When I woke up it occurred to me that in 2009, she sent me a very curious MySpace message that made me think at that point that she may feel the same way deep down. The text of her message read as follows, "Cole, I'm so glad that you remember me! You are one of the fondest memories that I have from Valley Center." By the time she moved away we had already known each other for 7 years (we met in 1st grade, and were really good friends the whole time.) My question is does her message to me sound like she does in fact love me deep down the same way I love her?

mysticalview21's photo
Fri 04/08/16 04:56 PM
Edited by mysticalview21 on Fri 04/08/16 04:57 PM

A few years ago I had a dream about a childhood friend of mine, who I actually haven't seen in 20 years, due to the fact that she moved away at the end of eighth grade.. In the dream I told her that I had been in love with her for, at that point, 18 years, so doing the math since the year before she moved away. When I woke up it occurred to me that in 2009, she sent me a very curious MySpace message that made me think at that point that she may feel the same way deep down. The text of her message read as follows, "Cole, I'm so glad that you remember me! You are one of the fondest memories that I have from Valley Center." By the time she moved away we had already known each other for 7 years (we met in 1st grade, and were really good friends the whole time.) My question is does her message to me sound like she does in fact love me deep down the same way I love her?




could be ... I have heard a story of how people liked ...loved one another when younger ... but went away even married to others ...then divorced and met the person again when younger and went on to have a happy life together ... is possible ...

petalsoft63's photo
Sat 04/09/16 12:23 PM
I don't interpret her text as her saying she's in love with you. Her text sounds just what eerie...she's fla you remember her. But nowhere does it hint that she's deeply in love with you.

You should still continue with yourfriendship with her. As it progresses I'm sure if she has more than just friends feelings for you she will tell you in a way that you will truly believe she loves you.

peggy122's photo
Sat 04/09/16 12:27 PM

I don't interpret her text as her saying she's in love with you. Her text sounds just what eerie...she's fla you remember her. But nowhere does it hint that she's deeply in love with you.

You should still continue with yourfriendship with her. As it progresses I'm sure if she has more than just friends feelings for you she will tell you in a way that you will truly believe she loves you.


I agree with this :smile:

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Sat 04/09/16 01:50 PM
"Cole, I'm so glad that you remember me! You are one of the fondest memories that I have from Valley Center."


This ^^^? From 2009 ? NO noway

TxsGal3333's photo
Sun 04/10/16 07:47 AM
Humm well honestly I have looked for my first bf on facebook and a few other sites like classmates ect.. Has nothing to do cause I have a crush or think something will happen, only cause it was good memories and to see how he is doing now..

I think you are reading too much into it. But then you will never know till you contact her and see if she is willing to meet you that is if she is even single...

sparkyae5's photo
Sun 04/10/16 09:54 AM

Humm well honestly I have looked for my first bf on facebook and a few other sites like classmates ect.. Has nothing to do cause I have a crush or think something will happen, only cause it was good memories and to see how he is doing now..

I think you are reading too much into it. But then you will never know till you contact her and see if she is willing to meet you that is if she is even single...


GOOD ADVICE......:smile:

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Sun 04/10/16 10:13 AM
does her message to me sound like she does in fact love me deep down the same way I love her?

IMO no.

IMO this
"Cole, I'm so glad that you remember me! You are one of the fondest memories that I have from Valley Center."

reads more like something someone would write in a yearbook at a high school reunion.


Maybe if it said "Cole, I'm so glad that you remember me! You are one of the fondest memories that I have from Valley Center. I still think about you a lot, sometimes even 'what might have been.' We should get together sometime and catch up. I'd love to see if you're still as hot, lol."
Or something like that, then maybe.

If she didn't mention anything about a future together, then it's just a memory of the past she really just wants in the past, and really you are just "one of" the memories of her past.


One part I don't really understand is:
she sent me a very curious MySpace message... "Cole, I'm so glad that you remember me!"

Saying she sent a very curious message kinda implies that she contacted you out of the blue.
But when she says "I'm so glad that you remember me!" it seems it's a response to some kinda of message from you.

But, most importantly (IMO), that was 7 years ago and it seems she hasn't contacted you since.

So...just on that alone, I'd also say she doesn't harbor any reciprocal deep feelings.