How do you make your new partner understand.. that you're still on M2..
Because you enjoy the forums...
..hmmmm....lol...

You meet someone new...
But they constantly give you a hard time for still being on M2.. the dating social site... you reassure them ,that you're only still on the site because you enjoy the forums....
But they! don't really believe you..
They shoot you a dirty look every time you log on.... you now feel like you have to sneak around behind there back... just to enjoy the forums....
Of course you've tried explaining to them why you enjoy being here so much.... but! they don't believe you..
They almost seem jealous of this place.. they constantly roll there eyes at you... making snide little comments..ie

So did lots of women message you today..
( Or men... giving your gender of course.. okay preference not gender..lol)... but anyways my point is they give you a hard time for still being on here... .. have you personally experienced the problem I speak of..
And how did you deal with it.?

How about getting her on here too so she can enjoy the forums too and the she may 'get' why you are still on here....

Actually have never dealt with that issue as long as I have been here and dated as well.. But then I did not meet them here nor did I tell them every time I log in ect...

When I joined this site it was more of a Social site the last few years they have been leaning more towards a Dating site. To me it is no different then talking to others in public it is what it is.. Now if you were here strictly for dating and remained I might even question it myself...

Heck to me this is more like facebook just here to connect with friends...

But then it all depends how one uses the site.. And if they are still flirting with others then there could be a problem.

I did date a guy at one time that was on a site he remained I did not have a problem with that till I found out he had been talking to someone else about meeting them..And that was after we had been seeing each other for a year.. Needless to say he is no more... So it can be a two handed sword...

ummm.. never going to happen ... why don't I just jump out of the frying pan and straight into the fire...lol.. and besides! if I did that. The amount of Gossip she would receive about me...well.. I would really start getting the dirty looks from her..lmao

...well.. yes exactly.. about the Facebook thing.. that's how I explain it I say you're always on Twitter or Facebook..m2.. is the same thing in some senses.... but they still don't really quite believe me...hmmm..
They love me when I flirt they just don't love me when I flirt with others..lol

The forums are great here granted ,but you came looking for what you now have . If you keep reading the same chapter you will never find yourself.

I myself..also looking for the one that gets me back off the "IN"

..ohhh.. she told you to say this didn't she!?..lol....lol.. you're not helping me make my case brother..lol.jk

you can write on your profile that you're in a relationship,not looking or whatever the situation may be

..h.mmm..well.. that might give them a little reassurance and a little proof.. that you are not interested in the dating side of the site... butt it's still not going to resolve the base problem.. . Trust issues.. although when it comes to me!!.. they probably have good reason not to trust me..

No ..no one tells me to do anything for the last 5yr's. I live on my own ..and that's why I'm here . To try and rectify that .

well when you Rectify that..
You will find you will have someone to tell you to do everything once again..lol

I can only hope.

Ah yes the trust issue ....
Find another bro...someone who will let you touch and feel the cake as well as eat it too

I wouldn't be on M2.

If anything that would be disrespectful.

I also wouldn't hang out in brothels because I enjoyed talking to the girls, or hang out in strip clubs because I enjoyed the music, or go to the happy ending asian massage parlor because I enjoyed small hands touching me.
I also wouldn't just keep seeing a FWB because we enjoyed hanging out together.
Nor would I masturbate all day knowing we were having sex that night just because I 'enjoyed' it.

I have a lot of other things I can enjoy, I do enjoy, and my partner would simply be more important to me than even the potential possibility of the barest whisper of something improper.

Personally, it would hurt me if something happened like someone she worked with went up to her and said "hey, aren't you dating/partnered with this guy? I saw him on the internet dating site...blah blah blah...and/or I started emailing him...blah blah blah"
Why would I want to potentially threaten her with that?

I can't help her avoid every stupid thing I do, but that drama is easily avoided by avoiding stupid situations like hanging around a dating site while in a relationship.


You know what that's called?
Communication.
You really need to pay attention to that.
And when it's the indirect kind like that, it sometimes helps to bring it into the direct kind by talking about it rather than just trying to placate them to stop bugging you about it so you can keep doing it.

What's really important to you?
The mingle forums? Your partner? Or you trying to make sure she knows her place and you won't change anything at all no matter how small in any fashion whatsoever for the sake of the relationship and this is going to become a passive aggressive indirectly communicated war of control?


Personally, I would ask myself "what do I gain by continuing to do this? What will I lose or potentially lose by continuing to do this?
If I give something up now, will I have lost it forever even if circumstances change? What is more important to me?

My last boyfriend was very insecure.

First it started off with him wanting to give up my dance partner of 2 years , which I did.

And then he didn't want me hanging with my best guy friend, which I did.

And then it came down to him wanting me to cut all connection with my best friend altogether which I refused to do.

Since then, if I have just started going out with a person , and they are that suspicious from that early on, I'm running in the opposite direction.

no1phD announces that he has a gf so stay away girls

Play it safe...Have a bed big enough for 3.

...lol...yup..your alter ego here..hmmm..she might not find the humor...but flirting and being flirted with just has a way of brightening up a persons day...not to mention you really matter to a lot of us...geez..if Johnny Depp quit acting because his gal didn't like him working with pretty women...devastating thought...your kinda like the captain Jack of the forums..could you imagine trying to produce a Pirates of the Caribbean without the captain...your just going to tell her the show can't go on without you...(sniffles)......dang..where's the Kleenex...

..i never said that..lol..ohh..
And I prefer to think of them as lady friends as opposed to girlfriend...
Girlfriend just screams commitment..

This is too horrible.
I'm not sure what I will do or even say.
The thought makes me teary.

Mingle 2 or him?

I have met a lot of interesting people and learnt so much about this world.
It's a form of social media that's been a blessing in some cases. You just forget the few nuts on here.

I can understand that the ex left him because she met a guy on a dating sight.
Shouldn't he have dealt with those issues?
Yes what about the trust issue if you have been open and honest?