..i never said that..lol..ohh..
And I prefer to think of them as lady friends as opposed to girlfriend...
Girlfriend just screams commitment..

I wouldn't be on M2.

If anything that would be disrespectful.

I also wouldn't hang out in brothels because I enjoyed talking to the girls, or hang out in strip clubs because I enjoyed the music, or go to the happy ending asian massage parlor because I enjoyed small hands touching me.
I also wouldn't just keep seeing a FWB because we enjoyed hanging out together.
Nor would I masturbate all day knowing we were having sex that night just because I 'enjoyed' it.

I have a lot of other things I can enjoy, I do enjoy, and my partner would simply be more important to me than even the potential possibility of the barest whisper of something improper.

Personally, it would hurt me if something happened like someone she worked with went up to her and said "hey, aren't you dating/partnered with this guy? I saw him on the internet dating site...blah blah blah...and/or I started emailing him...blah blah blah"
Why would I want to potentially threaten her with that?

I can't help her avoid every stupid thing I do, but that drama is easily avoided by avoiding stupid situations like hanging around a dating site while in a relationship.


You know what that's called?
Communication.
You really need to pay attention to that.
And when it's the indirect kind like that, it sometimes helps to bring it into the direct kind by talking about it rather than just trying to placate them to stop bugging you about it so you can keep doing it.

What's really important to you?
The mingle forums? Your partner? Or you trying to make sure she knows her place and you won't change anything at all no matter how small in any fashion whatsoever for the sake of the relationship and this is going to become a passive aggressive indirectly communicated war of control?


Personally, I would ask myself "what do I gain by continuing to do this? What will I lose or potentially lose by continuing to do this?
If I give something up now, will I have lost it forever even if circumstances change? What is more important to me?

My last boyfriend was very insecure.

First it started off with him wanting to give up my dance partner of 2 years , which I did.

And then he didn't want me hanging with my best guy friend, which I did.

And then it came down to him wanting me to cut all connection with my best friend altogether which I refused to do.

Since then, if I have just started going out with a person , and they are that suspicious from that early on, I'm running in the opposite direction.

This.
Not entirely convinced you actually are in some kind of relationship -sorry, but it's your own behaviour here that makes me question that, the same behaviour I spose that makes you not want her on Mingle and read it all.

If you are in some sort of relationship, then all what Ciretom said.
What is more important: Mingle or a partner? If the answer is Mingle, you should end the relationship. Or at least tell her, and in that case take your pictures the hell off of Mingle, provided it is really you.
If she doesn't know your username and there's no photos of you, chances of her finding you are slim.
But in all honesty ... read Ciretom's post.
Just very disrespectful.

I see this place...as the same as Facebook..a social..place..

Well, it is not. Mingle2 is a dating site.

lol

..ohh !!..your just ..loving this aren't you..lol.

..well.that might be!!..but I use it as a source of entertainment....
My entertainment..lol

The respondents in this thread are assuming that you are in a committed relationship Doc , which doesn't seem to be the case on YOUR end.

But does the lady of the hour know that you have placed her in the generic category of lady friend?

I don't think there is a right or wrong when it comes to you talking to people on mingles while dating your "friend"

All it comes down to is what you can mutually cope with from each other.

Whether you choose to stay on mingle or not will not change the fact that you are a shameless flirt . If you are not flirting here, you are likely to be flirting elsewhere.

If she makes the decision to be with you, she ultimately has to make a decision to accept that part of your personality or you have to make a decision to shut that part of your personality down.

If neither of you can do that, then the writing is already on the wall from what I see.

But first things first.

Does anybody intend to inform this woman that she is not in a committed relationship as she assumes ?

..well.that might be!!..but I use it as a source of entertainment....
My entertainment..lol