You send a friendly, hello type message to someone after reading their profile, and they message you back in a friendly way, so you send a couple more, then ............. nothing, all contact stops.

So you just presume that they are busy, or haven't been online etc, then after a week you see that they have been online all that time, sometimes they post on the forums etc.

My questions then, are to the recipient, have you ever just decided not to carry on talking with someone and if you have, for what reason did you just stop talking to them and did you not think it polite to at least send them a message saying why?

And to the sender, would you or have you ever sent them a message back asking why they stopped contact, and would you try to re-ignite the conversation, or would you just accept that either:

The other person just didn't want to talk to you in the first place
They decided you weren't worth their time.
They got bored of you.
They don't have very good communication skills, or are they just plain ignorant.

Right, all yours

From my experience...you just described a typical scammer...they generally lose interest when you start talking local to you stuff...'cause they have no clue, they being scammers from a different country and all...so manners is one thing lacking, and the ability to adapt and switch bait is another...If they suddenly stop keeping in touch with you....thank your lucky stars....the ending is never good....just saying...

If they are actually posting in the forums off and on I would say send another e-mail. We have been having some glitches where mail did not show up or it is there but looks like they have read it. Therefore not opening it again..

If it is one that has only posted once in the fourms and your e-mails are kind of far between then maybe a scammer no guarantee..

Then you have those that come in straight to the forums and don't deal with mail very often.

But yea it is only courtesy to at least acknowledge e-mails.

But then if when you last e-mailed them you pretty much answered what they responded with but did not give them a question to respond back to they may feel the e-mail did not warrant a response and left it at that.

Always when in doubt send them another e-mail..

Honestly if someone sends me a e-mail and we go back 4-5 times and it pretty much just ends and not someone I carry conversations on if they respond back acknowledging what I responded with something like ohh yea I understand. To me the conversation has ended and I do not respond back..

With all that said many e-mails I open if they are not forum posters and from tin buck two under 30 I don't respond to those anymore.. Those that just send Hi, Hi pretty ect I SMH and do not respond.

To me no response is the same as saying I'm not interested..And it is time to move on..

I do that sheet all the time

I am easily bored outta my mind by messaging

typically I follow the rule of 3

you got 3 shots to impress me with your wit, humor or intelligence

and catch my attention long enough for me to actually want to have a conversation with you

if your first 3 messages consist of
1. a cut and paste job intro paragraph as long as my arm ...nope

2. a short message of only one or two words like " hi"...uh you better up your game son quick

3. you lead with a compliment " your hot" and your follow up to that is
" I am just sitting here watching tv and bored" you fukingkiddingme???

I would know if it was a scammer straight away and wouldn't even acknowledge them, but i know some that i've messaged do post on the forums, so probably not likely to be a scammer

Thanks for your reply though.

Thanks for the reply Kristi,

I have had a few instances where people have said they didn't receive a message and vice versa so could be that?

I usually just presume that if they don't respond then it could just be they don't want to talk, which means i'm reluctant to send another email in case it pee's them off

i wouldn't even bother wasting my time with that, i'd at least ask what you're wearing

I'm good at pissing some off I say send another if it ends the same way chalk it up and move on.. At least then you know..

I think my face alone is enough to piss people off

That happens to me all the time,




As for the scammer's,
I think its more fun to play along and when they ask you for money,
tell them... I was rather hoping you could loan me $100 instead

what, the sending or receiving part

yeah i like to play tease-a-scammer now and again

Apart from the the women on the forums I kinda inter-act with, most women who are bold enough to send me a "first" message...get treated like a scammer...sorry. Took awhile to figure this out...but my gut feeling always pays off..They have nothing to lose...On the other hand a genuine woman sending a "first" messages, generally finds me at her doorstep, as I invite myself over for a little drinky...lol...and that surprises her...followed by having words thrown back and forth...okay, I am dreaming this up....From experience, genuine woman...never make the first move.... on me ....just saying...

Hey giantowl!

I have found that chatrooms are the last place to look for courtesy...

Or consistencty

.... or transparency.lol.

The chatroom presents you with more choices throretically but also greater exposure to losers as well.

It is better to keep your expectation relatively low to buffer yourself from disappointment.

And as in offline dating, only make time for the people who make time for you

Anyone who likes you will always make room for you.

If they dont, keep it moving till you find someone who will

I had a scammer txt me the usual;
Hi Hansome, couldn't help read your profile. I'm dums@$!scammer (Not her real name.) I need a sugar daddy to take me away from all my problems. Txt me at scammersaredum.com (Not a real site.)

So, I just txted her
Sry, read my profile. I'm only here for online friends. Bye bye.

Well a week goes by and this scammer has cut and pasted the same exact message and sent it to me. I just nuked her. Ummm block of death. These types are typical.

Hey Giantowl/ BIG AL,

Here is my spin...

You message them or they message you..after going back and forth a few times there is so much that can be said now initially they may not be interested and just being cordial.. but soon things start to go from small talk and kind of get into personal issues like what they do for a living? how many kids? now If both parties are cool with that.. it may continue if both parties are cool with that and developing a sort of friendship... but If one party or the other are not interested and was just being nice they may start to gradually not put more into them e-mails or communicate..

Or some folks may not like the back and forth of emails.. and the time consuming waiting for replies and time inbetween the next response..It kind of disturbs the flow..(I tend to feel this way)..

But either way if it is someone in the forums and it stopped I would keep future exchanges in the threads and forums..

Unless of course you know where they live.. then I would suggest hiding in the driveway and waiting for them to return from work and a surprise hello would be in order...

Well, I am easy.
I expect all questions to me are mod-related.
No need to keep up the emails afterwards.

You simply cannot make assumptions on the internet.
It is a distraction, for most people, from their real
lives..they use it for in-between times.

It is rather like attributing human characteristics
to dogs..you are attempting to make internet users..
human..just like you..same reactions as you might have.

When all they really are..are words strung together.
From somewhere.

I couldn't agree more...

I ain't a scammer but I love the forums....lolzzzzz

Hmmmmmmmm.....On Second thought????....I think so too....lolzzzzz JK