how are you sweetie?

Curious...


It should probably be stated that my ex had several other issues he had to deal with. Think it was just his excuse. Two days after he moved out, he slept with my sister...sooooo...yea.

I haven't dated anyone with 1 part time kid.

hmmm.... sounds like a winner

Damn! That really sux! What a loser?!

Lol, yea.... I see all sides of this discussion. I would love to have a blended family. I think it would balance a lot of things out.

i dated a few gals with lottsa hellians.!!!! lmao

I have to disagree with you...there are guys out there that will date single women with children. Besides if they don't like you because you have children, then would you really want to date them anyway?
I make it very clear that my children come first in my life. I also make it clear that IF my children don't like the man that I am dating...I won't be dating them long! Men come and go in our lives...but our children are there forever!!
Please don't judge all men by the ones you have crossed..there are some good men out there that will treat your children great! You just have to be patient and find that special one.

Yeah, I think we've all probably got a story like that!

dragonlove...sounds like two things, one he thought it was an excuse..two clearly he was right, he had issues....lol lots of them. that's really rough...i have my faults, plenty of them, but i'm always decent to people. that's just a low blow....no pun intended.

Lol, yes but the pun is funny.

I know I will find a guy out there who appreciates both my energetic blue eyed little girl and my sense of humor and enjoyment of life in general. until then I enjoy chatting about almost anything

i dated a gal with 2 kids , i knew i wouldnt replace there dad, but they respected me because i showed repect to there mother , and showed respect to them, and cause i was funny.!!!! cheers.

Mmmmmm humor now you're talking

If you cannot laugh at yourself and see the humor in life, how can you really enjoy life? I laugh at myself more than anything else.

Just tossing this one up in the air, dont beat me up for this

How many woman would date a man without a job, I found it puts a burden on a situation as does children puts on a relationship.

Mind you, my child is grown and i have a different perspective for the remaining part of my life

cheers dragon.!!!

I understand what you are trying to get across Mike, but think about this.... would you date someone who didn't like to go out.. who had no drive to do anything? That is how a guy with no job looks.... (keep in mind, if he is actively looking, or is attending school, these are different situations)

How do you compare having no job to having kids? Its not like we are asking anyone to support our children!! If we date someone that doesn't have a job...then we have to support his rusty arse!! We support our own children...atleast I know I do!

At the risk of approaching a possibly unpopular view, here it goes.

Have any of the Single with children individuals taken a view into the window of the mind of a THIRD party? It is my opinion that much could be gained from all side if, single parents would stop viewing the world from THEIR center of the universe. A third party (not the parent of the children), has hopes, dreams, feelings and desires in life as well.

Think of this for a moment. (the third parties view).

How many times do you want to become attached to not only ONE person but possibly 2 or more only to see it disapear without a say? The third party bares all of the responsibility for the love, care and safety of your children but NONE of the authority and none of the guarantees that come with being the biological parent. When it's over, it's over!!!

Single parents could do their part in choosing their new partners well from the get go. And making them feel they are PART of the entire package and not just the third wheel where everyone else is of greater value or importance.

If one truly wants anothers life entwind with theirs, then say it, act like it and live it.

I am not trying to be confrontational but there is more than one side and it is important for everyone to acknowledge and except the risks and gains of BOTH sides and be grateful and aware of what ALL has to loose or gain.

Gams.. I do see the whole thing. Not to sound like I think I am perfect( cause I am not) but I allow the parental side to totally come out. Or at least I did with my ex. He still calls my daughter cause even though he was a complete loser to me, he really did love her and I would never take it away from him. Strange as it sounds I consider him more her father than her biological one.

There are down sides to it any way you look at it. Basically you just have to just make the jump.