I don’t have any children. I’m just curious how people feeling about dating, and having kids at home. I’m sure it’s different when the kids are older than it is when they’re little, but just in general. how do you feel about it.

NO.. Not small ones or grown leeches...

NOT when I was younger & my own kids were younger ( too much drama / other people's kids & ex's) & certainly not now.


FREEDOM !!

Well.. I have children at home young teenagers... I don't bring dates home I don't discuss my dating life with them..
No.no.. for right now they have a mother.. I do not wish to do anything to make them think otherwise... when they are older things will be different.. but as a father it is my responsibility to keep them feed. Clothed. . Warm and dry.. happy and safe... and free from drama..yup.. I'm a little teapot.. short and stout.. tip me over and watch me.. pout..hmmm. sorry I have two boys never needed to sing that song much..lol

I don't date men who have young children.

Myself when my kids were little and I dated they never met the guy I was dating for at least 2-3 months.. Then introduced them slowly by going and doing something with them, so they could get use to him..

And well to this day my kids don't meet anyone I date unless I have dated them for about a month.. Matter of fact normally don't take them around my family till then..

By then you know if you want to date them. And it should be to the point you know if you want your kids or family to meet them.

But everyone is different it just all depends on the ages of the kids and how comfortable you are with the one you are dating..

But while my kids were growing up no one ever lived with me.. Did not feel they needed anymore problems then they had to deal with.. Even dated one guy for 12 years. He had his place and I had mine..

My Kids are grown now and they still don 't get involved with my love life.
When they were little I didn't bring my dates home ever. That was separate part of my life.

I felt it was my responsibility to keep my children healthy and happy and no drama of whomever I dated.

I can think of only one person my kids ever met that I dated and well that was done so casually at a zoo setting that they never knew we were dating.

I think this is total a personal choice for each individual.

I have two children 9 and 14, but I don't bring my dates at home.

.. let me guess you dated the zookeeper..lol.. hi u

I don't have children. I have found a couple of times that after a couple of dates, men start to force their children on me. I am not into that. I don't want kids.

The reason I don't have children is because I have never wanted children.

.. not to mention after a couple of drinks...lol.jk.

Having your own place to go, with or without a date, just can't be beat. There are no kids around, the place is neat and clean, you hardly spend time in it, because you are out working the whole day...so if you have to bring a date home....guess what...quality adult time with out any drama etc... Now finding a date with a place of her own and no kids around anymore....hmmmm....so far, impossible....

I'm a single dad for 14 years old daughter
never bring my date home...

HEY J.. How are you... Nope but that was the most neutral place I could think of where I could see him interact with my kids and my kids would definitely be kids...rofl...

First time I have read this

I thought I was right. But I was just guessing.

My gut told me, I would have to select for privacy and calmness.

Now I know.

Thank you

I never took them home when the kids were younger still (after my first divorce). The kids needed time to adjust after the divorce and I didn't want to make it more difficult for them.

I DID however bugger it up BIG TIME when I'd met my new partner to be... He wanted to come over for coffee in the morning, I agreed as long as he'd leave before my kids got home from school.
And yup ... we were saying our goodbyes in the hall when my daughter was at the door ...
We'd lost track of time and were just a few mins too late
Very awkward, cos then you got to decide what to do: Make him leave after all or let him stay because they've seen him anyways?

Now my kids are young adults (25 & 22) and I still don't involve them in my dating life. It's my business, not theirs. They know I occasionally date, but no need to fill them in beyond that.

Oh, I also don't want to get involved with men who still have younger kids at home.
So many men 45-52 ish still have young children, sometimes under 12 even

I know it's very judgemental but it makes me feel he chose to party through his 20s and 30s, too immature to have a family. I'm not going to pay the price for that. I was mature enough to have my babies in my mid 20s, for me it's time to party now! And I'm not willing to give up my freedom and wait till his kids leave the nest, possibly 15 years from now! By that time I'm in my 60s. Sod that!!

I had my first son in my twenties
second son in my early thirties
the first is married and a father
the second is a teenager and will be driving this summer

I am just at a different stage in my life right now

I have done the school plays
the baby teeth
the baseball and football games on a saturday morning

I am working on my education and my career and I am unwilling
to take on the task of raising another man's children
especially young ones
I have already raised mine

I hear ya. I feel the same.
And sod's law: I was talking to this really nice guy on a dating site, 48 yrs old, he mentioned meeting.
Now he just told me his youngest is 4 (!!!!) yrs old

The search continues

I like kids.
They say when you can no longer bear the sounds of children,
you are truly old.

They are evolution in concert to me...if someone had kids at
home that I was dating, I would instantly bond with them,
whether twas a serious relationship or not, they are people,
albeit shorter even than myself...who say and do the most
amazing things.

And very often are more fascinating than the love object :-)