I do the exact same thing Joyce. It's gotta be worth it yes?

hmm, the one you fear chrish

wait for the sex, keep going on the realtionship.. sounds like you have a winner, maybe??

baby, i won't let ya down. it's you and me!

Funnily enough, I refer to her as "My Reaper" - which while a bit "OMFG 14YR OLD ANSGST !!!111!!!" isn't too far from the truth.

I think this thread has been diverted enough already (sorry nurjoyce), maybe one day I'll start a thread about it.

being single = freedom

until you find your match

a good one

my reaper sounds like a topic for the poetry board

Well, for one of my first attempts at poetry, I don't think it went too bad.

Have a look.

When I look back at when I have meet desireable people it was when I was out having fun doing something I enjoyed. While I enjoy yacking on this computer I really doubt I am going to find someone if that is all they like to do.

as much as I often wonder why I keep trying, the truth is no matter how discouraged I get I know I still have hope. I'm a great catch, so one day a man will see that and appreciate it. I'm not half bad to look at, I'm very unconditionally loving, and I'm not such bad company either... hell, I'd date me. there's no shortage of men asking me out, but it is rather annoying that they all seem to discuss sex in the first 5 minutes of conversation..... SOOOO boring!

ok, I agree with all of you but sometimes I wonder if today in our society, because we convince ourtself that single is great and there are no strings attached, that we lose our drive to seek opportunities to be with the other sex. Therefore losing the romance of meeting because we are too afraid to make another effort to try again.??

true story: this guy i lived next to was divorced and single for about 8 months. After about 4 months of therapy and time alone to work things out he jumped head in to dating. He went on match.com, local singles, and eventually a city specialized dating service where you meet face to face. Believe me when i say he met some strange people, bitter people, and people that were clueless as to what they wanted.

However, because he really wanted to meet the right person (not just anyone) and he knew he wanted a realtionship, he never gave up and within 8 months found the woman of his dreams and now they are married.

I also know of a similar story of a woman that dated almost 100 men before meeting the right one.

the point being if you look at meeting someone as a job (in a good way) then you are less likely to get hurt because you are looking for the "right fit" your using your head and allowing your heart to be ready for love when the right one comes along.

Dont give up and ask yourself how much are you willing to invest...Ps- don't get physical until you are sure he is someone you want to know better!

I love all you ladies, and I'll always tell you so.... and then one of you takes my breath away.... no more worries

Well then, I should be well on my way to finding the right guy. I know I must've dated quite a few by now...

Joyce, I'm gonna be a little more serious here than I usually am, because I think, in this case, it's called for.

I have read a lot of your posts over the last x number of months, and we have exchanged a few comments and things, and I feel like I know you a little bit now.

And it completely baffles me as to how or why someone like you is having a difficult time with realtionships....UNLESS everyone around you is a total moron.

You have so many positives, so much to offer, that I can't even begin to comprehend how it is that you're not with anyone.

I have to believe that this is a glitch, a slump, an anomaly, a situation that will self-correct after the hiccup is over -- because you are who you are, and who you are is a damn good and wonderful person who deserves better.

And I'm not even necessarily saying that an answer will come from here, or any other site -- frankly, I'm skeptical about their utility for most of us -- but there are other ways, other venues, other people who will notice you and appreciate you.

Maybe you'll meet one tomorrow.

I don't know, I'm not going to pretend to know. All I can say, is from what I've seen here -- and I don't mean this to sound sexist or overly objectifying -- but you would certainly be one of the best "catches" here that anyone could have.

And if they don't see that here, someone elsewhere will figure it out.

You know, a year from now, even a month from now, your situation could be VERY different. Think about it.

Besides, it's not like eHarmonica said you were unmatchable or something!

((((((((((JOYCE))))))))))

its very hard joyce. all ppl say they are honest, but quickly end up lying. the last guy i dated lied to me and used me while interested in someone else. oh well.

{{{Joyce}}} Just let it breathe. I think you are wonderful and you will find someone that makes you feel wonderful all the time.

There's all the time in the world. Just enjoy it all!

thank you everyone

Lex-- i do not know why i am single, i have numerous views just no matches- i guess. <<<and all the good ones live in IL>>>

Joyce -- I haven't seen any good ones in Illinois in several years! Of course, there may be some here, but they won't talk to me, so I guess I'll never know.

Cicey -- like the one person you mentioned, I dated an absurd number of people before I found the "right one." Unfortunately, my ex-wife and her family decided they didn't approve, and they managed to ruin that one for me. I don't think the scattershot approach is particularly effective (in retrospect, I wish I had never been involved with most of them)
but it does allow you to learn a lot about yourself and what you want and don't want.

I agree with you that it probably helps to be committed to the idea of finding someone, if it's that important (!) -- but there's a fine line between committed and obsessed; and I, for one, would much rather be alone than be with another "wrong one."

Lex---you are so silly
i was talking about YOU
OMG!

Eeeeep!! I've kind of been "out of the loop" for a couple years, I guess....

Well from what ive seen the cute ones like
"nurjoyce" and Fade2Black"all live in Texas..!! and Colorado. An sigh that is a whole hour and two away "zone" difference laugh!


If i had a last name. i would want it to be O.. S....C... A.... R....

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