I can come up with anything that i want an present a set of fact of how messed up I am, expecting everybody to come and say:
"oh I'm sorry miguel." But why do you believe me?
I may be bull****ting, or just presenting my side of the facts.
In order to get pity of attention
People for God's sake not everything that shines is Gold.
We need more facts in order to judge that i need pity or suport specially when somebody else involved in my simulated cry out.

I'm never too quick to rush in and offer sugar sprinkled huggles to people online that I don't really know. Like you said they are only presenting their side of things and it may be completey biased.

You just told all the ladies that you're back dooring their hearts. I hope you pull this before any of them reads this

"I think, ergo I am"

William Shakespeare.

wouldee, I used the pronoun "I" in order not to offend anybody.

People offering sympathies usually just feel its polite I guess... or maybe they've been in a similar situation.

Well, it is naive. On the other hand, the first step towards trust is an ability to take someone at their word.

What we have here is an evolving community. And the sense of community that has developed has also created a sort of closeness between many of us. There are people here who I have dealt with for months, who I feel I "know" (and yes, possibly completely erroneously) well enough to sympathize and empathize with.

Could they be completely different in real life, from who they appear to be here? Sure. And maybe I'm naive enough to fall for that.

But that's OK, in the long run, because I would rather risk being fooled and continue to try to be a good and supportive friend, than live my life in fear and suspicion. I tend to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, so to speak, until I feel they have conclusively proven otherwise.

And, in the end, even if I did get fooled by someone, that's one person. That doesn't give me any reason to become suspicious of all the others I know here. Each person, after all, is an individual with an individual situation. I have always been adamant in my insistence that the "gender stereotyping" ("Why do all men __________? Why are all women ____________?") is counterproductive, and does nothing but hamper those of us who are actually interested in real communication.

By the same token, stereotyping of everyone here, for example, is just as bad. One person may deceive us, but that has no bearing on what the next person -- or the next 100 people -- do.

somethings are pretty obvious at the first instance.
it's like saying it's day, when the moon and the start are out.

Well Miguel, since you used the pronoun "I", there are many of us who have read not just your statements, but your reactions. We admire people we feel we have gotten to "know". Perhaps this may be (as Lex eloquently said) erroneously.

Maybe you have created a persona. Those of us who enjoy reading, storytelling, theater, etc. can identify, sympathize, and empathize with even fictional characters.

.....but I guess most of us are here for "true" connection.

All that we right, quote, or even copy and paste tells something about ourselves.

I think "ALL" of us are here to be acknowledged and to acknowledge common bonds. I'm guilty of pontification (like now ) and I appreciate any reaction I get. If someone is in need of some sympathy...even if repeatative and dramatic...I'm willing to give some. If I feel I (sort of) know you and identify with you, I'll engage in with absolute intent.
If you are BS-ing me, "I" have still held fast to my ideals in looking past the fear of gullibility.

It is day.

I looked.





As to seeking pity...each to their own, I had someone misinterpret my feeble attempt at humour, and thought I required consoling....that was a bit tricky to detangle from...


There is a humanness to these forums, and with so many cultures, and personalities, it really is one big soup, with ALL the ingredients.

Being judgemental is not my right, although I do huff and puff at times...

I hope you feel better in yourself soon, Miguel.

Then you can't sing memememememememe thou...

It's day where YOU are Lee
It's all about perspective I guess. <----- How vague was that?

That was the most limp, floppy, summing up I have heard in at least an hour Joel...

Miguel are you saying that people lie on the internet????

Let's leave the "oopsy" out of this.

Blasphemy Gypsy!

well I try to be honest on the net but there are alot who just like to make themselves look good......

The Internet-Be as goodlooking as you want to be