first of all..what in your opinion makes a woman high maintenance

would you still take her out?

have you dated one before?

been married to one?

there are low maintenance ladys ? ? ?
have yet to meet one : )

ouch
stop throwing stuff

Taking her out & things are not really high maintenance.
I have lived with a woman before & i was paying for rent & it all & i know a woman needs to do her hair & all those things ect ect but i wouldn't say she was high maintenance....but what exactly would be high maintenance

Yup....and built her a walk in closet too.....I mean....how many freaking pairs of shoes does one chick need?

<shrug>
2 x girl friend ago
i used to do all most all the cooking
all the dishes
would give her a massage for norm about an hour every night
helped clean her car
helped clean the house
cleaned the pool
spent about 3,000 $ fixing her bedroom in pixie stuff
many other things

wasnt aware that was something labeled high maintenance


would i take her out again nope
an X stays an X

Mmm I think high maintenance would be anyone
who needs constant reassurance.

This might take the form of clothes, or makeup,
or job or the car they drive.

More, more to make me feel better, best kind of thing.

They are exhausting.

Bet you loved those strappy stilettos...

Ohhh..boy .. have I "ever" met some high maintenance women..
let me tell you lol

There are high maintenance men too....
No way would I date or marry one.

If they were handing them out free (without a credit card application) from the "womenz n thingz" store, then sure. I might keep the receipt and return her afterwards, though.

If I saw a profile on an online dating site, or saw someone in person, and my thoughts were "she's high maintenance," then no, I wouldn't pursue her to date her.


Someone obviously requiring more than I care to give, and needing it on a consistent basis.
Time, validation, money, effort, give a f'ness, patience, tolerance, image maintenance, social facades, expectations, deference, etc.
There isn't just one specific thing that defines high maintenance.


Only if she was handed to me and I had nothing better to do and wanted to go out.
I would not pursue her in order to ask her out and take her out.


Only once in high school when I didn't know better, and twice in college because it beat dating the frumpy freshman 15'ers and I should have known better.


No.

Yep.. & they make threads like " Does penis size matter?
Love or money ? "

no. I don't want to have to maintain a exaggerated style. I would not expect( or want) her to have to maintain me either

That way we maintain a healthy relationship

That is not to say you don't do special things for your woman.. you do... all the time. But not because you have to.. because you want to..

Yes. I would say that I was in a relationship with a high maintenance woman. She constantly nagged me about what she expected from a boyfriend and even when I did it it was rarely good enough for her.

She also expected me to fit in with her schedule and come running when she snapped her fingers and I had to put up with these long rambling phone calls from her all the time when she had smoked a joint after her daughter had gone to bed at night. She would go from goofy to paranoid to abusive and I really started to dread those phone calls and at one point it did my head in so much that I ran away for a couple of weeks to get away from her.

I think it's basically a woman that demands a lot of attention and "maintenence" to keep her happy and it can be exhausting and stressful. It was a long time ago and she's got another boyfriend now. I would go out with her again as friends though and if she did become single again maybe because people change and we understand each other more now than we did when she was my girlfriend.

Soufiehere,

I think you pretty much summarized it as well as anybody could. It is a mental thing, not a material one. The high maintenance person is looking for something to fulfill them but does not know what it is. It's as if they are constantly knocking on doors trying to find some elusive thing that does not exist.

I briefly dated a high maintenance woman.

Would I date high maintenance again?


Not just nah.

But, Hell nah!

My own definition of a "high maintenance" person is the same one I learned from my lifelong work with machinery.

High maintenance means you spend more time trying to get the thing to basically function, than you do actually using it to make progress through your life.

With people, that means that you can't just deal with life together, you have to constantly put life off, and wait and tinker and repair or otherwise cajole the "mate" into possibly considering actually BEING a mate.

The first thing that comes to mind when I hear that a person is "high maintenance, is that they are in need of constant ego boosts. That can be in the form of expensive gifts, or excessive praise, or even tolerance of their chasing after multiple sex partners, or overly involved entertainments.

Thrill seekers/addicts are certainly High Maintenance people to deal with. So are certain kinds who think of themselves as "romantics," but who are really more like delusional wannabe princes and princesses.

And no, especially at this stage of my life, I refuse to go into that pure waste of time ever again.

see now..when I ask my son who is 23 what a high maintenance girl is..he and his buddies would say
hot and knows it
the kind ya gotta put in a lot of time with. listen to her talk, text her all day long..she talks about her clothes , her hair, make up, her friends..yadayadah

What if the woman pays for her own maintenance?
I mean if she has a required taste and she's paying for it would that be ok?
Please take into consideration she works her butt off for it. I don't believe any man should pay for it and that goes for the man too.
That's what I think

That's the thing. The way High Maintenance gets talked about most of the time, many people get the idea that it's tied to how much the person thinks they need to spend on themselves. That's why the most common illustration of a High Maintenance woman, especially for young males talking to their mothers, is any hot looking girl who dresses well. They ASSUME she's "high maintenance," because they figure that SHE will want THEM to spend as much money as she does, whether they have it to spend or not.

But the real functional measure of H.M. is in the expectations of the person. Not the exact circumstances. A rich person who doesn't care who pays for things, wont be as high maintenance as a poorer person who measures carefully to make sure that you always pay as much as they do.

Thank you for clearing that up.
I don't want to be accused of that when I have improved my appearance. Lol i call it self improvement long over due.