annie self improvement and high maintenance are almost totally opposites have no fear

The worst scenario is when you get a woman that tells you that she just wants it to be a casual relationship but she's still really demanding. I had one like that that spent more time texting me and expecting instant replies than she actually spent dating me. It's not always about money but I've had more than one telling me that she never had any credit in her phone and making me pay for all the calls and doing things like texting and telling me when to call her. They can want constant reassurance, or it can be some daft game that they play where they won't sit down and have a proper chat about how the relationship's going but they text you about it all the time. You may only see her at weekends but she still expects you to be at her beck and call whenever she picks up her phone and I don't even like texting.

oh dear, I've split my nail. Im off to the salon to get it repaired and don't moan, you like it when I run my nails down your back

Thanks Eric
Man I needed to improve in that department. Lol. It was bad very bad lol

^^^^ This is I think the best explanation. And makes clear that it's very personal.
One man may whinge about a woman being high maintenance, while another doesn't feel she is at all.

And then there are men that aren't ready for a real commitment and whine about 'high maintenance women' (a lot). As if they're looking for someone else to blame for their own shortcomings.
Like Pansy said, there are high maintenance men just the same, and they're likely to be those whinging f@rts.

you look great annie

I take good care of myself, but I wouldn't class myself as high maintenance. I spend very little time in front of the mirror.

Wouldn't mind dating such a women if she was really worth, but again, I wouldn't date her twice if I sensed she was a 'gold digger'..

Thanks. Debbie
You should have seen before when I was married. Lol. It was sad

awwwww. I messaged you.

Okay going now
Sorry forums addictive

Whats your definition of high maintenance?

It seems varied by this thread.

My definition of someone who is high maintenance is someone who spends 6 hours a day in a mirror, constantly at the hair dressers and the salon.

they will only wear expensive designer clothes and have LV hand bag

and spend money they haven't got on clothing, cosmetics etc and get into debt in some cases.

I think anyone that is high maintenance would be described as more energy than I would be willing to give. They can be so draining and their sense of entitlement is in my opinion off the charts..

I have ran across a few high end men also in this world.




I dated a guy one time that my God is clothes had to be the best and only the best... he took more time getting ready to go play Golf than I did for a court appearance.. I was like this is too crazy, more facials, manicures, shopping expeditions, always a crisis somewhere... It ended in less than a month

So it is not only women like that but men also...This was just the materialistic side of him..The farther I got into him the more the insecurities came through and I was like I want to gag...

He needed more therapy than I could ever give him..

Well I think a high maintenance woman is one, for who you can't pay, which basically means you need to pull up your socks and earn some

Now....those did meet Goof approval.

to me? there is a difference between being strong, independent even, knowing what you want/need and taking care of yourself

and high maintenance

Seems to me that "high maintenance" is situational to each guy. What's HM to one isn't to another. I don't believe I'm HM but then I'm sure I am to some men but know I'm not at all to other men.

i wouldn't mind it if i had enough money....just like i wouldn't mind
driving a brand new mercedes benz instead of my ' 75 ford pinto...lol

personally I don't care how high maintenance she is.. but if she can't cook clean or screw.... what good is she..hmm... really I mean .. outside of those three things... the rest is just window dressing..

Course there is the issue of distance and you not dating anyone not in your city or country much less. lol