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| Topic: Ladies, Your "No-No-Sex" Makes U Even More Attractive To Us | |
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What I don't really understand, ever, is why you keep trying to ram your culture and religion and its habits down our throats? Does it come to mind at all that that is actually rather disrespectful and incredibly judgmental? In western countries, women can have a mind of their own, they can be -and usually are- strong, independent and can stand on their own two feet. We can choose to say "no" to sex outside of a relationship, or "yes" if wish to do so. The fact that you don't condone or understand, doesn't make that immoral nor wrong. It's almost as if you think western people live one big huge orgy. I personally feel it's more wrong to try to convince people that enjoying what a body can give you is sinful. If it was wrong, we wouldn't have a body, or a different means to create offspring than through physical pleasure. That doesn't mean you have to overindulge, but what is to be considered overindulging, is up to the individual. And maybe some want and need to overindulge. So what? If you feel it's right to not have sex for 5 years because you're single, good for you. But please don't call people who choose differently 'cheap'. I also don't believe a man will lose interest if a woman does want sex. First of all, many couples don't want to get married (again), meaning they could never have sex with your agenda. Secondly, who'd want to marry if they didn't know they matched sexually? In our culture sex is about both parties enjoying it, meaning that if a man and woman don't have the same desires and drives, love will go out the window pretty fast. One person's truth (opinion/belief) isn't always another person's truth. It's an opinion/belief, not fact. I don't do fwb or one night stands, but that is my personal choice. I don't think others are cheap for being different. |
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I guess it goes further back than culture. Men are hunters and the 'meat' tastes better when the 'game' is difficult.
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I guess it goes further back than culture. Men are hunters and the 'meat' tastes better when the 'game' is difficult. Well.. that certainly is an honest answer.  Running away now..
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I guess it goes further back than culture. Men are hunters and the 'meat' tastes better when the 'game' is difficult.  That's what I have been told too but that's not the reason why I don't do it 
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Funny, probing Uche?. Ok. I can tell you with every sincerity of heart and soul that I never allowed the flesh to rear its ugly head up since I found myself single again, over 5 years now. Its not difficult if you refuse to allow worldly garbages inroad in your mind. Chastity is sweet and pleasant!! I have perfect peace of mind and joy unspeakable. It requires grace though Well said, Uche. I would shake your hand.. but I think I know what it has been doing. I know a bit Uche... been around the block a few times. yep, we're friends... ( I do enjoy busting your chops Lol) And Devildog is a nickname for a U.S. Marine. I thought you would have known that ;) I think he was busting your chops with psychosexual implications. Wait....  That could be a thread, " Psychosexual Implementations " * That should draw everyone in *  I think Uche and Devildog (and I) should get a room... |
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Edited for off-topic.
Do NOT admonish other members, for their opinions, their posts or their lack thereof. soufie Site Moderator |
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What I don't really understand, ever, is why you keep trying to ram your culture and religion and its habits down our throats? Does it come to mind at all that that is actually rather disrespectful and incredibly judgmental? In western countries, women can have a mind of their own, they can be -and usually are- strong, independent and can stand on their own two feet. We can choose to say "no" to sex outside of a relationship, or "yes" if wish to do so. The fact that you don't condone or understand, doesn't make that immoral nor wrong. It's almost as if you think western people live one big huge orgy. I personally feel it's more wrong to try to convince people that enjoying what a body can give you is sinful. If it was wrong, we wouldn't have a body, or a different means to create offspring than through physical pleasure. That doesn't mean you have to overindulge, but what is to be considered overindulging, is up to the individual. And maybe some want and need to overindulge. So what? If you feel it's right to not have sex for 5 years because you're single, good for you. But please don't call people who choose differently 'cheap'. I also don't believe a man will lose interest if a woman does want sex. First of all, many couples don't want to get married (again), meaning they could never have sex with your agenda. Secondly, who'd want to marry if they didn't know they matched sexually? In our culture sex is about both parties enjoying it, meaning that if a man and woman don't have the same desires and drives, love will go out the window pretty fast. This might be considered extreme left in your part of the world..... But in the western world, this is normal......and has been for decades... |
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Ladies, Your "No-No-Sex" Makes U Even More Attractive To Us dude , the no-no sex issue that you face everywhere doesn't have anything to do with women around you , you'd better look for the reason elsewhere 
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having sex with the partner whom you love is something normal , natural ... your attempt to picture it as a sin reflects nothing but your ideology that is equal to any other radical one , ideologies that say no to love , and i am so familiar with such ideologies , i know where do they start and how do they end !
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I would have sex with fox in a heartbeat  lmao .. Call me a slut .. I really don't care . I have never conceded to religious rules or peer pressure in other areas of my life. That does not mean I lack moral standards or self respect. honey , love stands high at the top of human's relations , and making love is the physical translation of this high value  some people just lack the abilities to translate it perfectly 
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A "No-To-Sex" lady is the only type of girls guys respect and want the most Not in the U.S., at least not as described by the OP. If I were talking to my sister, this is the truth I will make her understand The truth you are actually imparting is "the perceptions and judgments of others about you are more important than your own, so you should behave according to how I believe you should, beware of your reputation." Cheap things usually have less value and cost. Perception matters in determining value. The value of something is never solely intrinsic. Cost doesn't directly determine value, at most it has an effect on price. Studies show that price can change the perception of value. It has nothing whatsoever to do with culture or religion. Sure it does. Culture and religion change and shape perceptions. Self respect and virtues transcend "cultural" and "religious" considerations. I believe in moral and ethical relativism. For self respect and virtue you have to behave in the "right" and "good" way...which is socially and culturally trained. Try watching a Japanese game show if you want an example. There's one on youtube called "masturbation karaoke." At best the only things that transcend culture and religion among all cultures and people are the principles of "don't kill/murder," and, "don't lie." But every culture has its own, different, acceptable "white lies," as well as situations where killing/murder is justified. |
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Funny, probing Uche?. Ok. I can tell you with every sincerity of heart and soul that I never allowed the flesh to rear its ugly head up since I found myself single again, over 5 years now. Its not difficult if you refuse to allow worldly garbages inroad in your mind. Chastity is sweet and pleasant!! I have perfect peace of mind and joy unspeakable. It requires grace though Well said, Uche. I would shake your hand.. but I think I know what it has been doing. I know a bit Uche... been around the block a few times. yep, we're friends... ( I do enjoy busting your chops Lol) And Devildog is a nickname for a U.S. Marine. I thought you would have known that ;) I think he was busting your chops with psychosexual implications. Wait.... That could be a thread, " Psychosexual Implementations " * That should draw everyone in * I think Uche and Devildog (and I) should get a room... |
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What I don't really understand, ever, is why you keep trying to ram your culture and religion and its habits down our throats? Does it come to mind at all that that is actually rather disrespectful and incredibly judgmental? In western countries, women can have a mind of their own, they can be -and usually are- strong, independent and can stand on their own two feet. We can choose to say "no" to sex outside of a relationship, or "yes" if wish to do so. The fact that you don't condone or understand, doesn't make that immoral nor wrong. It's almost as if you think western people live one big huge orgy. I personally feel it's more wrong to try to convince people that enjoying what a body can give you is sinful. If it was wrong, we wouldn't have a body, or a different means to create offspring than through physical pleasure. That doesn't mean you have to overindulge, but what is to be considered overindulging, is up to the individual. And maybe some want and need to overindulge. So what? If you feel it's right to not have sex for 5 years because you're single, good for you. But please don't call people who choose differently 'cheap'. I also don't believe a man will lose interest if a woman does want sex. First of all, many couples don't want to get married (again), meaning they could never have sex with your agenda. Secondly, who'd want to marry if they didn't know they matched sexually? In our culture sex is about both parties enjoying it, meaning that if a man and woman don't have the same desires and drives, love will go out the window pretty fast. This might be considered extreme left in your part of the world..... But in the western world, this is normal......and has been for decades... Exactly... And I don't like the carefully hidden insult either ---> Cheap things usually have less value and cost. You are deliberately insulting me and practically every other woman on Mingle. Again very disrespectful and judgmental. |
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I guess it goes further back than culture. Men are hunters and the 'meat' tastes better when the 'game' is difficult. Agree with that. But that still doesn't mean that a real hunt will have to last some 2-5 years (till marriage). I think a good hunter will also know when to cut his losses and find another, better 'prey', one that he is able to take down. And even though it's a primal instinct, the hunt, duration, and context, is culturally defined. |
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Let me pretend that I didnt see the barrage of 'nay nay' responses from those that have apparently lost the sense of the sacredness of sex and understandably took refuge in the alibi of "cultural and religious differences". Luckly enough, "we" on this side of the divide aint yet influenced by sodom nor depraved by the tendencies of Gomorrah. So, sex is not a 'food' we rush to eat, not until marriage. That is the ideal thing here and elsewhere where the contaminating virus of immorality hasnt polluted to irredeemable abysmal degree. I insist, it got nothing to do with religion nor culture. It got all to do with self esteem, principle, self respect, standard, dignity, class, value, etc.
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Funny, probing Uche?. Ok. I can tell you with every sincerity of heart and soul that I never allowed the flesh to rear its ugly head up since I found myself single again, over 5 years now. Its not difficult if you refuse to allow worldly garbages inroad in your mind. Chastity is sweet and pleasant!! I have perfect peace of mind and joy unspeakable. It requires grace though Well said, Uche. I would shake your hand.. but I think I know what it has been doing. I know a bit Uche... been around the block a few times. yep, we're friends... ( I do enjoy busting your chops Lol) And Devildog is a nickname for a U.S. Marine. I thought you would have known that ;) I think he was busting your chops with psychosexual implications. Wait.... That could be a thread, " Psychosexual Implementations " * That should draw everyone in * I think Uche and Devildog (and I) should get a room... Lol. sounds good.. we better upgrade to the sound proof walls and bolted down furniture room ;) |
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Edited by
uche9aa
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Funny, probing Uche?. Ok. I can tell you with every sincerity of heart and soul that I never allowed the flesh to rear its ugly head up since I found myself single again, over 5 years now. Its not difficult if you refuse to allow worldly garbages inroad in your mind. Chastity is sweet and pleasant!! I have perfect peace of mind and joy unspeakable. It requires grace though Well said, Uche. I would shake your hand.. but I think I know what it has been doing. I know a bit Uche... been around the block a few times. yep, we're friends... ( I do enjoy busting your chops Lol) And Devildog is a nickname for a U.S. Marine. I thought you would have known that ;) I think he was busting your chops with psychosexual implications. Wait.... That could be a thread, " Psychosexual Implementations " * That should draw everyone in * I think Uche and Devildog (and I) should get a room... Lol. sounds good.. we better upgrade to the sound proof walls and bolted down furniture room ;) |
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Funny, probing Uche?. Ok. I can tell you with every sincerity of heart and soul that I never allowed the flesh to rear its ugly head up since I found myself single again, over 5 years now. Its not difficult if you refuse to allow worldly garbages inroad in your mind. Chastity is sweet and pleasant!! I have perfect peace of mind and joy unspeakable. It requires grace though Well said, Uche. I would shake your hand.. but I think I know what it has been doing. I know a bit Uche... been around the block a few times. yep, we're friends... ( I do enjoy busting your chops Lol) And Devildog is a nickname for a U.S. Marine. I thought you would have known that ;) I think he was busting your chops with psychosexual implications. Wait.... That could be a thread, " Psychosexual Implementations " * That should draw everyone in * I think Uche and Devildog (and I) should get a room... Its not Jealousy Uche.. its competition.. and you know I would win Haha....But hey.. me and the "lil woman" would give you a nice wave as we pull the shades down.. of course it would be a devilish wave ;) |
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Edited by
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Let me pretend that I didnt see the barrage of 'nay nay' responses from those that have apparently lost the sense of the sacredness of sex and understandably took refuge in the alibi of "cultural and religious differences". Luckly enough, "we" on this side of the divide aint yet influenced by sodom nor depraved by the tendencies of Gomorrah. So, sex is not a 'food' we rush to eat, not until marriage. That is the ideal thing here and elsewhere where the contaminating virus of immorality hasnt polluted to irredeemable abysmal degree. I insist, it got nothing to do with religion nor culture. It got all to do with self esteem, principle, self respect, standard, dignity, class, value, etc. You are on the pinnacle of virtue, uche. Quite commendable. I hope you bring others on to that pedestal of yours. That divide you refer to exists, but it's not geographical. Sex is just sex. It is as clean or dirty as anyone's perception of it, depending on what they know. You should start asking which sexual position is most sacred for married couples...that should heat things up...:p |
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Edited by
uche9aa
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Let me pretend that I didnt see the barrage of 'nay nay' responses from those that have apparently lost the sense of the sacredness of sex and understandably took refuge in the alibi of "cultural and religious differences". Luckly enough, "we" on this side of the divide aint yet influenced by sodom nor depraved by the tendencies of Gomorrah. So, sex is not a 'food' we rush to eat, not until marriage. That is the ideal thing here and elsewhere where the contaminating virus of immorality hasnt polluted to irredeemable abysmal degree. I insist, it got nothing to do with religion nor culture. It got all to do with self esteem, principle, self respect, standard, dignity, class, value, etc. You are on the pinnacle of virtue, uche. Quite commendable. I hope you bring others on to that pedestal of yours. That divide you refer to exists, but it's not geographical. Sex is just sex. It is as clean or dirty as anyone's perception of it, depending on what they know. You should start asking which sexual position is most sacred for married couples...that should heat things up...:p |
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