Did the LD thing with my ex-husband. He was in NJ while I was here in NC. He moved here. Needless to say, it obviously did not work out.

The ex knows I am out there and dating. He came up with a good point to consider. Although I am looking in and around my area, to find someone a decent distance (maybe 25 miles) away. Close enough for a visit or a meet, but far enough that you don't have to worry about a drive by or knock at the door late at night.

I hate to say that it makes sense to me. Ouch, did I say that my ex made sense about something.

Long distance relationships require a special willingness and understanding that can test love like no other type of relationship can. It requires constant communication and a desire to continually create your relationship, using the only real tool you have... your words.

I might be very close minded with regard distance, but for me (and just for me) is too much of a hassle.
it's not that i just want a relationship just for the physical contact, i need to see her into the eyes, i need to do things with here.
like having dinner, going to the movies, from time to time go to a bar or a club.
IDK is just my sole point of view
P.D. notice i did not mention jelousness because that is a symptom of unsecurity, so for me it does not apply.

tessa said something very important: constant communication
I just could not be in love with somebody if we don't interchange communication at least once a day.

LDRs are hard. i didn't want a LDR, i didnt even want a relationship, but i met someone who just happened to live quite far away from me and we fell in love. we make it work...our memories together keep us together and hope for the future keeps us moving forward in our relationship. the relationship has to be "going somewhere" for a LDR to work i think...and there are mainly alot of other factors to consider with a LDR other than the 2 people involved....like kids, family, work, financial constraints etc.

but if 2 people are meant to be, a bit of distance shouldn't have a huge affect on the long term! but be prepared because you will probably find being away from someone you love so much very very difficult.

I want a long distance relationship....that way they don't see my unicorn hair or my 4 days of dishes.....or the cat hair on my butt!

I am in an LDR...

and I'm really missing him right now!

have you met yet???

No. in November.

He's from Florida, I'm from the Philippines
Is that a verrry long distance?
Hmmm, 1,000,000,000,000,000,000 miles???


{{{Gypsy}}} are you into an LDR too?

Hey Singing, evad will meet you on Nov, wow that's nice!
I think me too, on Nov, but no year

lol newg for sure I am........did you read the above???

yeah but it says Gypsy that you WANT a long distance relationshiop, didn't say you were IN one LOL and I think that is what newg78 was asking....

wow Florida to the Phillippines..... don't give up, stranger things have happened newg.....

Hmmmm.......

LOL

Yeah, no taking back of words and he will come for real!

Anyways, thanks

not taken to the heart since it is over with but will be cool though to ya. nice to see ya again.

Sometimes LDR can be a good thing, makes the visits more exciting, but on the same noe, they can be stressful as well. Travel time and cost plays a factor into it as well. Depends on the "heart"

But if the hearts are on the same page, it works... but again it is an effort daily to make that decision...daily to be in one..... I couldn't do it for "years"... I would see it as a temp stepping stone to being together....

But that is me...

I have no doubts about his "heart", he has been showing me his kindness, he is always there for me, and we were able to turn the huge mountains that separate us through constant communication, by all means, phonecalls, snailmails, emails, IMs so no matter how far the distance is between us we still feel we are so close to each other and getting closer and stronger each day.

And let me take this chance to thank all my true friends here for their kind words and encouragements, I once tried to leave this site but its a good thing I came back for there was someone waiting for me who is willing to be with me forever.

To Coolhead, thanks and don't worry I have forgotten what you did to me and I am ok now, I AM A FEMALE and look I found a true gentleman.

that is awesome newg!

I wish you the best with your man and sorry for the confusing when I 1st joined here. I hope you can understand my situation and my interaction with some creeps. You are a nice and cool person. Good luck to ya!