Oh yeah, Yokoke, you want to hear the whole story? LOL

Anyways, I'm going to update everyone here how it goes. I cant wait to post pics of me and him together

There’s no guarantee to words and promises of love……go meet your LD lover sooner and go from there because talking about it don’t always happen or have a successful ending.

I am yet to meet mine, I am optimist yet I still have to see him in physical to really believe then we will go from there. So on ya bike Missouri man, peddle, peddle, peddle hahaha

Good Luck to all in the same situation cos we all need it haha

what is coolhead talking about???

not sure Gyps...he prolly want us to fill in the dots

It is a problem when he doesn't call for a long time, so what do you do, call it off between you, or wait and see what is going on?

fun_in_sc

If you met him online and he can access the internet, no excuse for him. If calling is costly for him, there's heaps of free messengers about for him to leave you an offliner or to e-mail you.

If you two have plans to meet then get him to give you an answer. Don't play the waiting game and tell him that too.

Well, this is his second try and I am fed up with waiting. My family and friends say he could contact me if he wanted. He could go to the library and e-mail me. He hasn't had his computer on in a while, but other problems that have been going on in his life has prevented him from calling me. We wanted to meet, and like this other guy, he doesn't have his license either due to a DUI and I was going to drive there to see him. But, things haven't worked out that way. He makes excuses that I should call first and make sure he is going to be there. He has different doctors appointments and all this. It's just a big mess. Seems like I always attract the crackpots. I'm glad for the friends I have made on here, so don't want them to think I am talking about them. They have been there to talk to me too on here. My friends are very dear to me. Anyway, I have some other prospects who are very nice so I am going to go on with my life and whatever happens happens. Things will work out, I have faith that they will. What would you do if he were to call after three weeks of no contact? I appreciate your advice sin

If he calls you after 3 weeks, tell him to bugger off! Haha. Or tell him, to take another 3 weeks to sort his life and hang up. Don’t let guys like him string you along…. at 48, do you really want to put up with crap like this?

There’s enough red flag here with this guy and you don’t need to hear his excuses. He needs to sort himself out before he could begin to be happy himself. That’s his problem.

I have been in 2 LDR's....I live in Florida, my first was a guy who lived in Arizona...we chatted quite a bit via emails and ALOT over the phone...then I went to meet him (he suggested comming to FL, but I had yet been to AZ, so I decided to go to him)..We had a GREAT time, got along wonderfully, with that said, he just wasn't "the one" for me..It has been just over 2 years and we are the best of friends..always communicating...
My second LDR a guy from Portsmouth Virginia....he was a bit "pushy' for my liking...I live alone and again we communicatd via phone on several, several occasions..then wham, he called me one evening and said he bought a ticket to come meet me..I totally FREAKED out..this was my turf...I told him I was nervous and didn't feel right him coming to me..Now I know it makes no sense, cuz here I go off to Arizona, middle of the desert, told my daughter and my girlfriend if they didn't hear from me then call the police..lol...seriously....
well, the Virginia guy spooked me yet I had some "back up" from friends, also I told him I would feel more comfortable if he stayed at a hotel..he agreed and said he understood...
when I picked him up from the airport, I knew right then and there, as did he, that he wasn't going to stay at a hotel...
He spent the weekend with me, had a GREAT time..he's also a musician and brought his guitar..my daughter came over and did NOT approve...
I went to see him afterwards in
Virginia and he wanted me to move there...So I did, after a month I was so out of my element..felt like a fish out of water...I threw all my belongings (including my dog) in my car and waited until he got home from work and told him it just isn't going to work..I can't uproot myself..he understood..from the past couple of weeks prior we both "felt" off....it was mutual....However, again, he is my dear dear friend we talk all the time...
So, I have met 2 wonderful guys who are very dear to me and just knowing that they are out there anytime for me and vice versa ..well..what is better than that?....
I have learned that I don't want to be in a "relationship" that way....I don't compromise well... but I am better knowing that and accepting that and I feel good about it...
sorry for the long post..
sheesh..I'm outta breath..gotta go get something to drink..

Great experiences shared Moodygrl, even if they didn't work out, it happens .......so it's all good.

thanks Sin...I know it sounds so cliche'..but I believe there is a reason for everything..and even the bad choices, mistakes, etc; can turn into a positive..

Everything happens for a reason...

Law of Attraction...

Thanks for sharing your story Moodygrl

your welcome yok..and thanks..

I understand what you're saying. But as dissapointed as I am, that I haven't acquired a local girl friend yet, I am mostly opposed to a long distance relationship. I've had some by email, but they didn't last. And I really want someone whose where I am. I suggest you, consider moving from where you are.
That is unless, you're where I am- in which case, you could consider meeting me.

Somebody...
my feet for right now are definetly planted....
but one never has enough friends..
for you..friend

If the goal of the LDR is to ultimately be together then someone has to move. I moved from Kentucky to Oklahoma only to find we didn't really know each other. It's difficult to get to know the real person doing the weekend romance thing.

But in a LDR there are things you can do daily, weekly, etc that can add up to getting to know the person, so when it comes to that time, the relocation comes as natural as the relationship has been the whole time... no?

So I take it you stayed in OK then Allsmiles?

Before I moved I asked myself if I would be happy with this choice if it didn't work out. I thought I would, and I am. Though there have been some ups and downs, overall my move to Tulsa has been great for my career.

On the LD thing, I did not meet this man on the internet. We became aquainted then dated briefly before his job ended in my area. He moved back to Tulsa and we continued to do the weekend romance thing. We talked daily and saw each other for 3-4 days at a time every 3-4 weeks for over a year.

The failure of my LD relationship may not have been because it was a long distance thing. It could have been that the signs were there and I chose not to see them. It could have been for a number of reasons but I do know that given the right man and right circumstances... I would try it again.

That is great Allsmiles that you did weigh out the pros and cons to moving out of state as many don't....

Glad it worked out professionally for you

theres also the problem of everyone in a small town knowing your exes.....ive had trouble with that one