lol number 3 is defintely true

Holding doors, holding her chair, holding her hand and as our English teachers reminded us, "May I....?"

I can relate to all of them and a few more.
Now, where did I put that?
What was I looking for?

And my famous one.... Going to the grocery store and realizing I left my shopping list at home. This results in buying 27 things instead of the 2 items I went for. I have got to get a bigger pantry.

Yipper, been there - done that, more than a few times!

WOW, IamWhoIam; that first list is a great guide on how to manage a good relationship for 'DUMMIES' and it shouldn't be so hard and yet for some it seems obvious that it WILL BE!
So well worth the effort to post - 4 sure! LOL

The only 2 things I'd add to that is: any relationship is work - keeping it is work - don't take it for GRANTED and DO NOT BE LITTLE EACH OTHER TO OTHER PEOPLE - especially family members.
It erodes the core of the other human!

What ever happened to people just behaving normally.

I would think if you were an ok sort of person then all on that list would just come natural anyway.

The list is for people who are not ok Joe....Now stop complaining and say something nice to Iam...

EXACTLY

Well that's me told off lmao.

Iam knows I would never be rude to her, she's a cool chick and she's from the big Apple, so she probably knows some of the mob.

She's very well connected!

Morning (((Joe)))....You're one of the nicest guys I know!!

Thank you Leigh. Coming from you that means a lot.

You're a cool chick as well

I find doing the small things, mean a lot more to me. One time, a guy I was with, went and got me a glass of orange juice, even though he never asked if I wanted any. I didn't feel like drinking it, because I was already
drinking my cup of coffee, but I drank it anyway.


He would put his arm around me, and say "How's my lovely, beautiful, lady, today?". I liked it when he did that.


He told me I could go to him about any problem in my life.


We would always laugh and joke a lot, with each other.


If he had bought me something like a car, I'd have told him that as nice as that is, I would never expect such a massive gift.


Then he started getting amnesia, along with brain damage, due to being hit over the head by his ex wife. So he started being VERY forgetful. It was devastating. Sometimes he couldn't remember my name, or my age, and other important things. So yes, little things means a lot to me.

WOW - huge lump in my throat; to many memories of my husbands last 2 yrs...

May your next relationship be bigger/better and even more fulfilling for you!

OMG same here.

There are steps, or spokes to the wheel of love's momentum that must keep going or love dies in a ditch ...

yes "FEAR"
Sitka, Darling, you are very close to the reality. 1st comes love then Intimacy. Intimacy actually means when someone knows you better than you know yourself (not what people think it means). Terrifying for most people to be known so well ... and there are 5 more steps after "Intimacy" just as scary if not more frightening than Intimacy. Not knowing what to expect with true love and jumping in the pool is a bad idea, IMHO

Yes we can call them as we do others... Arms, spokes, steps etc... The list is endless of words we use. Whether we us terminology or if we pick up a text book.. semantics is all that is IMHO


Au contraire I have to disagree with you not even in the sexual sense does love come before intimacy.. Can't happen if we use either the logical or emotional sense of said word. Intimacy has to come first.




Actually you are not quite correct if we take Webster, meridian, or Oxford definition of the word Intimacy it means nothing more than being close...Hell I have had intimate conversations with my grandchildren..

IF we put it in layman's terms and break it down as I have done many times with clients and colleagues "Intimacy means In to me U C"... really quite simple nothing to fear.
I don't believe that to have intimacy with another person, means that the other person knows me better than I know myself. That just isn't going to happen the only way for that to happen is over time. OF being intimate for a very long time and then only in certain aspects of me.




For some maybe, others will embrace it totally, myself being one of them.




When I hear this I have to kind of chuckle since I am not a great believer in saying there are a set number of steps in things.

For example we state there are 5 levels of grieving and then we break it down and there are so many more subcategories..So IMHO what one person labels as 5 could be another person 2, 14,56.. infinity.



Again I think this is as subjective as the other above and the lists that were printed.. I personally don't believe it is a bad idea of jumping into the pool....Heck half the fun is the world of discovery...

Again not bashing or trashing just discussing...

Please do not attack other members within the forums.

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It's a date.

You, too, beautiful.

Did I forget to include the bonus portion of this article?

You talk too much. Shut up and kiss me.