Buy a goat.

No. It is not.

the last 3 years of mt marriage, there was no sex, his issue. no one touched me but me, after the divorce however....

if someone doesn't honor the contact we have together, i don't feel any guilt about tearing the contract up and starting over with someone else...feel guilty ? no way..

But those goats are so ADD when it comes to acres of grass. The nerve!

Sure!!!!
No problem!

...As long as they've discussed it with their partner and their partner doesn't have a problem with it.

If their partner has a problem with it then either don't do it or get divorced.


Whether or not someone feels guilt is their own responsibility.
Doesn't really matter what anyone else says.
If one person doesn't feel any guilt for sleeping with someone else, 300 other people telling them they should isn't going to magically make them feel guilty.
At best they may be insecure about being ostracized by the 300 and develop a sense of guilt to go along with the groups expectations, but that doesn't mean guilty for the sex.


I don't know. I never met the guy.


With this logic he should just go ahead and stab people when he feels like it.


Not necessarily.
Love works to inhibit libido only if someone is reminded, mindful, of their partner. It's why there are wedding rings, and photos on work desks, and why people leave items behind at each others houses, and all sorts of things meant to get the other person to remember.

If one person keeps growing apart from the person they love then there is going to be less and less interference when their lust or libido is triggered.

As soon as human beings hit puberty sex hormones are triggered by any potential mate no matter what their relationship status.
"Love" mitigates them. It doesn't turn them off. It's an automatic trigger and system you have absolutely no control over except in the immediate decision of your actions.

You can always rekindle a relationship that has experienced love.

It just takes a lot of effort, changing focus and perspective.

Unfortunately, that will take away from the rest of your life.

So if you value your jobs or whatever more than the relationship, then the relationship is doomed and it's easier to just let it die.

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So, whats the conclusion ?
The sex starved couple should try to find a way, otherwise get divorce . Then go ahead for another relation ?
So simple .. is not it ?

Very simple for outsiders looking in.
Not so simple for the ones living it.


Conclusion...
These three people will have to decide what is best for them,
I am curious about the "other" woman does she know she is the "other woman"

There are several solutions for sexual incompatibility, having an extramarital affair is not one of them...

Cheating is cheating. Not going to be rationalized away. You don't want the partnership you are in, cut your losses, get divorced and then do what ever you want. I have yet to see a marriage promise assign a quota of sex and I doubt I ever will. If your sex has a price on it you can't blame the partner that is not paying your price or the substitute who may not even know you are about price. Using a substitute is just weak.

I think we're putting the cart before the horse.

The majority of us would be better served concentrating on first having a marital affair before we start worrying ourselves about EXTRAmarital affairs.

Yes, we all got just the one life, well, not really but I get the point.
But if this is the way you feel, be a man about it and don't cheat, just get a divorce and get on with life. Then you can have as many as you can get without hurting anyone else in the process.

Heehee...

((((((Buddha))))))

Cheating is cheating. If you feel the need to cheat then get out of the relationship or out of the marriage. When you cheat you disrespect the other person in the relationship as well as yourself.

If someone feels they need to cheat for whatever reason, ask yourself - is the gratification worth ripping the heart out of your mate? Is it worth hurting other people who love the people involved. It devastates families and children. Is it really worth that? Its not to me. After the sexual climax the lust recedes and all thats left is guilt and remnants of those left in the wake of impending pain and hurt. If you need sex, talk about it with your mate. Find dialogue and if you love your mate you'll seek help if it comes to that. I dont understand why we put sexual needs above the love they have for someone that they would hurt. To each their own I reckon. Just not for me.

IN THE BEGINING GOD CREATED MARRIAGE AS A LEGALLY BINDING CONTRACT UNDER GOD[ proverbs 2-17 ]it is not good for man to live alone gen 2-18 [the man shall desire her husband he shall rule over her [gen 3-16 ]violating thatis violting GODS law
GOD gave EVE to ADAM as his wife with strict conditions one being to love each other;;it is better to marry than burnwith passion 1 corr 7-9
the philosophy of the world is live and learn /the philisosphy of proverbs is learn to live
he/ she who denies sex denies love grounds for divorce
the results of violating gen 2-18/3-16 /1 corr 7-9 is homosexuality lesbianism prostitution dom violence divorce adultery chastity poverty ignorance + more

CHEATING SCAMMING IS A FORM OF RAPE SPORT WE WAS ROBBED THEY RAPED THE LAND DIVORCE IS A FORM OF RAPE WHAT GOD has joined togeather let no man part