well said ,every credit to you :)

Well, your married and have a kid. But looking for a woman on the side so why don't you just tell us.

Because a big percentage of the time the interloper knows exactly what they are doing. They will search out a relationship that is a challenge to destroy and systematically do anything fair or foul to destroy it. Sometimes they lay in wait for years waiting for a weakened moment. They really care nothing for the person they are wooing away it is just a big ego trip. WAY to often the cheater will almost immediately cheat on the person they draw and quarter away from their home. Sometimes they are breaking up several relationships at the same time. They care nothing about the kids involved or the careers they destroy the devastation it does to businesses and communities. If they feel endangered they find it exciting and will purposefully goad the innocent victims to being out of control.

hearing the troubles and responses makes me feel as if I'm the luckiest SOB on earth. My baby never uses sex against me. She never has told me no. There has been a few times I knew I had better hurry but still it was fantastic.
I really believe that at 55 I was taught how to truly love someone. There have been quite a few others but now I just cannot see why. There is absolutely nothing that can compete with the sensations, the emotions of making love to the woman you deeply love.
I have met my soul in someone else. Everything became better in my life since she started loving me. So I say do not give up very easily.

One roommate I had in college was like this.
She and a couple of her friends would talk, brag, about poking holes in condoms, lying about being pregnant, and compare all the things they "had" to do in order to put some of the doctors at the medical school or university hospital in compromising positions, how to get them "addicted" to them so they'd want to leave their wives, how to entrench themselves emotionally and sexually like a drug in the guys life.

They were always causing scenes and problems with wives and pushing them to act out of control.

Whereas some or most of the people they were doing this to would feel like the affair "just happened!" or even that they were in love, the women approached it like they were the A-team, or the stereotypical 80's movie Russian spy seducing nuclear secrets out of the geeky scientist, planning for contingencies, complaining when fights didn't happen, and talking about what they'd do next.

Sometimes they'd laugh and make fun of the guy that said he loved one of them.
All they really wanted to do was either marry rich or control rich in a kept mistress capacity.

It was really kinda scary.