you marry a wife/partner not a job easier to find a job than a wife
absence makes the heart grow founder rubbish leads to sin
did not the wife promise to love honor obey in sickness and health the husband to honor love protect cherish for rich or poor till death do we part
true the west has a lot to answer for

Why should he not? Well let's see, because he's married and has a wife at home that loves him. This is nothing more then a guy being a dog and making excuses.

I HATE cheaters more then I hate Democrats and that's saying something there. My marriage ended because my wife cheated multiple times and I put one of my best friends into a wall when I found out he was ****ing around on his wife.

It's just not right.

The married couple sound like business partners. Together they work more than 24/7. Maybe they should see it for what it is and continue being married business partners while being allowed to have personal relationships that don't interfere with their primary goal in life: work.

the world according to Estelle... that should be a book or movie...

I just ponder the elaborate oath taking ceremony where the couple swear life long fidelity and unity that is brushed aside at the slightest of provocations.

Why bother in the first place?

I never bothered with it, I have an innate ability to read men's minds...so I'm aware that an equal and true marriage is not what they want.

Tell me - what am I thinking right now?

Yech. Another "yeah but cheating is okay SOMEtimes, right?" thread.


Answers always the same. No.

I have a firm commitment to honor. That's it.

Clearly the OP doesn't know how devastating it is to find out someone you took vows with was cheating on you. I know in my case I almost threw everything away, my Private Investigators License, my PILB card, Gaming License, Eagle Scout and WZ certification because I went out and I was going to literally kill the SOB with my bare hands she was cheating with and if it weren't for one of my best friends meeting me at his work and knocking some reality into me I would have lost everything because of that and the pain.

I also attempted to take my life and had not only the paramedics, police were at my house and the coroner was called, then cancelled after I was revived on Thanksgiving because I was found unresponsive to an overdose, just because I wanted the pain to go away. Luckily I was revived, and in physical pain for a long time. It was not a good experience and many of my close friends on this site know a lot of the details of both situations. Man did I learn, luckily not to late that nothing is worth it, but that $hit still hurts beyond belief.

why do people always want to harm the "other man/woman"? they aren't the problem in the equation.

i don't know you, but i am glad you learned that harming yourself doesn't fix anything either.

" less sexually aroused or even start denying any sexuality "

Besides this being one of the most sexiest statements ever....
But you are not American.

The problem is NOT the woman's LOST of sexually or the need for sex or the desire for sex... it is YOU.
She is not seeing you like she use to.
So just TRY to think what is different about the way you talk to her?, Threat her? Do you pay attention to her? Listen to what she says she wants and needs? Spend more time with her. Help here do things.

It will not change in a day or a week. But it will get better, when she sees the OLD you, the man she fell in love with. OR the NEW man you can be for her.

Hope this helps.... make a date, make lots of dates

Speak for yourself. I always find that harming the other can be quite fun.....just last week this chick beat me with a cat of nine tails. I was like....MOM! STOP!

beat him!!!

speaking for myself, if my gal is runnin around with some other hound, I got me a woman problem not a man problem. even if i killed him real good, she'd just find herself another feller to rassle with.

Because he pursued my ex wife heavily and rubbed it in my face. It's an emotion you cant help and it's hard to control and I am not one to lose my temper easily, actually very rarely.

It's a respect issues and I got to admit it would have felt really good to have felt his bones break under my fists.

(((( Don ))))...I remember when this happened ...I'm glad your are moving past it...

Very well said and I agree 100%

Ya know what younger generation calls this..not in marriage but in relationship when one partner starts looking around just to see what is out there? Monkey branching..or was it monkey balling...to set up things with new person before leaving the old. In marriages we see this..leaving old spouse to latch onto someone new without ever taking time or self reflection to try figure out just how two of ya got to that point and how to prevent it from happening again

" less sexually aroused or even start denying any sexuality "

Besides this being one of the most sexiest statements ever....
But you are not American.

The problem is NOT the woman's LOST of sexually or the need for sex or the desire for sex... it is YOU.
She is not seeing you like she use to.
So just TRY to think what is different about the way you talk to her?, Threat her? Do you pay attention to her? Listen to what she says she wants and needs? Spend more time with her. Help here do things.

It will not change in a day or a week. But it will get better, when she sees the OLD you, the man she fell in love with. OR the NEW man you can be for her.

Hope this helps.... make a date, make lots of dates


This one is perhaps the most relevant one, the husband could try to do.To become the Old one, that's important . I am from a society , where a couple would never go for a divorce, so easily. The couple would keep doing their best to keep the marriage relationship forever. But, the era we are living in, is something different than that of our parents or grand parents. We need to think wisely.Today, everyone is working hard to make a living, to live a better lifestyle. We don't have time to spent time with our nearest ones.Therefore, we must stop for a while and look back. I agree with you, rediscovering the ' OLD you ' is very important.

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