here are this years divorce statistics by state and region ::

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Area
2000
1999
2000
1999
1998
2000
1999
2000
1999
1998
New England . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
4,884
4,966
92,561
92,775
90,362
5,409
2,256
46,273
36,993
44,016
Maine . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
419
370
10,488
10,146
10,494
639
532
5,846
5,731
5,132
New Hampshire . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
890
702
11,558
9,676
7,345
726
321
7,106
6,966
7,021
Vermont . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
307
395
6,088
6,024
5,853
281
154
5,148
2,603
2,559
Massachusetts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
1,845
1,955
36,999
39,411
39,219
3,009
503
18,597
13,181
16,524
Rhode Island . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
444
397
8,010
7,770
7,515
224
302
3,121
2,857
3,165
Connecticut . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
979
1,147
19,418
19,748
19,936
530
444
6,455
5,655
9,615
Middle Atlantic . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21,631
28,721
285,541
277,954
238,526
9,606
9,485
126,222
124,813
109,585
New York
1
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13,157
14,003
161,984
137,153
115,928
3,629
4,358
62,794
61,803
45,781
New Jersey . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
4,468
11,768
50,360
65,632
48,400
2,119
2,185
25,576
25,181
25,295
Pennsylvania . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
4,006
2,950
73,197
75,169
74,198
3,858
2,942
37,852
37,829
38,509
East North Central . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18,481
19,930
310,943
311,495
305,852
2
13,306
2
13,025
2
145,343
2
142,495
2
143,138
Ohio. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
5,906
6,179
88,490
88,638
85,607
5,179
4,152
49,272
45,695
46,042
Indiana . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
3,612
3,059
34,498
33,913
34,566
- - -
- - -
- - -
- - -
- - -
Illinois . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
4,412
5,448
85,517
85,944
84,533
3,412
4,251
39,078
41,025
40,549
Michigan . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
3,133
3,659
66,372
67,136
66,089
3,267
3,122
39,377
38,017
38,882
Wisconsin . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
1,418
1,585
36,066
35,864
35,057
1,448
1,500
17,616
17,758
17,665
West North Central . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
7,126
7,768
144,248
144,324
143,646
6,398
6,331
72,379
69,253
72,409
Minnesota . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
1,038
1,450
33,355
33,123
32,197
1,584
1,272
14,779
13,514
15,319
Iowa. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
932
1,195
20,256
22,965
23,540
673
885
9,440
9,874
9,546
Missouri . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
2,052
2,604
43,725
45,314
43,795
2,329
2,111
26,464
24,656
25,799
North Dakota . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
221
219
4,600
4,277
4,206
154
159
2,024
2,023
2,087
South Dakota . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
273
368
7,060
6,840
6,710
219
268
2,678
2,768
2,591
Nebraska . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
846
750
13,020
12,801
12,320
581
541
6,414
6,254
6,376
Kansas . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
1,764
1,182
22,232
19,004
20,878
858
1,095
10,580
10,164
10,691
South Atlantic . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31,851
33,615
432,257
434,098
425,442
17,045
20,285
225,164
230,321
227,474
Delaware . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
437
302
5,131
5,180
5,028
268
373
3,177
3,647
3,373
Maryland . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
4,702
2,789
39,986
39,179
37,515
1,771
1,379
16,968
16,785
16,397
District of Columbia . . . . . . . . . . . . .
382
680
2,798
3,752
2,372
99
179
1,548
2,067
1,096
Virginia . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
4,008
4,708
62,411
64,683
64,271
2,843
3,194
30,242
31,729
29,965
West Virginia . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
1,065
1,115
15,687
13,549
11,738
991
994
9,336
8,957
9,314
North Carolina . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
4,372
5,754
65,622
67,496
63,798
2,707
3,475
36,889
36,739
36,832
South Carolina . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
3,026
3,300
42,667
40,728
41,494
1,265
1,466
14,409
14,496
14,608
Georgia . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
4,044
4,160
56,031
62,642
59,763
1,596
2,221
30,734
34,227
35,753
Florida. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
9,815
10,807
141,924
136,889
139,463
5,505
7,004
81,861
81,674
80,136
East South Central . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10,842
15,044
192,628
196,579
195,969
7,441
7,697
93,319
96,652
96,128
Kentucky . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
1,958
3,811
39,671
43,773
44,288
1,773
2,457
21,593
22,689
22,369
Tennessee . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
4,000
7,000
88,244
83,162
81,168
2,847
2,649
33,842
32,737
34,509
Alabama. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
3,106
2,477
44,998
47,700
49,893
1,634
1,648
23,529
25,885
26,274
Mississippi . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
1,778
1,756
19,715
21,944
20,620
1,187
943
14,355
15,341
12,976
West South Central . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20,396
29,522
293,659
290,645
278,895
2
4,808
2
7,446
2
113,111
2
108,480
2
118,068
Arkansas . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
3,142
3,046
41,127
39,363
38,446
1,198
1,351
17,895
15,501
15,376
Louisiana . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
3,990
4,749
40,544
40,608
42,157
- - -
- - -
- - -
- - -
- - -
Oklahoma . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
1,740
1,215
15,571
23,304
25,872
1,505
798
12,352
19,696
19,971
Texas
3
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11,524
20,512
196,417
187,370
172,420
2,105
5,297
82,864
73,283
82,721
Mountain . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18,702
20,953
282,699
297,748
274,717
2
4,546
2
6,441
2
70,438
2
67,874
2
70,321
Montana. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
307
383
6,568
6,633
6,358
180
246
2,149
2,548
3,351
Idaho . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
941
988
13,981
15,439
15,524
638
451
6,874
6,780
7,018
Wyoming . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
296
218
4,939
4,845
4,656
185
213
2,821
2,824
2,834
Colorado . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
2,246
2,544
35,636
34,771
31,403
- - -
- - -
- - -
- - -
- - -
New Mexico
4,5
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
1,144
1,056
14,462
14,506
13,379
741
719
9,203
8,258
7,667
Arizona
1
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
2,648
3,661
38,716
41,174
37,936
699
1,766
21,593
22,983
25,798
Utah. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
1,333
1,409
24,097
21,089
21,547
756
1,127
9,714
9,455
8,835
Nevada . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
9,787
10,694
144,300
159,291
143,914
1,347
1,919
18,084
15,026
14,818
Pacific . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18,167
38,265
294,318
311,802
288,055
2
4,615
2
4,624
2
51,245
2
51,861
2
52,016
Washington . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
2,021
3,026
40,891
42,325
41,185
2,690
2,571
27,210
28,970
28,786
Oregon . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
1,431
1,583
25,973
25,721
26,040
1,400
1,538
16,695
15,867
15,208
California . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12,962
31,550
196,896
215,510
194,108
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- - -
- - -
- - -
- - -
Alaska. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
208
552
5,564
5,373
5,948
181
201
2,718
2,647
3,212
Hawaii. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
1,545
1,554
24,994
22,873
20,774
344
314
4,622
4,377
4,810
Puerto Rico . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
3,340
4,070
26,151
26,687
26,390
1,268
2,179
13,706
15,575
14,229

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holy excessive numbers batman!

No Chit!!

Nothing like numbers to confuse a good topic!

You can't judge quickly, though.

I tell people I was married twice and that sometimes shuts off all conversation. I never get a chance to say I was widowed at 23, remarried at 27 and was divorced after 20 years....

and your statics say nothing but numbers.........

i have tons of data:
here's more:

Women and men of the middle-upper class marry at a later age and tend to remain married more often, whereas partners who belong to lower classes marry younger and divorce more.

The average age gap (in all social classes) is the same between men and women (1 year). (Average age gap in the world : 2 and a half years). The age gap increases between partners who remarry : men tend to remarry with younger women. The research on the stability of remarried couples is not yet sufficient. But the first data collected show remarried couples are less stable than upper class couples who got married in their thirties.

It has been also observed that stabler couples tend to share the same advantages (physical attractiveness, instruction, wealth), values and style of life and that partners of those couples do many activities together.

Tentative explanation : upper class partners draw more benefits from marriage (including benefits drawn by the fact that they can combine a better access to resources).

The only exception to the rule concerns ... artists.

The main factor is women's access to resources. High divorce and remarriage rates have been observed among traditional societies of hunters-gatherers where women bring as much resources as men.

sit back and wait, i have enough stuff here for 100 threads on here :)

its tryign to format it so its readable... because I'm a statstician, i can see the numbers and understand them...

i don't watch oprah you see, so i have to use the multiple degrees, 15 certificates, 5 languages, and overwhelming education i have as my guide..

dr phil just doesn't cut it for me

baygurl.......are you here????

I still believe there are exceptions to every rule. Marriage is a LEGAL thing... not and emotional thing. If the love is there, who cares?

I'd be more likely to red flag a guy who openly admits to have abused his ex or cheated on her (and only be divorced once)

than the guy divorced 3 or 4 times simply because it just didn't work.

Not that it matters.... my baby loves me for me... so apparently my marital status and history wasn't an issue for him.

according to your statistics it's ok im divorcing, cuz i like older guys but there's a 3 year age gap in my 1st marriage.

i just know i wouldn't want someone to hold my divorce against me. it's not my fault the way i see it. i feel ive done all i can to make things work, but im the only one working on it. it's better this way. i dont wanna stay married just to spend the rest of my life being abused, cheated on and hurt. so i wanna know on what presidences did they get divorced before i go judging by a number.

There is little information on people who marry three or more times, because the demographic is relatively small. Census surveys show that only 3 percent of men and women marry three times or more, compared with 13 percent of men and 14 percent of women who marry twice.

But third marriages are, by logic, more common among older Americans, and when broken down by age the census figures show a significantly higher incidence of marriage for certain groups. Eight percent of men and 6 percent of women in their 50s had married three or more times, 2001 figures show, and so had 7 percent of men and 6 percent of women in their 60s.

kidatheart70 - I've known my ex for 20 years and out of that we lived in sin for 8years. We survived better than all our friends and family that were married.

Marriage to me is something you do because you feel it is right for you and not what society expects you to or your folks just because you had a child or living with someone.

My partner now never married...yea, I questioned that but we will see where our love take us

you know what about this pisses me off?

you are ALL on a singles site
who the fcuk are you all to sit back and decide whether or not a person who has been married more than once is worse than a person that has only been married once, and so forth...
you sit on your computers, in your damn homes, or offices, and pass judgment on whomever and whatever you think you can, and if you can't do that, then you put people down either behind their backs or put them down in the threads and talk siht about people as though you're lives are all figured out

and you wonder WHY men go after girsl that are younger? who the fcuk wants to deal with that over 30 chip on their shouldered broad that thinks she's had so much life experience that she is and can and will just arbitrarily judge whomever she feels she can judge from the safety of her own computer

i don't claim to be all that, and i'm definitely not one of teh prettiest boys on this site, but i don't act like my siht doesn't stink and my gentitals are made of gold

you arrogant, arrogant, self righteous judgmental pathetic little people

y go back to school, ill just listen to beats and learn something

Geeeeeeeez LivingByBeats, that data don't mean anything to me. I prefer to hear what people think

I'm 37 and I've never been married.
I've had a few people comment on that over the years. I don't really care what they think but it is interesting how so many believe there must be something wrong if you're not married by my age.

These stats are hurting my brain. *sticks fingers into eyes* LA LA LA LA LA LA LA LA LA LA LA LA I'm not reading you anymore.
Ouch! Doesn't work the same as I'm not listening anymore.

gypsy wanted stats, so i gave them to her, because housewife thinks that she has all the answers, and if not, she'll just make fun of people. ... that is the best she has to offer. no links, no data, no proof, just well this is what i think and if you don't agree than hahahaha i'll make fun of you...

its boring and infantile :)

so fine, i posted the stats, and i couldn't format them in a readable format, sorry bummer, siht happens.

but i'm not sitting here talking crack about people and decideing who is and who isn't a good person and who is a bad person and so on...

geez i'm working right now and i pop in here a few times and these old biddies sit here all day and squawk like parrots making commentaries on everyone and anything that they can use to make jokes about in order to make themselves feel better...

grow the fcuk up and act your age, not the length of baggage you drag behind you

i am going to have to agree w/singing's two posts

just because they have been in two failed marriages

does not mean the failing was there fault
maybe the spouse cheats for the sake of cheating

or they become someone that has changed and no
longer feels they can stay in the relationship with you

and what does divorce mean a legal termination of a legal marriage

what about the people that just live together for a few years
and go there own ways

and done this multiple times and say no i never been divorced

a technically true statement but would you trust them
if you found this out

and just because someone did not get along w/someone else does not mean they will not get along with you

but hey what do i know

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and for the record married 12 yrs and divorced once she remarried 3 weeks later to the father of her son i was trying
to adopt

long term significant other for 8 yrs and she got religion
and left after cheating

so i guess i am high risk according to most of the posts on
this thread even tho i have never cheated on nor struck anyone

Maintain that anger LivingByBeats, ….we are just sharing our opinion on the topic that don’t mean we claim we have the right response.

beats: im offended. everything i said was saying i wasnt passnt judgement.

kid: as long as you're happy. maybe next time cover your eye with your hand instead of fingers