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Topic: Women should be paid to get married.
Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48950	Mon 04/27/15 06:29 AM
It's in the religious books. Perhaps you can cite a book, chapter and verse. . . Or can you?

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Mon 04/27/15 06:45 AM
You've got to be kidding me. In most of the world the man provides and always has. Now the tables are turned and they don't want to do any chores. In every religion you will find the tradition was for the man to pay the bride or her family, because it is the man who provides and the bride's family who has lost some valuable domestic help. Now everywhere women are paying for marriage, and yet everywhere men don't want to do any chores. This is sad for women, even men are losing this way and don't know it I guess. No you are wrong. Historically the women's family paid the man. The man was the person having to take care of his new bride. This was a financial burden for the man and a financial relief for the women's family. When a man got old enough he left home. A women never left until she was married. Thus the women's family would give the man a lump sum to take their daughter and be responsible for her. This is called a dowry. Babylon, Greece, Roman Empire, India, China, Mexico, Brazil, Europe, all have a history of dowry payments. One big reason was women didn't inherit anything back then. This was a way for them to give to their daughter and her family. In primitive times the woman would leave her home to marry a man, there would be a bride price which he would pay to her family for their loss of labor. That is the earliest type of exchange. Later on when men created domestic violence the dowry was invented as a retaliation against all the women who would laugh at men for having small penises. It was their way of making up for what they lacked and proving themselves to be worthy of the women regardless of penis size. It's in the Bible.

Friendly_Woman Joined Mon 04/27/15 Posts: 728	Mon 04/27/15 06:47 AM
No. I refuse to be hustled :)

dreamerana Joined Sat 09/21/13 Posts: 21544	Mon 04/27/15 06:50 AM Edited by dreamerana on Mon 04/27/15 06:52 AM
there's always the option of signing a prenuptial agreement. the sad part is not a lack of expectations, but expecting the worst, which is a loveless marriage without trust, without friendship, without respect. even sadder is a child is growing up being taught in this manner, thus perpetuating a cycle. if a person is planning to marry someone who isn't the father of their child, they might unconsciously push the new step father to indifference because they'd proprietary of said child. upon reading through this thread this morning, I was reminded of a conversation from about 5 years ago. a friend was asking about a female member of my family. I said I don't understand why being a smart, beautiful and attractive woman, my relative ends it with one loser to pick someone even worse. my friend told me did you ever think her self esteem is shattered more each time and so she thinks she's only getting what she deserves. a sad way to go into a relationship

Friendly_Woman Joined Mon 04/27/15 Posts: 728	Mon 04/27/15 06:54 AM
I have to feel respected by a man, and only then will I know for sure that he's worth marrying.

WonderWoman48 Joined Tue 01/27/15 Posts: 1560	Mon 04/27/15 06:54 AM
You've got to be kidding me. In most of the world the man provides and always has. Now the tables are turned and they don't want to do any chores. In every religion you will find the tradition was for the man to pay the bride or her family, because it is the man who provides and the bride's family who has lost some valuable domestic help. Now everywhere women are paying for marriage, and yet everywhere men don't want to do any chores. This is sad for women, even men are losing this way and don't know it I guess. No you are wrong. Historically the women's family paid the man. The man was the person having to take care of his new bride. This was a financial burden for the man and a financial relief for the women's family. When a man got old enough he left home. A women never left until she was married. Thus the women's family would give the man a lump sum to take their daughter and be responsible for her. This is called a dowry. Babylon, Greece, Roman Empire, India, China, Mexico, Brazil, Europe, all have a history of dowry payments. One big reason was women didn't inherit anything back then. This was a way for them to give to their daughter and her family. In primitive times the woman would leave her home to marry a man, there would be a bride price which he would pay to her family for their loss of labor. That is the earliest type of exchange. Later on when men created domestic violence the dowry was invented as a retaliation against all the women who would laugh at men for having small penises. It was their way of making up for what they lacked and proving themselves to be worthy of the women regardless of penis size. It's in the Bible. small penises Estelle! You made my day.

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Mon 04/27/15 06:55 AM
There's nothing wrong with a prenuptial agreement, it does not mean there is no trust. It means there is a promise and the deed to back it up, so why withhold on that if you're honest? And about your cousin, that is a very mean thing to say about her. Maybe she loves herself a lot, but had bad luck, it's easy to have that with men these days.

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Mon 04/27/15 06:56 AM
You've got to be kidding me. In most of the world the man provides and always has. Now the tables are turned and they don't want to do any chores. In every religion you will find the tradition was for the man to pay the bride or her family, because it is the man who provides and the bride's family who has lost some valuable domestic help. Now everywhere women are paying for marriage, and yet everywhere men don't want to do any chores. This is sad for women, even men are losing this way and don't know it I guess. No you are wrong. Historically the women's family paid the man. The man was the person having to take care of his new bride. This was a financial burden for the man and a financial relief for the women's family. When a man got old enough he left home. A women never left until she was married. Thus the women's family would give the man a lump sum to take their daughter and be responsible for her. This is called a dowry. Babylon, Greece, Roman Empire, India, China, Mexico, Brazil, Europe, all have a history of dowry payments. One big reason was women didn't inherit anything back then. This was a way for them to give to their daughter and her family. In primitive times the woman would leave her home to marry a man, there would be a bride price which he would pay to her family for their loss of labor. That is the earliest type of exchange. Later on when men created domestic violence the dowry was invented as a retaliation against all the women who would laugh at men for having small penises. It was their way of making up for what they lacked and proving themselves to be worthy of the women regardless of penis size. It's in the Bible. small penises Estelle! You made my day. Yeah I made it up, but it's got to have something to do with this mess.

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Mon 04/27/15 06:58 AM Edited by yellowrose10 on Mon 04/27/15 07:00 AM
Good grief Charlie Brown What scripture talks about a dowry and small penises?

dreamerana Joined Sat 09/21/13 Posts: 21544	Mon 04/27/15 06:59 AM
it's always interesting to notice which points you ignore and which points you defend. have a great day. I'm off to work.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48950	Mon 04/27/15 07:04 AM
Later on when men created domestic violence the dowry was invented as a retaliation against all the women who would laugh at men for having small penises. It was their way of making up for what they lacked and proving themselves to be worthy of the women regardless of penis size. It's in the Bible. Meanwhile, back in this universe ...

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Mon 04/27/15 07:10 AM
The truth is not popular.

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Mon 04/27/15 07:19 AM
The truth is not popular. Cite your research sources.

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Mon 04/27/15 07:31 AM
Here is one source: http://www.womenintheancientworld.com/dowry%20and%20bride%20price.htm

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48950	Mon 04/27/15 07:33 AM
Here is one source: http://www.womenintheancientworld.com/dowry%20and%20bride%20price.htm How about citing your alleged Bible source.

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Mon 04/27/15 07:42 AM
Sometimes, as much as 3 - 6 times daily...

sybariticguy Joined Thu 09/27/12 Posts: 1639	Mon 04/27/15 07:45 AM
sex, money and family issues are the three top conflicts for divorce proceedings...

tealbreeze Joined Sun 02/08/15 Posts: 2279	Mon 04/27/15 07:58 AM
In many cultures a woman's parents were paid to seal the marriage deal, shouldn't women be paid today for this marriage deal? mmmmm, the men around here can't afford me.

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Mon 04/27/15 08:35 AM
All right. I'll bite. Ballpark figure. How much? asked Borat

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Mon 04/27/15 08:39 AM
Women should be given a percentage of her husbands earnings each paycheck that comes in, and that percent is equal to the paycheck amount. She should be in charge of how it get's spent giving him an allowance to go to work, this way it's fair.