Oh, I'm not so sure of this. At the least, it's an opening, an ice-breaker, a way to get the issue out into the air.

He: 'Where's dinner?'

She: 'It's so nice to be noticed, again. Let's talk, bub.'

Perfect

of course this is about my son but here is an example of how this works

after repeating for than I should that he needs to pick up dirty clothes
put them down hamper
go to basement
get his clean clothes basket and put his clothes away

got tired to listening to sound of my own voice


so I stopped doing his laundry
it took about three days til he ran out of jeans and underwear
" ma I don't have any clean clothes"
" is that right...hmmmm let's take a look at the floor of your room"
" come with me my son"


when this same son got married his new blushing bride complained to her mother in law ( me) that she cannot seem to get him to take care of his dirty dishes out of the livingroom
he uses a glass and then just leave it there

I asked her..have you told him you would like him to take these out to sink and she said over and over again

I asked her...how is it then that the dishes are getting to the kitchen?
she was getting fed up and would always just go get them and take them out grumbling the whole time

my advice to her was to stop doing this
she said " ya but if I stop the dirty dishes will pile up around him"

and? " he will eventually get tired of sitting in midst of his own filth"

took three days

I assure you one of my requirements is a man that can cook nothing sexy then a man in the kitchen...

so if I cook the meal should you do the dishes..?..

I have tried to talk to him but it seems like he miss the point.he always increase the money he gives me or say the money is there buy whatever u want.i used to work and provide for us then he got a job asked me to stay home so he wil take care of me and he doesn't want me to work cause we have more than enough.God is blessing us. i guess i also miss working and i need friends but i never had good friends who wanted or wished good things for me so i cut them off.

Go here at my place in philippines, so you will not go out for dinner by yourself ;)

you need to find the middle ground..
. if he is working and you are staying at home... then that is your choice.. you accept the responsibility of looking after the house... but that does not.. exclude him from helping out from time to time.... doing dishes together is a good chance to catch up on small talk... plan dinner meals... make plans to go out for dinner together..... it is easy to fall into.. job titles I guess... he works you look after the house....yes.... but you need to find something to bring yourself together... otherwise you're just roommates really.... but instead of you paying rent you pay rent with house duties...oui

Women & their constant nagging about men

i do go out by myself nt everynight. He no longer likes takeaways he loves my food since i learned how to cook his food.even if he goes out to a party he wil nibble on something but comes home for my food.

lol

take the money and hire a maid...

Humm maybe you miss understood my meaning.. Myself I feel that both should be in the kitchen cooking together.. therefore one washes the other dries and puts up... It is all about working together not who should do what..

Even if you are just talking about cooking it is still communication...and found those times are were, people feel relaxed they talk more..

..awww.. you know the last thing we will be doing... is cooking a meal right.. .. comes in from behind her.. as she has her hands in a sink of warm soapy water.... putts both hands on her waist.. begins to kiss her neck slowly....mmm.... movies hands up to her shoulders and begins rubbing her shoulders..
brings her glass of wine up to her lips so she may drink from it..... moves his lips to her earlobe..mmmm

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Humm sounds like to me he is thinking all you are missing is gifts or things you want...

Seems you need to clarify what it is you are wanting gifts or romance. Hence could be the reason he thinks by giving you more money it will solve the problem...

Unless a person knows how to speak up with what they mean the other in no way should know what the problem is. Due to them they do not see it as a problem cause nothing has been said to make them think there is one.. No one reads minds..........not even men!

Many women would love to trade places with you. I think you're being silly. You have no problems..you sound like my sister who complains she has no chauffeur...get a hobby seriously.

no1phD.....expected you to come back with something like that.....

Never said how heated the kitchen may get the meal would be cooked but...once it is prepared it does take time to cook... then ya just go with the flow..........nothing like dessert first...

yes and you should expect it.. everytime.... seeing my woman in the kitchen seeing how hard she works for me.. I just want to make her happy..mmmm. keep her satisfied..
. let her know I appreciate what she's doing for me...yes.... sits down in chair.. now come straddle me.. Oh could you bring me some apple juice while you're up....lol

To a point I agree but having someone that only provides food and shelter and ignores you is not where I would stay.. There is nothing worse then feeling alone when you are with someone.

If I sat home all day did all the cooking ect they came in kicked back and expected me to wait on them even if I was not working is not my thoughts of happiness.. Come in realize I do what I do cause I want them to come home and be able to relax but I want to do the same with them..

We all need our me time but the me time should not effect the we time....

I wouldn't be on mingle if that were the scenario. If the man is providing what you need and coming home to eat the food you cooked and sex is good and he isn't cheating or lying...I would remind myself that any woman could take him away from me because that is a good man. What else do you want? He isn't a woman and he doesn't want to do girly things, so what?