I am falling for you put up a picture..

Well all said and done relationship are hard and i see maybe im being silly.i did get my perfect man even though he has his faults.someone out there is praying for what i have,i just need to count my blessings.

That's right. Every man has his faults, but if he is good, don't worry about that stuff. Worry when he is not good.

Yes and No.. you should count your blessings yes... but you should always want to make the relationship better...yes... you're in a relationship it takes work.. from both parties...yes..

I know some guys do dishes after the woman makes dinner, I mean a guy could help out if he cares to do more. Some guys are not romantic and are just boring so they would help out or at least offer to help. Maybe she is right and he should make an effort somehow.

Not even close...
I can clean my own house
Do my own oil change
Did my own up keep on my boat
And I have always worked..

I want a man for so many others things as I hope he wants me more
than for keeping house, cooking..

based on reading through your topic it sounds like you've entered that phase in a relationship where the newness is gone and it takes effort to keep it going.

like many people have stated, there needs to be communication.
first be clear on what you want from him.
from what I can tell the not helping around the home is only a small part of it.
(btw, imo you allowed that to happen by letting it become a habit).

you have his money but you don't have the little things that show you you're still loved.
start by talking to him.
ask him to go out with you like you did while you were dating.

if you agreed that he works and you stay home, do little things for him as well, a little candle light. etc.

establish a time that's only for both of you. cell phones off. computer screen blank. etc.

if you think you need to, get advice from a couple counselor.

good luck. hope it gets better.

I'm sure you have told him that you feel unappreciated and why, but he is getting food and sex, so he doesn't care.

Without knowing what he is doing with all the time he is saving by ignoring you, or what you do with the time you are being ignored, the only little bit of advice I can offer, for what it is worth:

Heed his requests so their is no room for him to make excuses: Remind him to take you out. Tell him on Wednesday that he is taking you to dinner on Thursday (and do not cook Thursday). If he doesn't take you to eat, go yourself and leave him to fend for himself. Tell him on Saturday morning that he is taking you to the movies Saturday evening. If he doesn't take you, go with a friend or by yourself.

Suggest a gift for your anniversary, birthday, special occasion. If his response is that he gave you money so buy it yourself, hand him back his money (or buy yourself something, show him what "he" bought you, and thank him for it). If it is a day when gifts are mutually exchanged and you don't get a gift - don't give a gift (even though you already bought and wrapped it).

Train him out or turn him out. If you do exactly what he suggests and he is still unresponsive to you, then he just isn't that into you.

The longer this is allowed to continue it will become more difficult, even impossible, to turn around.

One last thing to think about - Men usually don't take their mothers out on dates, you dig what I'm laying down?

fantastic advice!

Many woman would love to trade places with her?...And be unhappy?

WTF?.....

No offense but this entire thread is basically a cry to work on communication in your relationship.

Don't just accept not knowing what's going on in your relationship by just counting your blessings and ignore everything else.

Talk to the guy. Unless it's all about the kids there's no point in being in a relationship just to be in a relationship without communication.

There's no point in being in a relationship just for the kids, either....

..sshhh.. back to the kitchen with you...lol

who is going dishes lol
hope you are feeling better...

I believe a lot of it.. comes down to gender roles..... we come from a generation.. that is slowly changing..
. but.. they're still needs to be responsibility..... I believe if the yard work is my responsibility.. then the housework is her responsibility....
. and I'm not saying.. you cannot help or share the work together.. I'm saying someone needs to be responsible.. at the end of the day.... so if the plants don't get water.. that is my fault..... if the house is not clean.. that is her fault.... maybe not fault but her responsibility.....

.. people have to be responsible..
. for certain parts of a relationship..yes.... I don't mind helping with the dishes or vacuum are dusting... but I don't want to feel.. like at the end of the day if I do not do it it does not get done.....

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I think it is shared and each couple decides how to divide it up

and you threw a couple kids in the mixs.... and your last worries or who's doing the dishes..lol.... it takes teamwork.. a partnership you might say..lol.... as long as everything gets done at the end of the day.. its all good..... but just remember it's your responsibility to make sure it gets done..lol

not HERS
THEIRS

no yours.. and by the way is the laundry done yet..?..lol..ohh. Snapple.

Yay!

There are times, when we all feel
undervalued and unappreciated for
our roles in life.

Nobody, is any more, or any less,
special than anyone else in that regard.


The key... Is communication and compromise,
before its too late.