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A near death experience will definitely do it!
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You are a true gem No1...
I hope you find someone worthy...who returns the favour...and takes good care of you... 
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Letting go, seems to be easy but very hard to do. It just implies that you really do felt love to that person but maybe that person cant give back the love you want. As time passes, human brains tend to forgot hurtful memories. But, I believe that although that person hurts me so much, still that person became part of my life,I would never erase that person. In learning to let go, its just the feelings that would go not the memories of him. We just need time to heal us, since we are just mere humans. God created us because He wants us to learn what truly love was. That is knowing what to sacrifice what's not destined for us.
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it's kind of a learned condition, to me... if you don't let go, how is that helping you? what kind of stupid problems will arise from not letting go?
you only hurt yourself by not letting go... by realizing these and a few other things makes it easier to let go instead of embarrassing yourself... |
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Edited by
no1phD
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Fri 03/13/15 09:44 AM
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Hmm.. perhaps foremost you are correct.... but my ex and I have really relationship built on more than just financial gain... divorce does not mean your Financial responsibilities end...
.... it means your emotional tie to that person ends.... you are no longer responsible for their happiness and well-being...... I suppose... look at it however you wish....lol... but when I assume responsibility.... I am responsible..... at the end of the day me.... and me alone... |
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You are a true gem No1... I hope you find someone worthy...who returns the favour...and takes good care of you...
and I do I have two boys who I hope will take care of me.. that is if I don't beat them too badly..lol..jk |
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Real love usually ends badly for the one who really loved.
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OK - the relationship/marriage is over - all done, nothing more. You are perfectly fine with the idea of never seeing them again. But have you 'let go' - and how do you really know if you have ?? Can you let go of the person and still be ticked off severely that they lied or cheated or whatever it was that led to the end??? If you still have some kind of feeling at all, even just a little disappointment, are you officially NOT in the 'Let Go' or 'Moved On' ranks ???? the only experience I have is in letting go because the feeling is not there,, and that means Im OVER it,,in all ways,,, |
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OK - the relationship/marriage is over - all done, nothing more. You are perfectly fine with the idea of never seeing them again. But have you 'let go' - and how do you really know if you have ?? Can you let go of the person and still be ticked off severely that they lied or cheated or whatever it was that led to the end??? If you still have some kind of feeling at all, even just a little disappointment, are you officially NOT in the 'Let Go' or 'Moved On' ranks ???? Here in the UK a woman has just won an appeal in the high courts for money from her ex=husband. They divorced in 1992 and went there separate ways. He went on to have a successful business that made him a multimillionaire, exceeding 100 millionGBP. She made a claim against him last year for 1.4 millionGBP which she lost, then by making an appeal to the high courts where she has won her claim. The judgement made was that the amount awarded would not be 1.4 million, but sufficient to buy her a 3 bedroom house so she has a comfortable place to live. Legal cases like this make me wonder if you can ever really 'move on'. |
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you are both on the same dating site talk about ((awkward))..
Ya think ?! 
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you are both on the same dating site talk about ((awkward))..
Ya think ?!
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A near death experience will definitely do it! I have to say Missy - this has been a near death experience 
but I get your point - happy you survived 
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you are both on the same dating site talk about ((awkward))..
Ya think ?!
.. I'm naive not deaf..lol.. ok and blind.. ...lol |
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I just now experienced something with this and came to the forums to spout/rant/read about it and came across this topic first. I think I'm "over" him, but then I see a pic and profile of him on the site. I don't "think" about him or us a lot anymore...I AM moving forward, but when you see a current pic of him AND he looks very nice and in new clothes, it made me cry and hurt. 
I HATE that this makes me feel this way...hurt, angry, crying  
I guess I'm NOT "over" him yet. 
((((((((Mel)))))))))
ahhhh no - I would say not yet - it is easier when you do not see them - that is for sure. That is what I am dreading - seeing him again Life is a struggle 
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I just now experienced something with this and came to the forums to spout/rant/read about it and came across this topic first. I think I'm "over" him, but then I see a pic and profile of him on the site. I don't "think" about him or us a lot anymore...I AM moving forward, but when you see a current pic of him AND he looks very nice and in new clothes, it made me cry and hurt.
I HATE that this makes me feel this way...hurt, angry, crying
I guess I'm NOT "over" him yet.
((((((((Mel)))))))))
ahhhh no - I would say not yet - it is easier when you do not see them - that is for sure. That is what I am dreading - seeing him again Life is a struggle
yes it is Foursure.....and Thank You
However, good news is...that little setback earlier today that had me unglued has now become a thing of the past. I realize that he is NO LONGER the man I once fell in love with and I'm over the little meltdown I had about seeing his face again. 
...Moving On.... 
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oh wow Mel --- tooooo coooool 
I love progress
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To me a person that has so much hate for another due to a breakup, has not gotten over that person. At times it takes a lot of me time and soul searching and some time to get there.
And you have to learn to forgive them.. This is really not for them it is for the one hurting. Hate and anger only eats at people and brings them down.. Forgiving someone does not mean you forgot what got you where you are. It just gives you the ability to move on. 
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To me a person that has so much hate for another due to a breakup, has not gotten over that person. At times it takes a lot of me time and soul searching and some time to get there. And you have to learn to forgive them.. This is really not for them it is for the one hurting. Hate and anger only eats at people and brings them down.. Forgiving someone does not mean you forgot what got you where you are. It just gives you the ability to move on.
Yes, I love progress too.
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OK - the relationship/marriage is over - all done, nothing more. You are perfectly fine with the idea of never seeing them again. But have you 'let go' - and how do you really know if you have ?? Can you let go of the person and still be ticked off severely that they lied or cheated or whatever it was that led to the end??? If you still have some kind of feeling at all, even just a little disappointment, are you officially NOT in the 'Let Go' or 'Moved On' ranks ???? I don't know am I ?? |
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Letting go, seems to be easy but very hard to do. It just implies that you really do felt love to that person but maybe that person cant give back the love you want. As time passes, human brains tend to forgot hurtful memories. But, I believe that although that person hurts me so much, still that person became part of my life,I would never erase that person. In learning to let go, its just the feelings that would go not the memories of him. We just need time to heal us, since we are just mere humans. God created us because He wants us to learn what truly love was. That is knowing what to sacrifice what's not destined for us. - letting go of the feelings but still having the memories- forgiven not forgotten Maybe we have to have something left behind - we tried to cut out the cancer but just a tiny bit still remains to keeps us alert and aware for the next time 
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