I agree. Yet, people do have strong preferences. For a man to prefer the woman to be home, may also be considered sexist

but its not a problem if the woman prefers to be home as well.

LOL,, yep, that would never happen. If you are at home you should be looking after home. Not just after yourself.

Right. He brings in his part. I also am not interested in doing 'everything else',,,

from 9-5 , or whatever, his office is his office and my workplace is my home

when he is 'off' , I am also 'off' and we can then be partners at the house


I am not interested in working outside AND inside the home all waking hours with a partner who only works from 9-5(or whatever their hours)

this leads me to wonder how you treat people in general. people treat us how we treat them.
when I go to the auto parts store, the guy always volunteers to carry my purchases to my car.
when I arrive anywhere with lots of items, whether at home, work or family gatherings, there are always many people willing to help.
when a guy was being intimidating to me as I arrived to work one day, 2 guys (both of them happily married) stepped up in case I needed help. because that's just what guys do when a lady needs help.

you do. it comes with the option of choosing a compatible partner

some will be fine with a toy, or a househusband, and others will not,,,



I think its probably harder for a man to find a partner that is ok with him 'just' working from home,, than it is for a woman to ,,,,

similary, its harder for women to find a partner that is ok with her 'just' having a job (and not also doing the domestic work)


,,but the options are there, we just have to communicate with each other and have patience,,,

Ok you live in a fairytale world...

Fairytale world?
I think you have never met men like me before...I do all those things you say men dont do and more .... Its about a partnership... As equals and nothing but.....

Why is it that a woman feels that a man should work and provide for the family?? Men can do everything that a woman does if he stays home...

That is the problem with many now days they only see what they can do or what they do around the house and with the kids.. Most men that I know today works full time goes home does the yard work and helps within the house with the kids and all.

The days when only the women cooked and cleaned have past. To many live in the past..

Just find someone with the same views as far as yard, housework, cleaning and taking care of the kids..

I know just as many men now days that raises their own kids by themselves they work they even clean at home and twice as better cooks then some women are...

If one only sees the negative in another that is all they will ever see..just saying....

It's not sexist if two incomes are needed to support the family...Jesus Estelle, are you a queen or a princess?...

I think if a man is providing and looking after his family he is happy, after all he is a man. I just think women sometimes well a lot of times want to take to much of the "power". If women want to do "everything" then what role will the man have. I've said it before and Ill say it again, roles should be maintained in a marriage otherwise you get blurred lines. plus dominant men are much more sexy than emasculated men.

just speaking for myself, I Prefer it because It complements my strengths,,,I am a strong nurturer and caretaker and I would love to have that 'job' be my main one and I also prefer for my children to have someone who is making them their primary job,, I again prefer that to be me based upon my strengths

to complement that, I prefer a man whose STRENGTH is on the financial end,, providing

there is no absolute, but in my experience, men are not generally as skilled in the 'soft and cuddly' stuff where kids are concerned and are much stronger in the manual and physical stuff,,

and men are much more judged by society by their career status, than their status as a father or husband

,,,,just my observation though,,

^^^This....

to you and me too but the in this gender confused society, we can have endless debates about what qualifies as 'manly' and what makes someone a man,,,,etc,,,

I don't care what society says I don't want my husband asking me before he drags me upstairs you know it true

I wonder what the female version of emasculated is, that's what I feel sexism does to women.

there is sexism where the man or men make the woman feel small and worth less than a man eg pinching bottom in office or degrading remarks wherever. but then there is the sexism that is the good kind like the bad fats and the good fats in food. this sexism serves to make the woman actually feel strong and secure in who she is. its when a man opens a door for you, says you look pretty, looks after you, and your children. tells you your cooking is amazing and tucks the kids in while your washing up because he wants to read to them because he's been at work all day. now im not saying every woman's life is like that exactly, what im saying is sometimes sexism isn't black and white.

All of a significant others views and beliefs should affect a relationship. I don't see a need to change another person just move along if it is something you just can't deal with.

is this you, redmist? do you have a male and female profile on here? if not, yall should get together and have some great conversations...

In life we all have a choice of how we approach things. we can have a positive outlook and strive to accomplish what we want or we can have a pity party and blame others about why something is missing in our life.

at home we grew up with sexist ideas which were simply called old fashioned. the woman was supposed to take care of the inside chores.
the man was supposed to garden, be carpenter, mechanic, etc.
or so they said. yet my step dad, being retired, was the one teaching me how to do the housework and cooking. at the same time, since I followed him around and asked a million questions, he taught me about woodwork and simple car repairs.
what we eventually learned the hard way is he was teaching us to be self sufficient.
there won't always be a significant other in your life.
when he died, my then eleven year old brother became the 'man of the house'. what does a boy know about being a husband, provider, or anything?

you said your profile states you're a mom.
going by my mother's example, a mom works and does her best to take care of her children.
the best gift my mom gave to us is to know how to do for ourselves. to not have to depend upon anyone for your existence.

in the context of a relationship, this means being able to have an equal partnership. liking a person for what you mutually share. enjoying their company. sharing experiences and still being your own person. not being defined by someone else.