at all in your opinion and how to change that if it's an issue?

do your world views affect your relationships?

does anyone's opinion matter until you heal from what has caused these questions within yourself?
holding on to the wrongs prevents one from moving on

Op.. can you elaborate on sexism..pl

it depends

if they have two different gender standards, yes
if not then no

,,what I mean is, if its 'sexist' to want the woman to care about a clean home and the man to provide, than its not a problem as long as BOTH parties agree to that same form of sexism

however, if one party things both should be doing the same things in the name of equality, it may cause a breakdown in the relationship

I could be said to be 'sexist, because I have a strong preference for the man to be a strong provider and to be able to nurture my family at home while taking care of home

,,,,if I met a man with that same preference, no problem but if the man felt strongly I HAD to have an earned income AS WELL as doing the above,, than it would be a big problem,,,

Hang on a minute, are you saying that you wouldn't be happy if you yourself went out to work, got home and cooked and cleaned, while your guy was on Mingle all day.
There is just no pleasing some ladies.

At least you would know where he is

It is sexist for a man to tell a woman to stay home or work, it should be her decision as a woman. Lot's of men don't want women to have choices.

What else does the man bring to the relationship or marriage? The woman does everything else and now we got sucked into providing income, too. I agree with you wholeheartedly. I expect the man to provide for the family we create together.

.. Wow.. crackalackin..lol..
I wish I had that option.... to work or stay at home... must be nice..lol

a broad generalization .
there are men who actually encourage women to grow in whatever their dreams are.
a person who is secure in who they are doesn't feel threatened by another person broadening their experience through work, study or hobbies.
when I told people I'm taking the test for a promotion at work, the first one to encourage me was the mingle man currently in my life.
when I said I'm signing up to play softball he said go get em slugger. and drove over a hundred miles to go cheer on my team.
when you have true friends, regardless of gender, you encourage each other in your endeavors

I'm not sure if the men are into the whole provider thing anymore. I feel them breaking away from this role. It would be ok I guess if they would start taking an interest in cleaning, shopping and cooking. I wonder where their interest lies, unless it's just a night of baby making (at least bring a bottle of wine guys). It's strange. I hope things get better in 20 years for my daughter.

I already do all of that stuff and bring the wine..lol

When you hitch up to the relationship wagon y'all gotta pull in the same direction...nobody should be riding on the wagon. I don't think gender matters.

Well don't worry, most men are like you and force women to do both so they won't get the option either...

ding dang sno.. nobody said anything to me about pulling a m.o.fing wagon..lol..... can't we just pool our resources and buy a motorized vehicle..lol..

... oh that just cuts deep..lol..
. saying most men are like me..no.no.
I am no one the one and only..... often replicated never duplicated...lol

Well it's true what I said, although I'm not positive about you, I am sure about most. Women now are made to be a man and go to work and come home and be a traditional woman and go to work again.

And guys think it's so funny when they see you come home carrying shopping you paid for and do all the dishes, cooking cleaning, while they come home and lounge like a traditional man, poor thing.

This is not working for me, sorry.

You might try teaching her what to desire and expect from men now so she can learn to be more discerning and appropriately assertive too regards...

your daughter will learn a lot by your example.
if you go through life hating all men, criticizing, being the victim; she too, will fear men, hate them and have difficulty forming relationships.

you criticized one of our guys here on this forum. on what basis do you form your opinion of him?
have you lived his life? are you there when he cares for his boys?
have you seen him disrespecting us women here on mingle? have you even taken the time to read his profile and know what he's about?
furthermore, on what basis do you say he's all men?

ouch...lol... maybe you do need a muslim man...

It says I'm a mother in my profile.