I was seeing someone and after a few dates it came time for the first kiss, it was horrible! I never called them again. For me kissing is the foundation :)

If someone does not kiss you the right way, it is your responsibility to show them how it's done properly!
If they still can't take a hint, but you like them in pretty much every other respect... there ARE other things to do than kiss.
On the lips.
On the face.
Do I really need to go on?

I disagree. We're not kids,the way that person kisses is natural to them and they have been happily kissing that way for years now. If i don't get light headed and weak at the knees with that first kiss,i am not going to want more,and i'm not going to insult someone by saying that their way of kissing is wrong.It's just not right for me...

First of all, that assumes that everyone on the planet is well-practiced at kissing, which I don't think is true. Second, it assumes that people can't learn to do things new ways, which I think is a disservice to their intelligence. Thirdly, it puts all the pressure on the other party, which I think is usually goes bad ways in a [romantic] relationship. This could be an issue of communication, and if you're choosing not to communicate when something bothers you or isn't pleasing to you, that's your own fault.
To draw a parallel to the BDSM thread, it's like not using your "safe word" even though you remember it.

i wouldn't want to be written off based on my kissing in-/abilities... then again, i wouldn't want to be judged on just any one particular aspect of who i am at all... but if that's how another person would see having a relationship with me is... then i'm probably better off not having a relationship with him in the first place...

To a certain extent i agree with you about communication David. But i am talking as a 50 year old man who would be sharing that first kiss with someone who has some life (and kissing) experience. Perhaps as a 20 something year old,what you said might apply more,but this is about a first kiss that will either make you think 'oh god',or 'oh shi@'. There's no avoiding one of those feelings until it happens,it's human nature...

Kissing is extremely important. Even at 20... I mean, I get if you stick around to see if it gets better, but even then you'd have to be pretty impressed by that individual's personality.

. puts on peach flavored chapstick.... pops a tic tac in his mouth.....lol..I agreed kissing is very important..
. holding hands is nice !.but there's something about kissing..mmm..
... And there are such a wide variety of kisses... the basic kiss hello... ie. moist lips but not to moist... no tongue at all... and it is a very short kiss.... fold with one or two...mmm.. followed with ..little pecks on the lips I missed you kisses....

... the are you thinking what I'm thinking kiss.... a little more moist than the Hello kiss.. now you can add a little tongue into this kiss.. and lean into this kiss this time.. I like to finish with a little bite on on their bottom lip... and then a slight sucking on their top lip... just to send a message are you thinking what I'm thinking....lol..

... and then there is... the intimate..
. deep hard love making kiss..mmmmm.... that lustful hungry..
... sloppy but not too sloppy... I can't get enough of you kiss....mmmmmmm..
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Seems to make it or break it with women. Lucky for me I have a high success rate, but have had a couple that didn't make pass the first kiss.

Wow, it took a few dates to get to the first kiss?? WTF??

The way a person kisses is what makes you want to come back for more. When a kiss turns you own it is enough to make you want more.

And I assure you if they don't know how to kiss by the time they are my age, they will never know...

You can always tell when a guy gets into the kissing just by the way he does kiss.

I once dated a guy who kissed like he was drilling for oil. Ugh! I tried to like him, he was a multi millionaire. He chased me for months and I avoided kissing him for months. I don't know how he put up with that? We didn't live in the same city or state but I couldn't take it any longer. You can't tell a guy his kissing is awful, you just can't.

I read in YM that the worst kisses are "do they look like they're drenched with a garden hose?" hmm...

I'm ready! I'm ready! *puckering up*

Ohh hell I need a cigarette after reading that, and I don't smoke anymore.....

Looks to me like I'm the only one who completely agrees with David, at least in principle. My thinking is, you are with someone new. That means things will not be the way you've always known them. You are just as new to that person as that person is to you. Think about this. We all know that sex with someone new for the first time usually isn't as good as it's going to get because you need to learn each other's likes, dislikes, the way around each other's bodies. Kissing is similar in concept. Dismissing someone based on the first kiss being other than perfect may end up in missing the right person for you. Remember, most of us have had failed relationships, and the only constant in all of them is the person in the mirror. If there were other factors than the kiss, that's fine. But if that's the only thing, yes, it's important, but that can be improved. And maybe, by following David's suggestion, you may be able to help that horrible kisser become the greatest kisser. Just a thought.

Kiss is like heaven..it makes your day beautiful...and make you remember that moment all day :) ;)

That's ^^^ what I said... Just not as specifically nor as eloquently...

Would be nice to have a kiss made just for each other and not for everyone... Hahaha

..hmm.. I only get one chance to make a good impression..
.. so the first time has to count..lol.. ... sorry I had to borrow your post.....