Hello everyone,

I have always been considered an introvert, or just plain weird by people who don't know what an introvert is. Some people find it down right bizarre for a person to voluntarily stay at home on the weekend even when there are "fun" events going on.

Once my own mother has told me that I should go out more and enjoy myself. What she doesn't understand is that I am enjoying myself when I stay home reading a book or watching a movie instead of going to the club. I do enjoy myself when I go out to eat in a restaurant with a friend or two (I prefer groups of 4 or less) instead of going to an overcrowded party.

Oddly enough, I prefer going to outdoor festivals that have thousands of people than to house parties with a few dozens of people because I am not forced to interact with anyone at the festival.

Please note, I don't have any type of severe social anxiety, I am just an introverted woman.



Fellow introverts, tell us what type of introvert you are.

Do your family and friends ever comment on the fact that you spend more time alone than the average person?

For myself it depends on the temperament of the crowd. Sports bars I could blend right in in most cases and be a part of the crowd. Movies, usually are ok if there aren't too many parentless children. I prefer to do both at home because I can eat my own food. Shopping around Xmas, v-day.... I don't care if the girl looks like Jenny McCarthy and is richer than Oprah it ain't happening. I have crowd anxiety, I know it and I can control it but that's a line that I will not cross.

Not anymore they don't. I like the word "Homebody"...
I have been like this since I was around 12. Not to good of a family environment led me to look out for myself at an early age. I did marry and raised 2 children and still have one at home with me. 2 of my kids are very social and 1 was a bit like me but he has done better the older he gets. I understand the festival reference too. I have got better with age and the realization I just don't care what anyone thinks anymore. You are not alone, there are millions out there.

I don't think introversion is anything to get "better" from. I'm ok with being an introvert and have been for as long as I can remember. I think more than others before reacting to anything. I am known to be very rational in decision making. My family and some of my friends even call me "the impossible advocate" because I like to rationalize everything and do not draw conclusions as fast as most people. I think this "quality" is due to the fact that I am an introvert and am used to to being in my head.

To me, introversion is not a handicap.

A crowd that in a way can conceal you within. I used to think that way and feel that way when I was younger but for me it has nothing to do with what people think about me. It's the lack of common courtesy and the parentless children. People do not raise kids like they used to. They're all over the place running into stuff knocking stuff over running into people. If I had done that when I was young.... I didn't because my parents thought me to act orderly in public and to have manners. If you can't raise kids don't have sex.
I know, I'm sorry... But you're definitely not alone. I read an entire set of encyclopedias for FUN. I read now for fun. I don't go to clubs I went to bars to dd for friends but that was about it other than restaurants.

Nice.

I've never been comfortable with 'introvert' because it implies shyness

I am not shy, but I do prefer the company of people I feel a trust with,, which is only my family at this point in life


Id rather spend time with myself than with one or even one dozen people with fake affronts and proper 'appearances' who I wouldn't be able to count on for a glass of water if I was starving


acquaintances are nice for their moments,, but it takes a lot for me to see a consistent trustworthy character.....

and my family also suggests I should 'get out' sometimes,,,,

I am an introvert. I am a very quiet, shy, reserved person who does not like people or social situations. I would rather be alone or do things by myself. I don't have any friends. I been this way most of my life. Due to my hormones I am needing and wanting sex sos it has made me want to look for one special man who will love me for me. I have had to reach out and talk more than I am willing to do otherwise sos I can achieve what I want.

I suppose I am an introvert - first borns usually are by the way-

I shy away from new ppl because of the ego stroking BS that is

involved - maybe I am just socially selective -

I also like festivals etc. because you just blend in and can watch
with ease.

When I am with my friends I am an extrovert - a happy - loud -
funny- idiot .......... go figure

I too. enjoy being in small groups..
.. usually groups of one or less..
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Extroverted introvert - love to be with people but need to recharge every now and then - alone. Time just for myself. Don�t answer phones, messages, nothing, especially when I feel low. But my friends already know that in a moment I�ll be back again

Like Seacoast, I am similar. Except my friends don't quite get it all the time that I need to recharge. I do answer the phone, text or messages, just they might not quite like the answer I give.

It seems to me that, if I truly am an introvert, I'm not going to go around telling people what kind of introvert I am.
He said, helpfully.

I'm fine with meeting new people and chatting with strangers (and apparently I just have "that kind of face", which means strangers chat with me even if I'm not in the mood), and people "Friend" me all the time. I just tend not to keep people unless we really get along, have similar interests, etc.
I don't feel the need to use services like FaceBook or MySpace or Skype with people all the time. My social needs are met by my few friends and family (I have a lower threshold for social interaction to be met), and what I lack there I've made up by flirting with strange women on the internet. (Or is that, "flirting strangely with women on the internet"?)

Well that gives me hope !


From reading all of the posts I wonder if a true introvert would even be on this kind of site ?

When I feel I need some introversion time it means I cut phone and computer...

the quiet kind...

I'm mostly introverted because that's my nature, but I can be extroverted in certain situations. The reason I prefer to stay home, however, is less because of I'm an introvert and more because of other reasons that I'm not going to discuss here. I used to prefer being out and about and I'm working on being comfortable with that again.

INTROVERT/TYPE: [INTJ];(introversion, intuition, thinking, judgment) is an initialism used in the publications of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). The MBTI assessment was developed from the work of prominent psychiatrist Carl G. Jung in his book Psychological Types. Jung proposed a psychological typology based on the theories of cognitive functions that he developed through his clinical observations.
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I'm very introverted upon meeting new people, I like to observe but the moment I feel comfortable, I jump right in. I've learned over the years to just be myself right away and because of this people have a difficult time believing that I'm shy by nature.
It does suck when the people around you don't understand why you prefer a book over a crowd but keep doing what makes you happy.