okay, its your ya' man again bringing you with the hot tea, Ladies my last forum was too heated so I'm keep it tame for you. Ladies, when you out on a date with your guy, at the restaurant dinner table do you pay or do you want him to court you the old skool & let him pay? Also when you dating or involved with us men, do you like nice guys or bad boys with attitude? Me, I'm a nice bad boy....lol, I mean, I'm romantic , caring, the whole gambit but I'm also have my own way of thinking & doing this for my girl. So, after you take a sip of this tea, give me your comments & opinions okay, P.S.- love my opinionated fans....keep talking!

I prefer nice guys with swag,,lol

I prefer assertive over passive

Me and my missus work as a team. I own my own business and earn more than my wife, as she's a nurse and on maternity leave just now. So i pay for most things at present. I would pay for everything, if my wife would let me, but she wouldn't, as she said she wants to contribute also by paying when we go out, etc. At the end of the day though anything i earn is for the household, not just for me!

do u like spanking..??

Assertive without being obnoxious
A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do, the right way of doing it

Assertive and nice. Passive seems as he has no interest - that makes me too to loose any interest. But also no macho man. In paying - it depends, I�m old school - in the beginning I do expect him to pay. Later I don�t care, but in the beginning - want to know what is in him. There was a guy once who was persuading me to go out with him, that I finally did. He was ordering for both. But at the end he was waiting for me to pay - I didn�t. Not even for myself. He payed and looked so shocked: All women pay for me. I just stared and asked him: What are you? Gigolo? And left him. So no, if I am to be with a man I need him to act as a man. Even my best friend always wants to pay for us both and I have to trick him, when I want to pay.

I prefer this.....

as-ser-tive .. adjective

: confident in behavior or style

Full Definition of ASSERTIVE

1.
: disposed to or characterized by bold or confident statements and behavior <an assertive leader>

Assertive.

A little of both..

I like slightly old fashioned, lighthearted, and a good sense of humor...and at least the first few dates I do hope more than expect...that the man foots the bill...its a good way to illustrate being a gentleman...( in my opinion..lol )...oh yeah...and flowers are a nice touch...tee hee...

How about a nice man who knows to be bad when the occasion calls for it?

I'd want a strong man, by which I mean a strong core, as I'm a strong woman (not the aggressive/outside kind of strong). But.. put me together with a pushover of a man, and I will push him over. Not because I want to, just an instinctive thing that happens automatically.
I need a man I can respect AND who respects me, or it isn't going to work.

Yes, I appreciate a man paying when I date. Part of the romancing and wooing thing, being treated as a woman, and I like that. I don't have the need to prove that I can pay for myself, I know I can, that's good enough for me.

there is a time and place for everything... including when a man should be assertive. Women know when this time is.. some men also know ;) ... some don't.

I'm old school through and through!
A man should know when to be assertive and when to be passive....there is a time for everything, and if you don't know when you should be that, then, it's tough!

Most girls (if not all) prefer assertive guys. Noone wants a "weak" man. You should be able to take control, that's how it's meant to be right, men leading and women following (to some extent).

Personally, I would be prefer that a guy picked up the bill, especially on the first date.. Make me feel loved, and appreciated..that you can take care if things were to go further.

This is interesting, I usually ask the lady's opinion upon doing sth together, i figured it's a taste and tact thing /:)
I guess it's not

This is interesting, I usually ask the lady's opinion upon doing sth together, i figured it's a taste and tact thing /:)
I guess it's not