I am looking for some honest answers, so I hope everyone can be true to the following questions...

Can you be in a committed relationship, without being married?

Also...

Is marriage the end result to falling in love?

Yes you can absolutely be in a committed relationship without the marriage certificate. It is the commitment shared not the document.

look at goldie and kurt and in my family my sister was with her man 17 yrs before they decided to marry

I think you can be in a committed relationship without marriage, and I don't think marriage is the end result of falling in love.
I personally would rather be in a long term committed relationship then get married and have it end after 6 months.
I have also fallen in love with several people that I shouldn't get married to.

I still believe in marriage.

Doesn't anyone else?

i know 2 people that i have known for yrs and one has been together over 25yrs and still havent been married and the other couple have been together i belive about 30.. whats the point of getting married after that time as in most states it claimed to be a common law marriage

I believe it is an amazing thing but u don't hve to really it's just a piece of paper

yeah Bay ... I do ... but it is the commitment that matters to me more than anything

Can you be in a committed relationship, without being married?

Also...

Is marriage the end result to falling in love?


Yes.

No.

Why do people treat marriage and commitment like it was separation of church and state??

It seems to me that a 'commitment' still leaves room for a cleaner 'out' if someone decides the relationship isn't working for them.

Marriage just seems a "bit" more commital than just 'commitment'.

Am I making sense? I am ranting...oh joy!

Well, i am in no hurry to be married by any means, i still haven't found the right woman to be in a committed relationship with, i have had a few friends, get divorced and within a year they are remarried. I really don't know what i am trying to say here lol, but i guess if you meet the right person, things will fall into place. Would i like to meet someone and see what happens, sure i would, but i guess the good lord will bless me someday and then i will move on from there. Until then, i'm having fun with my kiddies and friends that are near and dear to my heart, i guess in time it will be worked out.

because it is separation of Church and State Bay

Yes, people can be in a committed relationship without being married. Marriage is the terminal result of possessiveness, not love. It's really a legal property agreement involving the property owned by the two married people, and that includes their bodies.

i hae a friend of mine that i have known for 3yrs, and he got married in june but its not a legal marriage for they did the indian marriage vows. so he can walk out anytime as he has even thought about it...

yeah marriage is where we get into the "expectations" and sometimes they can be hard to work with. I don't think it's wrong to get married or not get married, but if you are going to get married, make sure you think first, "can this person meet my needs." I got married one time without considering the facts, and I won't do it again.

Artgurl!



I'm not ready to be 'progressive' yet.

I want to look back and know I spent 50+ good years with one good man!

I believe you can walk from a marriage and a committed relationship

is it just as hard?
maybe

does it take legal action?
marriage ...always
commitment...sometimes

I know people say marriage is more than a piece of paper, but can't you do the same things in a committed relationship...

I say yes...

I think you can totally be in a commited relationship with out being married.

Being married is not necesasarilly the end result, but I myself loved being married , Just not to the jerks i was married too.

I would do it again if I thought it was meant to be.
I also realize though there are no guarantees in that.

no guarantees....
that's what I was thinking
so why go through with marrying someone, to watch it end in divorce

possession

I never thatought about it that way, but I have heard people say their spouse belongs to them

Under the eyes of the Legal system, in a domestic partnership after a certain number of years, it is considered a marriage. Proving that is is the time spent with that person that matters not the paperwork.